Flirtin After Forty

I’m back after an unplanned two-week break filled with jello shots, favorite-food Thanksgiving, and a whole lot of rest. Things with J-Man are going so well it’s actually making me a little uncomfortable — apparently “safe and stable” is a new relationship skill I’m learning. And because the universe won’t let my life get too calm, the Colorado singles pages delivered absolute chaos: a man seeking...

This week, the universe threw me into a full-on cosmic spin cycle. Between opening a life-changing navigation center for the City of Aurora and navigating the Northern Lights energy, every man from my romantic archives decided to resurface — the one-date wonder, the post-divorce almost-relationship, even an ex’s ex-wife. Oh, and J-Man showed up for me in the sweetest way. It was emotional, bizarre...

I’m not stalking, I’m just researching — that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. This week I went down a LinkedIn hole, found out the lieutenant got married, and had one of those “holy sh*t” moments that makes you question everything. But don’t worry, I balance the heavy stuff with some of the most cringe-worthy singles posts you’ve ever heard — from men offering “stay pretty” allowances to guys d...

This week, I’m getting real about the moment I accidentally told one of J-Man’s friends I might love him — and then completely spiraled. I started questioning what “I love you” really means and why my instinct was to retreat the second I felt vulnerable. It’s a story about fear, honesty, and learning to stay open even when it feels uncomfortable. Plus: burr baskets, Venmo stalking, and why overthi...

You know it’s a full weekend when I meet the friends, get called by the ex’s name, and still end up fielding a drunk text from my former situationship. I’m navigating the highs of new-relationship milestones and the lows of late-night nonsense — all while reminding myself that boundaries aren’t ultimatums and that 1 a.m. is officially past my flirting hours.

From Boomers’ love letters to Gen Z’s video dates, I’m exploring how each generation finds connection — and what still matters most. Featuring a nod to Diane Keaton, a healthy relationship check-in, and a Denver edition of Love Is Blind gossip.

This week, I’m talking about that weird mix of joy and panic that hits when things start to feel too good to be true. From a dream breakup in Vegas to realizing I don’t have to follow anyone else’s rules for love or life, I’m learning what it means to build something healthy—my way. Oh, and just wait until you hear how my 13-year-old totally out-romanced me with a “boo basket.”

Sam’s late-night text proves some men never learn—if you can’t say sorry, don’t say anything. But this episode isn’t just about eye-roll moments. I also finish telling the hardest story I’ve carried: my time with the Lieutenant, the choices I made, and the assault that changed everything. It’s raw, it’s real, and it’s part of why I value the kindness I have in my life now.

This week, I’m gushing (yep, full on gushing) about my weekend getaway with J-Man. From bad coffee shop vibes in Aspen to laughter that made my face hurt, it was easy, authentic, and fun—and it ended with a big milestone. Spoiler alert: I officially have a boyfriend. Oh, and the world’s most expensive cowboy hat.

This episode swings from light to heavy: I share how J-Man and I turned a not-so-great day into a fun night (hello, nachos and late-night talks) by learning how to ask the right questions. Then I dive back into the story I promised—my time with “the Lieutenant.” Think poly dating, awkward girlfriend/wife dinners, and the slow realization of how easy it is to shrink yourself in toxic relationships....

This week I share two sides of my story: the joy of feeling truly seen in a new relationship, and the courage to finally speak about a painful chapter from my past. For the first time, I’m opening up about an abusive relationship that changed me—and how therapy, friendship, and green flags have helped me reclaim my power.

From launching a business straight from my Jamaica daydreams to introducing J-Man to the kids (yeah, I did that), I’m all about bold moves this week. Spoiler: things are going really freaking well. Oh, and if you think your dating life is messy, wait until you hear the rant from a guy who’s mad about septum piercings, tattoos, and independent women. Bless his heart.

This week I’m spilling the tea on belly flop parties, surprise costumes, and what it feels like to finally date someone who plans the trip (and buys the Starbucks). Plus, I share why sticking your tongue out in dating pics is an automatic “nope” and laugh through the infamous “no-go” first-date list.

This week I’m juggling school drop-offs, fresh starts, and the wild idea that love really is about slowing down and actually knowing someone. Plus, I share a few laughable (and cringey) confessions from men about what they find ‘unattractive’—spoiler alert: it’s ridiculous. Grab your coffee, your backpack, and your sense of humor for this one.

Fan mail made my week, a coworker crush popped up on Hinge, and my brunch date ended with a dog fight (literally). Add in a matchmaker pushing a “randoms only” guy, a dating app ego the size of Texas, and the awkward reality of dating someone who listens to this podcast… let’s just say, it’s been a week.

This week, I’m giving an update on my latest date—because of course there’s a twist. Turns out, someone my date used to see also has history with my ex... and now she’s got opinions. Not only that—she’s apparently on a mission to find me. Cool, cool, cool. Also sharing a few funny and oddly insightful things I’ve seen from ChatGPT lately (shoutout to Alex, my most loyal digital companion). Dating...

You know dating is messy when your date casually mentions his ex —who turns out to be your ex-husband’s current love interest. I cannot make this stuff up. In this episode, I break down the wildest “small world” moment I’ve had on a date—and give you an update on how things are going with my last matchmaking setup.

This week I’m raising a glass to my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary (yes, FIFTY!) and reflecting on what half a century of love looks like. Spoiler: it’s not all roses, but it is pretty inspiring. I’m also spilling the tea on my very first matchmaking date—did sparks fly? Did I Google him mid-dinner? Tune in for all the updates, awkward moments, and a little perspective on love at every age.

What do you do when dating apps start to feel like digital doom scrolling? You hand your phone to your friend and let her take the wheel. In this episode, I talk about my friend’s attempt at becoming my personal matchmaker—swiping, messaging, and maybe even setting me up with someone who isn’t holding a fish.

In this episode, I’m fresh off vacation and even fresher off a few dating disappointments. From married men in miserable marriages to the eternal mystery of why men keep holding fish in their dating profiles—I'm talking about all of it. If you’ve ever swiped, sighed, and thought, “Is this really it?”—this one’s for you. Let’s vent, laugh, and maybe cry (just a little). Because dating after 40? It’...

Curious about what really goes down at a sex club (besides the obvious)? In this episode, I pull back the velvet curtain and give you a no-holds-barred overview of what to expect—without actually participating (yet ). From the vibe and the rules to the rooms you definitely don’t want to accidentally wander into too soon, I break it all down with curiosity, humor, and just a hint of wide-eyed awe....

We’re not married anymore, but we’re still a family. In this episode, I reflect on a scary moment, how it brought clarity, and what it means to co-parent with grace and grit. It’s not always easy, but damn—sometimes it’s beautiful.

This week, I’m pulling back the covers—literally and figuratively—to talk about two loaded topics in today’s dating world: sneaky links and body count. (If you don’t know what those mean, don’t worry. I googled it so you don’t have to.) We’re diving into: What qualifies as a sneaky link (Is it just a late-night booty call with better branding?) Why the term “body count” needs to go back to action...

No prince, no magic meet-cutes — just me, two kids, and way too many churros. This week, I’m recapping our Disney trip: the highs (character hugs, kid smiles, and a few quiet moments of joy), the lows (meltdowns — theirs and maybe mine), and the real talk about what it’s like to solo parent through the chaos of the “Happiest Place on Earth.” Spoiler: I’m exhausted, my feet hurt, and I’ll be sleepi...

It’s time we talked about the things that really matter when it comes to dating — expectations, accountability, and yes, sometimes size. Let’s get honest about what we say we want, how we show up, and why it’s not just about what someone has , but what they do with it. From awkward conversations to setting standards, I’m breaking it down with a little humor, a little heart, and a lot of real talk.