FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

How many times have you read books, taken classes, and taken steps to change yourself or your relationship, but couldn’t quite get that change to last? Using the transtheoretical model of change, here is what you need to know in order to make the changes you desire in yourself and your relationship. Roadmap for Successful & Lasting Change: Identify where you are at on the transformation journe...

Are you ready to wake up from the nightmare of infidelity and betrayal? Do you want to feel calm, confident, and sexy again? Then join me for a Free 5-Day Spring Awakening Workshop, April 8-12, 12-12:30 MST via Zoom. Replays available. Sign up at www. SparkleAllSeason.com   Top take-a-ways: Plant the seeds for what you want to harvest in the next chapter of your life Find and experience calm and c...

Comparing yourself to the other woman, while normal and healthy in ways, can also become obsessive. Instead of being led down a path of hate, revenge, and bitterness, here’s how to understand what you are doing, why you are doing it, and learn to make a healthy, more accurate comparison between you and your level of integrity and self-respect and her, and her level of integrity and self-respect. T...

Post-betrayal transformation is NOT what you think it is! The other day I was driving to a venue I had never been to before. From the middle of a random parking lot, with no building in site, Google Maps announced, “you have arrived” to which I responded in frustration, “No, actually I have not!” Although I eventually found my way to the proper venue, it made me think about the glorious moments of...

Defensiveness & Blame – Two Toxic Behaviors that Prevent Healing Defensiveness and blame are two toxic behaviors that both the betraying partner and the betrayed partner can easily slip into. This show, which is geared for both the betrayed partner and the betrayed, will help you both understand what’s at the root of these behaviors and most importantly, how to stop so you can move towards und...

This show is for the betraying partner who wants to understand themselves, figure out what led to the affair, and support their partner in healing so they can forgive and heal both themselves and the marriage. Want a copy of Shawn's guide to affair recovery for the Betraying Partner? Email lora@loracheadle.com and it will be sent to you! Lora’s husband courageously shares his perspective on affair...

While there are many great books or trainings on couple’s communication, one of the most empowering things you can learn how to do as the betrayed partner is learn how to communicate clearly and advocate on your own behalf. This is especially true for women who are often told to “keep it down, be nice,” or “keep the peace.” Top take-a-ways: Gaining clarity on the purpose of your communication, wha...

Self-love is not just self-care. Self-love is the ability to be comfortable with yourself and to develop the habit of asking yourself what you need and fulfilling your needs consistently. While you might believe that self-love is optional, or something that you will develop one day when, unless you love yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to love you. Nobody can love you any more than you love...

Understanding Trauma – What it is & Why it Matters Everybody seems to be talking about trauma and triggers, but what does “being traumatized” or “experiencing a trigger” really mean? Having a bad day, feeling upset or uncomfortable is not trauma. Experiencing something that renders you unable to function the way you previously functioned is. Trauma is not linear or logical and is stored in the...

If your partner cheats, the assumption is you’ll leave. Others trying to support you will often say things like “take him for all he’s worth!” or “make him pay!” Perhaps in the past you’ve even claimed that “if he ever cheats, I’m outta here!” The decision seems so clear – until you’ve been cheated on. In reality, there’s more drama, emotion, and pain to contend with than you ever anticipated, and...

Betrayal, as painful as it is, can serve as a profound revelation about oneself. Betrayal not only exposes the truth about the person who betrayed us but also unveils deep-seated wounds within us. While betrayal hurts, it doesn’t damage our core self. When we delve into the idea that external actions, no matter how hurtful, cannot change the essence of who we are, we heal. For real. Taking respons...

Healing from betrayal does not have to be hard. When you are clear about what being on the other side of betrayal looks like, it’s easier to get yourself there – to figure out which steps you need to take and what kind of help you need. This is the story of my recovery journey, what I did, what made that journey easier and quicker, and what you can do to mend your broken heart, shattered soul, and...

Let’s break down the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater. How do you know when is it true and when is it not true? What are the signs that your partner will or will not cheat again? Is there anything you can do to prevent your partner from cheating again? Can people really change? What if they don’t want to change? How would it feel for you to be labeled as the worst thing you had ever done?...

Let’s talk about anger after infidelity and betrayal. How much is too much? When are you wallowing in anger and when are you justifiably angry? What does it mean when you “bash your partner?” Is it possible to be both positive and forward leaning while also being angry? What about the whole concept of “female anger?” What if you don’t know how to be angry because you spent your whole life being a...

Dreaming big is great, but it doesn’t work. When you dream too big, you pinch off what’s available and accessible for you in the moment. It cuts you off from healing, from identifying what’s blocking you right now, and it makes you feel discouraged and incapable. Instead, Learn the three keys to successful manifestation, whether you are manifesting the ability to get through the day without crying...

Sure, self- care is a great way to recover after infidelity or betrayal, but to be your best, to feel good, live fully, and have the energy to connect or take care of others, you must take care of yourself first! Here are ideas on how to do that. Top take-a-ways Developing the habit of self-care, feeling good, and asking yourself what you want. Investing in yourself as a way to stay accountable to...

Are you worried about navigating the holiday season after infidelity or betrayal? These six tips will help you navigate the season with ease, so you can find some joy, connection, and grace despite the stress of changing or uncertain times. BONUS! Metaphysical interpretation of the Christmas story and the Virgin Mary and what you can learn about birthing a blessing from a burden. Top take-a-ways P...

While most everyone says they want inner peace, very few know how to achieve it. Learning how to develop the skills and habits necessary to find and reclaim inner peace is essential. Especially during this time of year and this painful season of life. In this episode Lora will walk you through the prerequisites necessary to finding peace and will give you practical strategies, daily practices, and...

What do you tell your kids about infidelity? What if the affair partner is going to be involved in your children’s life? How do you explain your emotions to your child? How do you pull it together enough to parent when your heart is broken and your life is falling apart? Dr. Lynyetta Willis, a psychologist with a background in trauma and infidelity, is here to help you be the best parent you can t...

This is the meditation that I did at the end of a Holiday Wellness Training. Use it whenever you are feeling let down, disappointed, or overwhelmed. It will help you to find your center, re-balance your expectations, and feel better fast. It's only 8 minutes, so no matter how stressed you are, there's always time!

Infidelity and betrayal are hard enough without the added stigma and shame of being “the betrayed partner” or being married to “a cheating man.” In this episode we will dispelling the stereotypes, judgments, and assumptions surrounding infidelity so you can stand solid in your truth, avoid judgment from self or others, and move forward with healing. Top take-a-ways Coming to terms with your person...

In this episode, we’ll explore the transformative power of positivity and the importance of maintaining hope in the face of adversity. We’ll uncover how negative thinking can hold us back and how embracing a mindset of gratitude and hope can lead to incredible growth and healing, especially after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. I’ll also share insights on how to navigate the fear of your part...

Finding our about your partner’s infidelity is bad enough, but with taboo topics such as this there is often an added layer of concern. What if you tell and people cut you and your partner off? What if people blame you? What if you don’t do what others “expect” and they are mad? This show navigates some of the considerations around who to tell, why, and how. Top take-a-ways Preparing to share the...

Learning to take care of yourself and get your own needs met is a skill that many of us lack. If you have ever felt a lack of clarity over what you want or how to get it, then this show is for you. While learning to advocate on your own behalf is important, it is especially important after infidelity or betrayal. This show will show you how to get your needs met without being aggressive or a push-...

Are you betraying yourself? Many women are taught to be “good girls,” to please others, conform to standards, and to perform up to somebody else’s standards. But living like this is a betrayal of self. Unless we know ourselves, and can confidently show ourselves, we risk losing ourselves. Top take-a-ways What it means to “give up too much of yourself” or to self-betray. The covert reasons why we t...