Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

I talk to Judi Ketteler, author of the new book "Would I Lie to You?", about how to be real with your kids without hurting their feelings--since we're all stressed out, it's easy to blurt out things you wish you hadn't said. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t get to say how the people you love handle their stress. You do get to talk with them about how they’re handling their stress, but you don’t get to tell them how to do it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Corona shaming is real! We are all judging each other like crazy right now. So let’s take a little look-see at what judgment is all about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m doing things a little bit differently in that I’m offering a re-cap of what we talked about this week. My hope is that it will help you integrate the stuff we covered and take it all out for a spin over the weekend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s impossible to make plans these days. And the past already feels like a distant memory. Where does that leave us? Right here, right now. And for many of us, that is someplace we are not at all used to being. That’s the discomfort. The gift is that now is really the only place we ever can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You probably think you know what to do when you’re stressed. But the things we typically do to calm ourselves down often only make our stress worse. That’s because what we need in times of duress is likely to be what we don’t usually do, and it’s only by embracing these things that brings us back into BALANCE. Pretty trippy, huh? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s big idea is taking an objective, non-judgmental, genuinely curious look at the things we are using to numb out now. Whatever it is, I’m not here to tell you not to do it. I’m just saying, be mindful. Make it a choice. Why? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are on an Emotional Roller Coaster right now. This a straight up fact. And what do roller coasters have? Highs, and lows. Accepting that this is where we are, and that our feelings are going to be all over the place, will help us deal with all the feels. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder why you do the things you do? Or why you don’t do the things you don’t do? Your subconscious knows quite a lot about what your unwritten rules (that I call pink elephants--more on that in the episode) are, but you have to do a little digging to get the conscious mind to understand what’s really going on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have different things that stress us out. But what we all have in common is that we all have buttons and they all get pushed. When you know more about your buttons, you don’t get as blindsided when they get pushed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have been practicing yoga for 25 years. And pretty much every time I do it, I try to talk myself out of it. Why do we do this to ourselves?? Let's find out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for my partnered up listeners, and while I’m talking about the difference between masculine and feminine energies, I believe the advice contained here applies to couples of all types. But first: How’s it going, being quarantined with your partner? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you noticed how “quiet” it is outside? How you can hear what feels like hundreds of birds? Now that the outside world has quieted down, maybe you’ve noticed how loud it is inside your own mind. Let's make your inner world a little more like the outer world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re waiting for a feeling of calm to descend on you, like a bird on your shoulder, you’re going to be waiting a long time. You’ve got to invite it in, and a really powerful way to do that is to create some space in your home for relaxation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sitting is bad for you. We know this. And yet being confined to your home means it’s easier than ever to spend the vast majority of your day sitting. Stretching helps combat the physical toll that sitting takes on you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The news cycle has our attention in a death grip. You can change your mind about how you’re doing and what’s going to happen three times every hour. You need access to your inner wisdom more than ever in this high stakes crisis. Here’s how to cultivate it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stress is mental but it’s also physiological. There are many different supplements that can help your physiology be able to handle stress better. Today I’m sharing the two—just two---that my years of writing both magazine articles and books about health have taught me to always have on hand and prioritize during times of stress. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In times of high stress—and right now is undeniably one of those times—your nervous system is on alert, like a dog with its ears pricked up. Unless you do something to proactively counterbalance it, your nervous system will stay hyper stimulated. And when you’re on high alert like that, it’s hard to think straight. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We need friends now more than ever—they help us laugh, they give us space to share our fears, and they remind us of who we are when we’re not being someone’s mom or wife or employee. In short, they help you get your crazy out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With all of us working remotely in not necessarily ergonomic conditions, and obsessively scrolling through social media, looking at our screens is wrecking our posture. In today’s episode I’m sharing one thing you can do to combat the toll all this hunching and scrolling and watching is taking on your back. And that thing has to do with your butt. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....

Kids need a space to share their concerns. They also need help not staying focused on the scary stuff. Here’s a ritual you can do to help your kids process their feelings a bit while still being grateful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Closing open loops helps give you a sense of much-needed sense of control right about now; it also helps you get clarity and move forward, even when there are so many things that remain out of your control. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My tip for you today is in the form of a phrase that I find helpful whenever I notice that I am starting to feel anxious about what’s going to happen next. And that phrase is, ‘More will be revealed.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know that doing household chores can feel like a grind. But here’s the thing: Chores provide us many many wonderful things that we need now more than ever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Now is an opportunity to put something back into our lives that maybe had gotten squeezed out before-- and that’s checking in more often with people. It’s not just something to do--it’s how we get through this, together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices