Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

Today’s big idea is, admittedly, pretty big--which is, how do we use social media consciously? Both for our own health and wellbeing and the health and wellbeing of the country at large. I start this big hairy discussion by telling you about a jumpsuit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

While I am a huge fan of choosing how you’ll think about things and looking for opportunity wrapped inside any challenge, there is also a downside to optimism. And that is that it can be delusional at best, and even harmful at worst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can tell yourself that absolutely everything is horrible and focus on what’s stressing you out. Or you can take some care in deciding how you’re going to think about it and choose a more empowering view. This is called reframing, and knowing how to do it, and then doing it, is a key part of not getting worn down by life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leisure isn’t something we tend to value. But pursuing what my husband calls "leisure skills" is crucial for warding off burnout because it helps you be in-- and stay in--the moment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something each of us can do to make it so that we don’t get as far as burnout is to let some stuff go. (I feel the need to tell you that I really want to say s-h-i-t right now but I’ve been hearing from a lot of folks lately who listen with their kids so I will keep it clean!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many things you can do to keep yourself from crossing over in to burnout, which I will get into in the rest of the episodes for this week. But before we jump into solutions, I want to talk about what burnout is and what it's NOT, which is a personal failing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bestselling author of "Difficult Conversations" and 20-year member of the Negotiation Project at Harvard Sheila Heen comes on to share some pointers on how to have these tough talks--including those that involve calling out or calling in racism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm giving you four phrases to keep in your back pocket for when you get into difficult conversations/disagreements with folks that will help steer you away from getting into an "I'm right," "No, I’m right?" dynamic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is especially for all my fellow conflict avoiders. And the big idea I want to explore today is that each of us has influence. And when we avoid controversial subjects because we’re afraid of getting into ig, we violate one of the tenets of being a better person, which is to use your power for good. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s a principle we can grasp onto that will help us navigate tough discussions, and that is that it is impossible for everyone to be right. So stop trying to prove your point. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You used to more or less be able to decide when you wanted to wade into a potentially heated conversation. Now you can stumble into them multiple times a day. What's a person who's trying to be a better person to do? Face them head on, or keep the peace? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Doing the things that help you stay strong isn’t an all or nothing proposition. And when you can’t do a lot, doing a little is a great second place option. (Featuring many listener-submitted things to do that help you keep going.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The way you think about the things that are requiring you to develop your stamina has an awful lot to do with how much you are able to take. To increase your wherewithal, you've got to increase your tolerance for discomfort. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To help us all think about how to go about cultivating more grit I wanted to talk to a pro, so I reached out to Shannon Huffman Polson, the youngest woman ever to climb Mt. McKinley, one of the first women to be trained to fly an Apache helicopter during her time serving in the Army and author of The Grit Factor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you are living through a challenging time, you’ve got to let some things slide. And because they help refill your well, you really don’t want those things to be your self-care. So… what gives? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The things that are weighing heavy on your mind and your heart are also detracting from your stamina. And Lord knows, there are so many of them right now, particularly in the realm of interpersonal interactions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thinking about how you’ll think about what you’re going through today in 10, 20, or even 50 years really helps problems feel smaller, and when your problems feel less daunting, it’s easier to keep going. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Building in some white space into your life will help you have more stamina for when things are busy, and help you have less stress when they aren’t. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are lots of different ways to build your stamina, from adjusting your mindset to getting good sleep to eating the foods the fuel you up instead of deplete you. That’s why today I’m talking with the Queen of All Things Nutrition, Mary Sheila Gonella of Occidental Nutrition in Northern California. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every challenge has an opportunity wrapped up inside it. Even the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad challenges, like, say, a global pandemic. And one of those opportunities now is to strengthen and hone our ‘keep going’ muscles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Giving your days a basic rhythm will help ground you and make sure you’re doing the things that sustain you without having to spend a lot of effort on having to find the time or the motivation to do them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m talking with fitness expert and author Ellen Barrett about how to pump up your own happiness and give your stress a release valve by moving your body--not by pounding out a workout, but by enjoying some energy-raising movement. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Complaining, while tempting, and human, only heightens tension rather than defuses it. Here's what you can do instead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are certain things that you just don’t want to do if your goal is to de-fuse tension. And we all do them. So let's take a look at them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tone matters. It has always mattered, but it matters now more than ever. (And it's what helped me not get into a fight with a stranger in the coffee bean aisle.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices