Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

Have you ever gotten home from vacation and felt… sad? Out of it? Just not like yourself? That very real phenomenon is what we’re talking about today. Both why it happens, and what you can do about it.  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raise your hand if you’ve ever gotten home from a vacation and felt like you needed to check into a detox facility. Or, as the saying goes, you needed a vacation to recover from your vacation. Today, we’re talking about how to have plenty of fun when you’re away without overindulging to the point that you feel like crap.  My interview with Ashley Whillans on overcoming time poverty Interview with...

Vacation is fun to think about, but less fun to pack for. I just got back from our first-ever two-week vacation and feel, for the first time, that I really nailed the packing. So I’m sharing the packing strategy I used with you! Here are those categories: Exercise, lounging, dressing up, weather, activities, everyday, toiletries, entertainment This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code B...

How often do you think about how your life has been going up to this point? Not very often, right? I’ve got an exercise for you today that can help you get a little objectivity and clarity on who you are and what you’ve done that’s also just a fun thought experiment, and that is to think about what the title of your memoir would be.  Those prompts again are: A specific incident or place that has s...

There’s just something about how you say stuff to another person that can come straight off the truth, like a wind that comes down a mountain. You’re not overthinking, you’re just talking and boom, there it is.  Sometimes honestly I don’t really know what I think about something until I talk to someone about it. I’m a big believer in verbal processing.  Today I’m sharing 3 ways to get your verbal...

When you can tell that you’re not thinking clearly about something it can be so frustrating! So you just try to think harder and that really doesn’t get you anywhere.  Here’s what I’ve learned–it’s not trying to think the same thing, just harder, that helps you think more clearly. It’s thinking differently. Which…how do you do that exactly?  I’ve got 2 questions to ask yourself that help you do ju...

There is a unique kind of control that a lot of mothers–myself included–display. It's called maternal gatekeeping, where we think no one else (including our partners in parenting) is as good a caretaker as we are. And while it’s understandable why we seek this level of control, it’s also not helping anyone. So let’s see what we can do to loosen our grip. Here’s that Ohio State University study I m...

Expectations are a real bugger. They make us feel that if things don't happen the way we think they will, there's something wrong with us. But of course, things rarely happen the way we think they will. So how can we start to let those buggers go? Especially when we're not always aware that we have them in the first place. I’ve got a really simple but really powerful mantra for you.  This episode...

Sometimes there are things that you feel like you've let go, or that you should have let go already, when in truth it still feels like they’re clinging to you, like cigarette smoke gets in your hair and you can smell it the next morning, if you’re old enough to remember going to restaurants and bars where smoking was permitted.  Here are three practices you can do in those instances to wash that s...

There are many obstacles to creating and assimilating new habits that help us become better people. I mean, of course, otherwise we would all be walking around as the best possible version of ourselves and wouldn’t that be grand? Here's how to deal with one of the biggest obstacles: backsliding. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more L...

Today I’m sharing something that can help you stay on track with your efforts to start a new habit. Best of all, this tip takes about five seconds to do!! It harnesses the universal truth that what you focus on grows, and helps you pay attention to your success more than your lapses.  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more a...

Let’s say you’re trying to build a habit of spending 10 minutes a night putting things away and restoring some amount of order to your home. It’s easy to think of that as just a chore, or a box to tick, which is not all that motivating. It’s like eating your lima beans or something else that you hate that you are trying teach yourself to endure.  But when you raise your awareness of how those 10 m...

Trying to become better is not a reason for feeling bad about yourself. You will mess up. You will backslide. You will completely forget. And it is OK. All you need to do is simply start again. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s big idea is that because habits are so unconscious and so well-worn, it can take a really big dose of motivation to get you to take action and then to sustain that action. The good news is that I’m going to share a great motivator with you. The bad news is that it is not all that pleasant. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more...

Habits are like icebergs--you can perceive just the tip of them, when actually most of them exist underneath the surface of your awareness. You can’t just throw some dirt and some grass seed on the tip of an iceberg and turn it into a meadow--it’s still gonna be a mountain of ice that runs deep. You need to see what's under the surface to truly change it. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use...

Knowing what’s on your “don’t list” will help shore up your boundaries, and that helps you walk a little taller and keeps any bad behavior from taking away from your well-being. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Drawing boundaries might feel limiting, but corralling your energy is, paradoxically, SUPER freeing. Then you don’t have to expend time or energy wrapped up in drama that isn’t yours, or deciding when you should get involved, or figuring out how to scale back.  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...

[I’m replaying some of my best stuff while I take the summer off to decompress. This week’s episodes on boundaries are something we all need reminders of because unfortunately, boundaries are not ‘set it and forget it’!] There are two types of boundaries, and we tend to only think about one of them, which means you could be neglecting an important way of keeping yourself in a good place. Which one...

Here it is–my third-least listened to episode ever. It’s about how to stay open to constructive feedback, and why you want to. I mean, this is a true strength–but perhaps not something that’s typically top of mind for most of us (hence, it’s position way down at the bottom of the downloads).  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Lear...

This week I’m replaying the three episodes that have gotten the fewest listens since they first launched. These are some really early episodes, and frankly, they’re kinda preachy! I think I had some stuff to get off my chest! Here’s the original episode description: “Surely there are some places in this world where you don’t need an omnipotent GPS voice to get you there. I mean, what happens when...

As I was browsing for old episodes to re-play while I take a hiatus for the rest of the summer, I figured it was only fair that I play the least popular episodes, and not just the big winners. So this week I’m replaying the three episodes that have gotten the fewest listens since they first launched. Do they deserve their spot at the bottom of the list? Give ‘em a listen and decide for yourself! H...

This week during the great hiatus of 2023 (for this podcast, anyway, although if there’s something you can take a break from, I support you!), I’m replaying the three episodes with the most listens. Today’s is about something that may seem trivial that actually has the potential to have a very big impact on your community at large. And that is to have more conversations with the people you know ab...

This week during the great hiatus of 2023 (for this podcast, anyway, although if there’s something you can take a break from, I support you!), I’m replaying the three episodes with the most listens. Today’s is a very close second in terms of overall listens to the Stop Being Nice episode I re-ran on Monday.  You've heard the advice to put on your own oxygen mask first, and that you can't give from...

This week during the great hiatus of 2023 (for this podcast, anyway, although if there’s something you can take a break from, I support you!), I’m replaying the three episodes with the most listens. Today’s is from the last week of 2021, when my friend Terri Trespicio, author of the book Unfollow Your Passion, was my co-host for the week and shared several anti-resolutions for the year ahead.  Thi...

Although the bills take up a big part of our financial thinking, your highest money priority is NOT to make sure that your bills are paid. It’s to make sure that YOU are paid–so that you have money for more than just your bills. You have it for goals, your dreams, and your freedom. And how you do that is today’s money mantra. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20%...