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Send us Fan Mail  “... our most constant relationships - like marriage, require our most constant deposits.” This week we take a pause from learning more about another Habit from 7 habits of highly effective people as I share a concept that is important for the remaining 3 habits.  It is the metaphor of the emotional bank account.  We build trust with others as we make deposits like kindness, hone...

Send us Fan Mail “Manage from the left; lead from the right”   This week, I go over Habit 3 - put first things first from 7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey.  Habit 3 really gets into how you can practically put your two other habits into practice.  This Habit is about self-management which is a lot easier when you have your own mission statement and philosophy to follow. Ther...

Send us Fan Mail  “If you were at your own funeral, what would you want people to say?” Habit two, from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, is to begin with the end in mind.  Like picturing what your family or friend might say at your funeral. Stephen R. Covey helps to explain this concept by also explaining about everything having two creations, a mental and a physical.  I expla...

Send us Fan Mail   “Response - ability” the ability to choose your response. This week I talk about habit 1 - to be proactive from the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey .  Being proactive has many different facets.  First I cover the unique human capability to have self-awareness.  Then thanks to the work of Victor Frankl the idea that between stimulus and response we ha...

Send us Fan Mail  “We saw our natural role to affirm, enjoy, and value him.”   This summer I am going to be discussing the best selling book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. In this first part of the 8 part series I share the beginning of the book, or part I.  Mr. Covey’s explanation of the need for understanding paradigms which he can refer to as a map.  How we see the wo...

Send us Fan Mail “It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody.”  This week I am exploring the idea or outlook of abundance.  I have loved learning more deeply about this topic.  So in the podcast I share a few different points on this outlook.  First is that God created this world with plenty and more to spare.  The second is to think about moving beyond gra...

Send us Fan Mail " At some point in a story our brain waves can connect together.”  Who doesn’t love a good story?  I gave a talk in church and spoke about gathering to tell stories and wanted to really figure out why storytelling can be so compelling. And what I found out related back to my episode about my singing group(ep.91), a good story can release the same hormones, oxytocin and dopami...

Send us Fan Mail It's been a busy week especially as we welcomed my daughter home.  So this week I don't have a new episode but it is looking back to episode 20 all about Gratitude.  This is the episode that inspired me to keep a gratitude journal which I have now been doing ever since July of 2020.  So you will here about my favorite book which helped me think about Gratitude helping yo...

Send us Fan Mail “Don’t tell them that they have lost their purpose.”   I am so excited my daughter is coming home from her 18 month mission.  She has been teaching and serving full time for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  This episode is really mostly advice for me to help prepare as we welcome her home. First I share a few of the things that I am worried about.  Then I tell you...

Send us Fan Mail “Singing bonds you  more than any other group.  It acts as an ice breaker and somehow can connect you faster than other types of activity.” For this episode I share a little bit about my journey into getting into my acapella group in college and what that meant for really the rest of my life.  It was also delightful to discover that there was research behind the feelings of closen...

Send us Fan Mail “Feel free to mishandle”  This message would be something you can put on a moving box of something that is antifragile.  In this episode I explore the term of antifragile.  I also share a few things I learned from the book named after the term Antifragile, things that gain from disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb.  I talk about things like nature and our muscles being antifragile. ...

Send us Fan Mail For how shall I go up to my father, and the lad be not with me?  Happy Good Friday.  In this episode I share a quick Easter Message about two things, both of which come from the Old Testament.  The first idea is from the quote which is from Genesis 44:34 where Judah is trying to take the place of Benjamin in the Story of Joseph in Egypt.  I also share a new term I learned about ca...

Send us Fan Mail  “If something can be changed, work to change it. If it cannot, why worry, be upset, and complain?”   Complaining has been especially easy this past two years with all of the hard things that have been happening in the world.  (I mean gas prices lately, ugh?!?!)  In this episode I take a look at the why behind the complaining.  Then explore a little bit of what that says about us....

Send us Fan Mail “Go see the washing of the lions.”   Happy April Fools’ Day!  I am going to share a little bit of the history of where this tradition is thought to have originated.  I talk about some old stories from back in the 1500s and 1600s of what people used to do.  I am also going to give you a few ideas for the day.  Now I know this comes out on April Fools’ day but maybe you can squeeze...

Send us Fan Mail “By managing what we want instead of what we have, we give ourselves a chance to lead more satisfied lives.”   The reverse bucket list is a term that has at least two meanings, and in the episode I will explain both of them but mostly the one given by Arthur Brooks, who is an author and social scientist.  In the episode I share how learning to manage your wants can increase your s...

Send us Fan Mail “ ... a pet peeve is an annoyance that’s nurtured like a pet — it's something someone can never resist complaining about.”   This week’s topic came from me noticing a pet peeve of my own, hand towels not getting hung back on their hook.  I wanted to figure out the reason behind these little but big annoyances.  I share some of the things I found.  I talk about a few of the re...

Send us Fan Mail “...at its core, procrastination is about emotions, not productivity.”  Procrastination is what I am talking about today and boy do I need to figure this out.  The most helpful thing I learned and shared in this episode is that procrastination is more about avoiding unpleasant emotions that come up when you think about doing a certain task.  I share how this relates to social anxi...

Send us Fan Mail “Friendship is a process not a ready made discovery.”  This episode will finish the discussion of the Book by Ellen Hendriksen, Ph. D. How to be your - quiet your inner critic and rise above social anxiety.  I  break down the process of making friends which Dr. Hendriksen describes in her book.   I begin by sharing the idea of repetition. Then go on with the process of disclosure....

Send us Fan Mail  “You have to earn being comfortable.”   This week I will be talking more about the Book - How to be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen and a lot of it will be about facing our fears.  There are some great stories of someone who talked to 10,000 strangers in New York City or another person’s 100 days of rejection.  I share this idea of safety behaviors that actually could be making it h...

Send us Fan Mail " The inner critic only wants what’s best for you, but lets you know in an ineffective way.  So reason with it.  Tell it how strong you are.  And remind it that kindness trumps criticism.”  In this episode I share some tools from the book by Ellen Hendriksen, Ph. D., How to Be Yourself - quiet your inner critic and rise above social anxiety.   This is part 1 in a 2 part serie...

Send us Fan Mail “Even just showing up for 2 minutes make a vote towards who you want to become.“   In this episode I share a few of my thoughts on the progress I am making with some of the things that I learned from the Atomic habits and how some of that knowledge and advice has affected the goals and things I  want to do and become.  I report on a  few things that I am doing well and some that I...

Send us Fan Mail “The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.”  In this episode I talk about what I am calling the 4Cs - create, contribute, cultivate and consume.  I share this new theory of mine in regards to helping my children be more aware of how they spend their time, but it really relates to everyone.   I also mention how long it takes to create different things,...

Send us Fan Mail “Establish a system of review and reflection.”  This is my last installment sharing my takeaways from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear.  I finish off by sharing a few things that James Clear says can be not so good about habits. I talk about some of the downsides of habits, like getting stuck in a rut, getting off course, or having your fundamentals become lazy which can put...

Send us Fan Mail “Why am I not doing the things I say I want to do?”  In this episode I continue talking about the Book Atomic Habits by James Clear.  I share the 4 laws of habit change as well as my favorite tips from each one.   These laws help you start to understand why it might be hard for you to follow through on a habit or goal that you want to start or stop.  They go right along with the h...

Send us Fan Mail   “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”   Happy New Year all and I am so glad to be back after a few weeks break.  The episode today I am going to share some thoughts from James Clear’s book Atomic Habits on identity.  I share how identifying with your goal or habit you want to start or even stop can help you with your follow through.  I talk...