Finding the Floor - A thoughtful approach to midlife motherhood and what comes next.

Send us Fan Mail   “The message is to lure you into giving away sensitive information.” In this episode I am sharing an experience where I almost gave away a lot of very sensitive information to a scammer.  I point out the red flags that I overlooked.  I define for you a few different types of scammers, phishing for example and define them.  I also tell you some tips to keep you aware so that you...

Send us Fan Mail “It’s not the absence of self-doubt, but the ongoing resistance to it.” Bear with me in this episode when I share a confidence draining experience.  Luckily I remembered the book, The Confident Mind, by Dr. Nate Zinsser .  In chapter 5 I was reminded about protecting our confidence through setbacks.  So this episode is a bit of a reminder to me of practical things to do to regain...

Send us Fan Mail “I need to tell my brain what to focus on.”   Why not?  Is a new thought I am trying to work on.  I share the scripture from the Book of Mormon that helped me with the new thought.   I share the scripture from the Book of Mormon that helped me with the new thought.  I also tell you about a few different quotes and articles that talk about the importance of belief.  I conclude with...

Send us Fan Mail This week I share about the Book by Jessie Inchauspe called the Glucose Goddess method.  This is a sequel to her book, Glucose Revolution.  This book uses 4 of the hacks she shares in her first book and breaks them down in a 4 week way to start to make them a habit in your life.  These hacks are the most effective at reducing glucose spikes.  So I share a reminder about Glucose sp...

Send us Fan Mail “Looking back on your year can help you be motivated going into the new year.”    Happy New year to all!  I have to be honest and share that it took me an extra week to get motivated to get an episode out so I followed some advice and am taking time to look back on a few of my favorite books and episodes from 2023 as well as looking forward and sharing a few of the goals and habit...

Send us Fan Mail  “I was hoping to hear the Hallelujah chorus all season.”   Do you have a few things you do every year during the Christmas season that means Christmas to you?  This episode I share a number of things that I love to do during the season, from putting up my lights to wrapping presents while watching a cheesy Christmas movie.  I hope as I share a few of the different things that I l...

Send us Fan Mail  “The Savior's grace gives us the right to choose to become what he offers us to become.”   This is a different kind of Christmas episode.  I talk a little bit about faith and works from both Paul and James of the New Testament.  And with that I shared an idea I got from Dr. J.B. Haws who has an analogy of faith and works being like a water skier.  I explore the whole water s...

Send us Fan Mail “No one who cooks, cooks alone.”   This week I have been thinking a lot about food and the recipes we can’t live without.  I share some of our Thanksgiving must haves, like fluffy sweet potatoes and pumpkin chocolate chip bread.  I mention how I love how these recipes remind us of people, some family members who have passed on and even friends who are still around but we haven’t s...

Send us Fan Mail “yet I was, by the endeavour, a better and a happier man than I otherwise should have been if I had not attempted it.”  This episode comes out and we have one month until the new year.  I am sharing this great idea of old year resolutions, an idea mentioned by Benjamin Franklin.   Old year meaning - starting in December, what are some things you want to do in the new year that you...

Send us Fan Mail “Gratitude can change your brain.” In this episode I share how my family has started sharing gratitude each night for the past few weeks.  I mentioned all of the things that I have learned about gratitude and the multitude of benefits it has for us in so many different ways.  Reminding us of things like gratitude helps to change our focus, gives us courage, can heal us and even un...

Send us Fan Mail “Dear Older me … thank you!”   In this episode I explore an idea of dealing with expectations we have that come from our youth.  Ideas of what we wanted to be when we grew up or how we might have hoped or expected our life to turn out.  I share a few ideas of choosing to let some disappointment go and also being grateful for where you are.  I also share a few ideas to ask our own...

Send us Fan Mail “ Appreciation is the highest, purest form of love.“ In this episode I talk about another chapter in the book, What Happy People Know by Dr. Dan Baker, Ph. D and Cameron Stauth. I begin by mentioning my favorite scripture and then I discuss courage as a tool for happiness and that love in what gets us to courage.  I share about the purest form of love or appreciation and how that...

Send us Fan Mail “... choice feels good because it is the ultimate expression of free will.” Choice is so important and according to the Book, What Happy People Know by Dan Bake, PhD. and Cameron Stauth, it is one of the tools you use to be happy.  In this episode I share how we all have possibilities.  I share the idea of learned helplessness and how we can over come it and then go back to some o...

Send us Fan Mail “...When we love a piece of music, it reminds us of other music we have heard, and it activates memory traces of emotional times in our lives.”  Lately I have been struggling to find the music that I like.  This episode I explore a little bit the reasons why I may be struggling to find new music that I like.  I also share why we as older adults tend to get stuck with certain bands...

Send us Fan Mail “If you carefully consider what you wanted to be said of you in the funeral experience, you will find your definition of success.”  This week I am reflecting on some thoughts I have had this past week after attending two funerals.  I share my thoughts about being a more aware and caring neighbor and friend.  I also reflect on habit two from the 7  Habits of Highly Effective People...

Send us Fan Mail  ”Gratitude is the antidote to foreboding joy.”  In the episode today we are talking about joy and how it actually can be uncomfortable to let ourselves feel it as it is very vulnerable.  I share a conversation I had with my daughter that sparked a reminder of two things - foreboding joy and our happiness set point.  So I share what these two things are and how we can learn to inc...

Send us Fan Mail  “There is no such thing as strengths and weaknesses - it is all context”  Hey all!! So excited about this episode's topic of strength in weakness and really thinking about our weaknesses in a whole different way.  I share this week about my experience helping my brother prepare for his job interview and then thought about this idea of sharing your weakness.  I then share a f...

Send us Fan Mail “Validation is being with someone where they are, not where you think they should be.”  In this episode I share the last part of this series learning about the principles of How to make everything all better by Gary B. and Joy Saunders Lundberg.  This episode I share about using this in real life, with your spouse, your parents, parents-in-law, and friends.  One of my favorite tip...

Send us Fan Mail “[Children] have a far greater capacity for problem solving than we realize.”  This week I share examples of using the principles that we have learned the past 3 episodes from I don’t have to make everything all better by Gary and Joy Lundberg.  The last part of the book share anecdotes and  examples of how to use this with all types of relations and this week I share some things...

Send us Fan Mail  “ Effective teaching can only happen when you are in control of yourself.”  Another episode learning from the book, I Don’t have to make everything all better by Gary B. and Joy Saunders Lundberg.  Principles 5 and 6 are covered in this episode.  Principle 5 is Find the right time to teach and Principle 6 is learn the effective validating phrases and questions.  I spend a majorit...

Send us Fan Mail  “Just listen, try to understand, and show that you care.’  In this episode I continue sharing principles from the book, “I don’t have to make everything all better”  by Gary and Joy Lundberg.  This week's principles are: acknowledge emotions and develop the art of listening.  One thing the authors suggest is to check in with your emotions regularly.  What am I feeling right...

Send us Fan Mail  “All of us want to be listened to and understood.”  This episode I begin sharing principles from the book “I Don’t Have to Make Everything All Better”  By Gary B.  and Joy Saunders Lundberg.  The first two principles that I share in this episode are: Be an effective validator and leave the responsibility where it belongs.  I share the Lundberg's definition of validation and...

Send us Fan Mail   “Can you enjoy a sport and be bad at it?” For this episode I share two experiences from my family gathering while participating in some sports, volleyball and cornhole.  I share how incredibly bad I performed during our family volleyball game and then share my great triumph of almost becoming the cornhole champion.  And within those two stories exploring the thought of can you e...

Send us Fan Mail One more throwback and then next week I will return and have a new podcast for you.  This week deciding to go back to on of the books that I talked about - How to be yourself by Ellen Hendriksen, PhD part 3 Cultivating friendship as we get back to school soon.   Here is what the episode is about ...   “Friendship is a process not a ready made discovery.”  This episode will finish...

Send us Fan Mail Still out for my summer vacation.  But posting another throwback.  This one I am still in need to work on a little so another great reminder.  This is the 3rd episode and there will be one more til I post new stuff.  Hopefully a good reminder.   And then to ep. 85...  “ a pet peeve is an annoyance that’s nurtured like a pet — it's something someone can never resist complainin...