Fight For Love

In this episode I have the pleasure of being joined by Jenaye White, publicity and marketing guru at LifeWay, to talk about two exciting new initiatives that can help you bring the message of Fight For Love to women at your church.  Firstly, we talk about a seven day devotional for wives of porn addicts, and secondly we explain a terrific new initiative called Stay On The Same Page, created to hel...

On this episode the team tackle two very common questions:  Will I ever feel the same way about my husband again? Will it help if I take pictures of myself for him? 

Even if your husband remains unrepentant and refuses to seek help there is still great hope for a joy-filled transformed life for yourself and your children. In this episode Ruth describes her own healing journey beyond her divorce from her porn addicted husband. 

**A must listen for anyone who doesn't believes that porn use affects relationship**  In this most vulnerable of episodes we share exactly how our husband's porn addictions affected us, and what it was like to draw that initial line in the sand on porn. It was not knowledge that drove us to set boundaries it was sheer pain.  If we could go back and tell our younger selves one thing this is what we...

To help us unpack what to do when your porn addicted spouse is also abusive, we have enlisted the expertise of Jeneane Nicodemus (Associate Marriage and Family Therapist),  a survivor of domestic violence and therapist at Stand Strong, a women's shelter for survivors of domestic violence in San Luis Obispo County, California. F

True to form, we're kicking off our new season by getting real about how this pandemic is kicking our collective butt, and we're not even in the heat of an active addiction. In this episode we share the reality of a rapidly growing global porn pandemic, and emphasize the importance of upping up your self-care and seeking support. 

Grab your hankies, and join us as we reflect on God's goodness and grace in our lives. 

Rosie shares the joys and the challenges of writing the book, and the team reveal what motivated them to share their stories with the world.  Praise for Fight for Love by  Dr. Josh McDowell, renowned author and speaker: "Using neuroscience and Scripture, and unflinching honesty, Rosie brings hard facts and hard truths for these hard times. This book has a challenging message, but it is beautifully...

With all the anxiety, uncertainty and free porn (courtesy of porn hub) floating about, the epidemic of porn in the church is only going to get worse. Pastors are required to step up to the plate and deal with this crisis head on. Here are over ten years of personal and professional experience of successfully dealing with porn addiction condensed into 50 mins from husband and wife team Mark and Ros...

Telling your kids the truth about what is really going on in your marriage is daunting for everyone. In this episode we share candidly our own experiences to give you hope that this is not only doable, but extremely beneficial for your entire family. We also share practical resources that we found useful to facilitate the conversation. 

Identifying codependent ways of interacting that have been negatively impacting your relationship is both daunting and liberating. Join us discussing one of our favorite topics. This is where true transformation begins! And as Miranda says 'choosing to look at your codependency is the least codependent thing you can do!'

In this episode we give you the inside scoop on what it's really like to be part of a wives recovery group. As daunting and scary as it was walking into our first group, all of us agree that the fellowship that we gained through recovery was absolutely life-changing. Recovery groups are real, and precious, not to mention avenues of healing - they will ruin you for other groups!

Against the typical advice you may get from a friend or well-meaning counselor, a period of celibacy is highly recommended at the beginning of recovery. Having more sex is not the answer, especially in the weeks following a full disclosure. Your husband’s altered expectations around sex need time to reboot, as does his warped view of reality. The suggested time frame for celibacy is normally ninet...

In this episode we demystify another aspect of recovery and talk about preparing for unexpected patches of extreme turbulence before they happen. The time to think about what to do if your husband relapses is not after the event, but before. A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan of what to do if your husband looks at porn again. The point of the safety plan is not to punish him but to he...

The Partner Response Survey is a self-assessment form that helps you identify ways that your husband’s compulsive porn use has affected you mentally, physically, sexually, and spiritually. In a supervised session, you read your answers aloud, and your husband is not permitted to respond or defend himself. He simply has to hear you. Without name-calling or blaming, you express your hurt, pain, frus...

Disclosure a pivotal and powerful moment in recovery. It's both terrifying and transformational.  Often describes as ground zero--or the moment our marriage truly began--it can also be an extremely daunting and painful experience. Disclosure is a planned facilitated event where a husband reads out a prepared document to his wife detailing his sexual acting out with porn or other people. In this ep...

Reaching out to support that is safe and qualified to speak into you life is crucial. Listening to well meaning, but ill-informed friends and family, or even counselors or even pastors can derail your recovery before it has even got started. Learn from our experiences and mistakes, and find comfort in the fact God will not leave you in the desert, without the right help. 

Both the betrayal and the deception aspects of having a porn addicted spouse is devastating. In this episode we dig deep into our experiences of restoring trust, and share how, in the process, we discovered a whole new level of intimacy in our marriage. We also explain how getting into recovery forced us to look at some of our own issues that were getting in the way of our own ability to be truly...

What are you in for when you embark on this journey of recovery? In this episode we give you an overview of the whole process, and explain the different stages of recovery.  We also share what it felt like when our husband’s porn addiction picked us up and hurled us down the rabbit hole of recovery. How we really felt about the fact that now we had to embark on this challenging and unknown journey...

In this episode we correct the lie that you are responsible for your husband's compulsive porn use. We talk about the impact of believing this lie and all the ways that we tried to fix the problem on our own. Then we dive into the scientific research and look at what is really going on in his brain. We explain why he looks at porn, why he can't stop and also why he is unlikely to reach out for hel...

In this episode we share what it is like to be married to a porn addict, showing you how compulsive porn use affects not just your sex life, but all aspects of your relationship. Being able to recognize these red flags will enable you to take decisive action sooner. 

In this episode we talk about how we felt when we discovered that our husbands had a problem with porn. Then we share all the unsuccessful ways that we tried to fix the problem on our own which were a complete waste of time and energy. In the second half of this episode we take you through four helpful things that you can do.

In this short and sweet episode, you will meet the team: Rosie, Miranda, Crystal, Mindy and Jené, and hear our hearts to help women dealing with porn addiction in their marriage. We talk about what topics we will be covering in season 1, and the episodes that we are really looking forward to sharing with you.