Feminine Chaos

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss the pressure to be part of a clique, the (over?) valuation of female friendship, Phoebe’s thesis on heteronormativity, and Kat’s theory of the naturally-occurring eccentrics who just vant to be alohn . LINKS: SPECIAL HOLIDAY PROMOTION: Preorder Kat’s new novel from anywhere ( Amazon , B&N...

Early access for premium subscribers! Kat and Phoebe discuss modern love, traditional marriage, and the New York Times “gray divorcée” who is the latest main character in the discourse. LINKS: The original offense: Opinion | It’s OK That Our Long, Mostly Good Marriage Ended - The New York Times The origin story: His and Her Books Tattle on Marriage - The New York Times Kat’s interview with Cathi:...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com In a special post-Thanksgiving dispatch, Kat and Phoebe discuss dead squirrel drama, stupid murderers, dine-and-dash influencers who might be robots, and the seasonal affliction known as Labubu Buyer’s Remorse. LINKS: Irresistible Deals Put Them in Debt. Now They’re Trying to Manage Their Overspending. How Not t...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat tells a story about stalking a businessman in a London suburb; Phoebe tells the origin story of the shirtless men on her book jacket. Then: a discussion on the latest in male cancellations, and, by popular demand, the Olivia Nuzzi book excerpt and surrounding drama. LINKS: Pre-order Phoebe’s book here ! Righ...

Early access for paid subscribers! Kat and Phoebe discuss female testosterone junkies and an essay about feminization that broke the internet. LINKS: Susan Dominus’s incredible article about women doing the T for non-trans reasons: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/22/magazine/testosterone-women-health-sex-libido-menopause.html Phoebe’s got a long beard now: Helen Andrews in Compact: https://www.com...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Phoebe debuts a sexy new limited-edition podcast voice (available only while seasonal respiratory virus lasts)! Then: new developments in last week’s spon-con meltdown, and some extremely sour grapes over the continued survival of cancelled men at cancelled magazines. LINKS: Tolentino retraction-watch: https://w...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe break their previously RIGID rule against oversharing about their romantic histories to reveal which male celebrities once looked at them with maybe lust, or maybe a potent mix of disgust and curiosity, who knows. Then: the cancellation-in-progress of Jia Tolentino over an ill-advised piece of spo...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss the fallout from the acquisition of the Free Press, including an epidemic of Bari Weiss derangement syndrome and Kat’s betrothal to the reanimated corpse of Dan Rather Walter Cronkite. (Sorry, Dan!) Then: a great new novel, the plight of the “visible Jew”, and Bluesky’s live nude waffles p...

Kat and Phoebe are joined by special guest Katie Herzog to discuss sobriety narratives, publishing journeys, and Katie’s new book, which you should all buy immediately. LINKS: Order Katie’s book here ! No, seriously, did you order yet ? Fresh, hot, FULLY NUDE self help right here, y’all . Read an excerpt from Katie’s book at The Free Press: Also mentioned: Kat’s piece on psychedelics: The Middle-C...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss the latest in attempted cancellations, the French first lady’s war on lying podcasters, and what fraction of the female population are Samanthas. LINKS: Kat’s new wilderness murder thriller is available for pre-order here ! Required viewing!

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss free speech, government interference, sociopathic clout-chasing, personal memoir, and accidental death-by-self-induced-whiplash. LINKS: Woody Allen on Life and Death - by Bari Weiss You can take the girl out of What is jawboning? And does it violate the First Amendment? | The Foundation fo...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe try to figure out what a Labubu is. Then: herbicidal maniacs, the assassination of Charlie Kirk, and the death of all hope (but only for a moment.) LINKS: Whence Labubu Feminism: Did a Brooklyn Couple Kill a Neighbor’s Trees for a Better View in Maine? - The New York Times The Internet Locusts Des...

Kat shares some exciting professional news, followed by Phoebe’s latest dispatch from Dead Rodent Central aka Toronto proper. Then: what do we both think about the Lena Dunham zeitgeist and the new Netflix series Too Much? LINKS: See Kat’s new book cover in People magazine and preorder HOW TO SURVIVE IN THE WOODS ! Also, Chicagoans can see Kat in real life at the Substack debate on Sex and AI — th...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss a certain comedienne's May-December relationship that was (or, possibly, wasn't), the forever war over Sydney Sweeney's genes, and whether anti-woke signaling as advertising strategy is a terrible mistake, or just a happy little accident. LINKS: Kat on the Sydney Sweeney debacle: Hot Girl...

Kat and Phoebe welcome special guest Leigh Stein for a discussion of female heterosexual rejection, gothic age gap relationships, and crying on TikTok in the attention economy. LINKS: Leigh's new book, If You're Seeing This It's Meant for You, releases August 26! Order it here to get the bonus gift of cool limited-edition tarot card stickers: If You're Seeing This, It's Meant for You by Leigh Stei...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss Canadian sex trials and American teen models. LINKS: Submit your AMA questions here! Straight outta Canadian courtrooms:

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss the latest in "heterofatalism", how to write about heterosexuality without oversharing about your sex life, and the viral jumbotron sex scandal with shades of the 1990s-era L'Affaire Bobbitt. LINKS: She tried an open marriage: Scenes from an Open Marriage It didn't work out: The Trouble Wi...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss pretty princesses, culturally appropriative restaurants, and how incredibly hot Donald Trump would look doing pilates. LINKS:

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss a new memoir by a self-described nepo baby, the locker room norms that place modesty downstream of anatomy, and the scandalous college box-checking of one NYC mayoral candidate. LINKS: Phoebe's review: The art monster's daughter: Molly Jong-Fast's new memoir pans Erica Jong's parenting Kat...

Early access for paid subscribers! Kat and Phoebe discuss lowkey "choice" lesbians, being a "kid" in your mid-20s (and beyond), and the various and sundry meanings of "virgin." LINKS: Lowkey, I Chose To Be a Lesbian | Autostraddle We Messed Up | Autostraddle So-called “ex-gay” causes controversy – Chicago Maroon This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss our alleged mass epidemic of missing, or at least absent , men, and the women who love them (except: do they, though?) Also: settling, compromise, and a debate over how to properly dispense with a contaminated toaster. LINKS: Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back. - The New York Times...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss the new film Materialists and marrying rich, the O.G. (and long-lived) Jewish sitcom The Goldbergs, the difference between Dakota Fanning and Dakota Johnson, whether “nepo baby” is a slur, and the eggshells upon which artists may or may not have walked/ be currently walking/ will continue...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss intimacy coordinators, rodent men, and the mechanism whereby certain left-wing things begat a certain orange man. LINKS: The Real Reason Actresses Are Rejecting Intimacy Coordinators The mechanism Are Liberals to Blame for the New McCarthyism? - The Atlantic Opinion | I Don’t Want to Watch...

Early access for premium subscribers! Kat and Phoebe discuss a straight lady court victory, a puckish (and very symmetrical) student journalist, and a grotesque act of botanical sabotage. Links: Supreme Court Unanimously Rules for Straight Woman in Workplace Discrimination Suit Straight out of DOGE A Student at Brown Channeled Elon Musk. Then He Got in Trouble. How to become a right-wing star? Har...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit femchaospod.substack.com Kat and Phoebe discuss the state of Anne Hathaway's eyebrows, the downsides of celebrity, the end of diet culture, and the MeTooing of a certain journalist. (Hashtag MeToo, hashtag BLM!) Links: The bad Anne Hathaway take, archived for your pleasure: https://archive.is/1lUm5 Phoebe on Anne's detractor: Envy-pity...