Feel This with Frank and Jess

As the conversation on meaning-making continues, Jess and Frank make room for disagreement to be a source of connection. While Frank explores the importance that conscious meaning-making holds for him right now, Jess gets clearer on her internal resistance to the idea of always having some agency.  Recorded 12/27/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We were selected in 2023 by...

Today begins with a lovely, deep, sense-based meditation. Then Frank and Jess discuss the windows of power and meaning that open up in a moment of panic after Jess’s mom is in a car accident the day before Christmas Eve. Recorded 12/27/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts ! The primer episodes...

Today the conversation exploring Frank taking a low dose of ketamine in the podcast space continues. Woven through with exploration and connection, Jess gives voice to parts both curious and uncertain and Frank stays with his authentic desire even as he hears Jessica’s questions and concerns. Recorded 11/22/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  The primer episodes below estab...

We begin with an experiential and grounding meditation. This leads into a slow, spacious “feelings first” conversation in which Frank suggests doing a low dose of ketamine during the podcast and Jessica has feelings, thoughts, questions, and parts. Recorded 11/22/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place i...

Recorded 11/08/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems http...

Recorded 11/8/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems https...

When we put ourselves and our creations “out there” we can’t control how others will respond. In this episode, more connected and coming in with different points of view, Frank and Jess dive into a discussion about social media. Frank sees any response as an ultimately positive move, while Jess is aware of her protective parts pushing a “I don’t care what people think” message. Recorded 10/16/23 N...

After a lovely meditation, today’s episode finds Frank in flow creating music and Jessica watching with curiosity the parts she has that seemingly want to paint… not painting but instead finding distraction through random to-do’s. A connected We Space is cultivated by Frank and Jess naming parts that want to come forward, others that want to hold back, and which are feeling ambivalent. All this le...

(Originally released January 2022) What are “parts” and why are we always talking about them? Today we’re exploring Internal Family Systems and modeling what working with it looks like. This episode offers an overview on a healing modality we’ve been strongly influenced by in our lives that shows up here, in Feel This.   Frank is Level 3 IFS trained and has been practicing since 2014. Jess has bee...

(Re-release - Originally recorded in August 2022) The Modes of Communication are fundamental to our conversations here on Feel This. They are the doorway into what makes our podcast “experiential.” And they are in your conversations, if you know what to look for. Understanding these modes gives us tools for deepening connection. In this episode we share the five modes: Chit-Chat, It Chat, Me Chat,...

(Originally released August 2022) After a 9 minute meditation, we get right into an exploration of what “good” and “bad” emotions look like through a non-dual lens and how the story of the Tower of Babel may explain why “We Chat” is so dang tricky. Enjoy! Recorded 8/23/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in....

(Originally recorded December 2021) Today Frank shares a powerful thought experiment he calls the Red Button, inspired by the intense experience of having a life-threatening brain tumor. We also get very clear about one of our foundational practices on this podcast: Feelings first, content second!  Recorded 12/21/2021  New to Feel This? We're happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establi...

When our kid parts get overwhelmed, finding “serotonin hits” in fun activities, video games and bright colored paint for example, can be just the thing. Today Frank and Jess share how taking care of their 10 year olds has changed with growth and healing. Connecting in real time with each other, in this episode they demonstrate how connection leads to healing… and then fun is simply fun! Recorded 9...

When we are with another person, how do we live as if that current moment is more important than any other thought or idea? In this episode, Frank and Jess leave their little bubbles and throw all their toys in together, and the relationship begins to come forward in new ways. In this space, Frank shares his current experience of an old, familiar story returning in a whole new way, ready for some...

Jessica shares her experience with a Bobcat, twice in one day, and the meaning it had. Inevitably, when sharing a pivotal moment, others may get it and they may not. No matter which, how can we step into the absolute knowing that this is what this means to us? And whether we are feeling powerful or apologetic… can we allow and embrace all of our complexity and richness? Recorded 9/11/23 New to Fee...

Moving from the pressure and stress of travel back to clarity and presence, Jess shares her quiet moment of revelation along Highway 1. She first had to choose to move into the hot mess of feelings and judgments, which she had unsuccessfully been trying to dismiss, dodge or manage. While in the middle of all that messiness, the magic occurred! Recorded 9/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy...

When our internal turmoil of thoughts and feelings seem more real than what’s happening around us, how do we connect to ourselves and others in the now? Frank is sharing his experience visiting Maui after the fires. He moves between presence to his intense internal experience and connection to Jess in the present moment. This balancing act has an effect that you may find surprising! Recorded 8/14/...

How do you keep track of ourselves in the face of trauma? How do we not lose ourselves when others are sharing their trauma with us, or when we are sharing our trauma with others? In part one of this episode, Frank shares his feelings and relationship to the fires in Maui, as a part time resident. Together, Jess and Frank process the emotions related to the fires while simultaneously working to be...

Frank and Jess engage in a deep and introspective conversation about their present experiences and the value of connection. They explore the concept of being fully present in the moment and the importance of staying connected to one's authentic self. They discuss the interplay between healing and awakening, and how a soft and open nervous system can facilitate the process of awakening. They al...

Summary: Jess and Frank start the episode by inviting listeners to bring their attention to their inner experience of being in the moment. They emphasize the importance of staying present and not getting caught up in thoughts or external distractions. Jess shares her nervousness and excitement about an upcoming trip and the release of her website. Frank guides her through exploring her feelings of...

When someone responds to Frank’s big energy at karaoke with a strong request for boundaries, Franks shares his experience of staying with himself and his emotions. Recorded 07/31/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for yo...

Fresh out of a dental procedure, Jess shares her experience, which is both personally specific and universally human. Having this fallible and impermanent body with history of trauma in a vulnerable, mundane moment is one of life’s everyday rollercoasters. Frank explores what it’s like to be a “good listener” and an authentic listener. Link: Episode 3 - The Red Button Recorded 07/31/23 New to Feel...

An invigorating conversation ensues when Jess asks Frank to reflect on their relationship. Here’s the bottom line for all of us: There is great potential to experience tremendous aliveness within relationships. And it comes from the transparent revelation of feeling. Feeling sourced in authenticity, self focus and personal responsibility. Mentioned: Cenote , Love Languages Recorded 07/17/23 New to...

It’s a little unusual… Frank is feeling grumbly while Jess comes in open and happy. From this place they explore when poking fun brings lightness and joy into a relationship versus when it feels critical. Recorded 7/17/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening e...

Jess gives Frank a reading of three tarot cards, looking more deeply into his growing sense of who he, and you, truly are. The cards reflect what is has meant to see himself more as pure awareness than ego and thought and where this new awareness leading him. Card Images: Ten of Swords King of Swords Page of Wands The Empress Recorded 7/7/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  O...