Fathering Our Future

As we head into 2026, I want to challenge you to think seriously about the kind of husband you are becoming because being a good husband directly impacts the kind of father you are. This week I want to revisit my most popular blog where I detail 10 things husbands can do to improve their marriages. In addition to things like:* Hugging your wife* Doing what you say* Listening before you attempt to...

Most New Year resolutions fail because we start with the wrong definition of success. As Christian dads, we are quick to set goals, chase improvement, and measure progress by outcomes we never stopped to question. But before we decide what to pursue in 2026, we need to ask a better question: What does excellence actually look like from God’s perspective? In this episode, I walk through what it mea...

As we approach 2026, most of us start drafting resolutions. We look at 2025, measure our wins and losses, and try to map out ways to be better. But Christian dads are called to a deeper starting point. Before we write a single resolution, we should first ask God to define what excellence actually looks like in our lives. In this episode, I share a simple but life-altering shift: Pray first. Ask Go...

You’re a Christian dad trying to raise kind Christian children when all of a sudden you find out that your child has stolen something from the store you visited. What do you do? This happened to my wife and I recently and I am going to honest with you, we handled things great. I want to give you four tips to handle situations like this great as well. I will elaborate on: Keeping your cool Leading...

Throughout the month of November we attempt to be thankful. We devote each day to something different to be thankful for. But if we are honest, sometimes it can be a challenge to stay thankful. I want to open up and share some of the difficulty around constant gratitude and offer a key scripture that helps reframe the way we think. https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/11/24/the-key-to-staying-thank...

I came across an article that would catch the attention of any parent with young children about 7 ‘magic phrases’ that can calm tantrums instantly. While that sounds too good to be true, something like this is worth checking out just in case there is truth to it. This week we sift through this article to determine what actually works and what you should not waste your time on. I will also provide...

We live in a world where several voices claim to have the formula to being a good dad. While I understand fatherhood to be an ever-changing complexity that is unique to every dad, I want to offer guidance on how you can be a good dad by focusing on two things. I want to break down what it means to be the dad your children need you to be and how you can ensure your kids know they are abundantly lov...

We all enter into fatherhood with influences and voices that shape our approach. Maybe your dad was truly the man, or maybe you were inspired by an uncle, coach, pastor, or social influencer. But have you taken time to consider if you approach fatherhood in a way that honors God? One of the clearest ways we can be God honoring dads is to imitate our Heavenly Father. I want to focus on just two qua...

The Bible indicates that we know people by their fruits. Have you ever wondered what your kids know about you based on your fruit? In Galatians 5:22-23 we are introduced to the fruit of the Spirit. Good stuff but often misunderstood. I remember growing up and learning that these were characteristics and behaviors I had to practice and work on, but now I know that is not the case. I want to help yo...

Has your kid ever been down because of an issue with friendship? Of course you deal with it in the moment but there’s more you can do to help your kids.  This week I want to give you some advice on teaching your kids about friendships. Four reminders to tell them: There are lots of people in the world Friendship takes time Focus on being friendly Best friends find each other Plus a couple of other...

If you are a dad with a younger son and you find yourself wondering if your son actually likes you – you are not alone. In fact, a dad reach out to me with his concerns regarding his relationship with his 4-year old son and I think my advice will benefit you too. I will give you my timeless piece of advice that will be critical for your relationship with your son but I will specifically address: W...

Time and love are a couple of things we think about a lot as dads. So I’ve got a fresh perspective to share on time and 4 tips to help you succeed at loving your children. With kids we find ourselves not having enough time, wishing we had more time, and running out of time. When it comes to loving our kids we that’s what we are supposed to do but that doesn’t always come natural. After being separ...

Just a few weeks ago I was alone and isolated from my family. I thought this may have been a time where I would be ultra-productive but I was wrong. The isolation was painful but one simple thing made the difference. We live in a world where we are constantly told to look forward and to stop looking back. This week I share how looking back helped me during my period of loneliness and brought happi...

Last week I talked about things to avoid when it comes to disciplining your kids. This week I want to share one thing you should incorporate in your discipline approach that you maybe haven’t considered.  Disciplining kids seems like a serious thing, and it is, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use humor in the process. I want to share a silly simple way I utilize humor in disciplining my kids that’...

Disciplining our children is our greatest responsibility as fathers and unfortunately too many think about discipline in terms of punishment and correction. That is a part of discipline, but there is a whole lot more to it. This week I focus on what it means to discipline your kids and I cover three things you need to be careful of or rethink entirely. We are talking about: Spanking Sending your k...

When it comes to AI, there are people who love it and people who hate it. Personally, I see it as an incredible tool and resource with amazing potential. However, apparently it possesses the potential to do things I never imagined. I recently read an article about people and their feelings toward romantic companions created by AI, some pornographic. I’ll share that with you and provide: Tips aroun...

Integrity is a word that we all like to use. We know it is good. We know we want to have it. But the truth is, we sometimes struggle to actually define what integrity is. My goal is to help you understand what integrity is and what it should look like in your life. On this week’s episode, I will: Provide a biblical definition of integrity Give you an analogy that will help you understand integrity...

As dads we want our kids to accomplish great things but we also want it to be perpetually known that we are the greatest. That’s a problem because both things cannot be true. Our mission is to equip and disciple our kids to be a part of God’s mission in a greater capacity than ourselves. We need to keep that desire for our kids to accomplish great things while accepting that we will not always be...

Sometimes life doesn’t pan out the way you expected it to. Sometimes life throws you curveballs when everything appears to be going great. Life is unpredictable and brings change. Things are changing for me personally. Our family is making a move across the country. While I have been processing this change, I have observed a few things that I think can serve dads when big changes present themselve...

Becoming a dad is one of the greatest things that happens to men but with this change often comes fear and discomfort. I want to help take off the edge a bit and offer some advice as a father of four. I share tips from my book, Cut the Crap, that dads need to focus on, as well as some items that are must have when you have kids. You’ll get: My recommended items The right perspective on having kids...

Over the last decade a term has been popularized in Christian circles: deconstruction. The premise is essentially dismantling one’s faith one brick at a time. For Christian dads, this should propel us to focus on properly teaching and living out biblical truths to our kids.  I’m joined today by Pastor Nicholas McDonald, author of The Light in Our Eyes, to talk more about deconstruction. You’ll lea...

Have you ever said: • You should be ashamed of yourself • Stop acting like a baby • It’s my way or the highway • Because I said so If you have not used these, you have probably used something similar. While there are wonderful things we can learn from our parents and glean from previous generation, there are particular phrases that we can think back on that no parent should ever say. I want to hel...

A few weeks back I was joined by Dr. Meg Meeker to talk about the necessity of a dad for daughters. This week I want to take things a step further and help you see that your daughters do not just need you but they truly want you. I came across a letter from my wife’s grandmother where she wrote about her testimony. Much of the emptiness and distress she mentions was due to her relationship with he...

I grew up with teachers and leaders telling me that video games were a waste of time and that they offered no benefit to me. The truth is, video games can offer benefits. And yes, they can also come with some terribly negative effects. What’s important for us as dads is that we understand the benefits and dangers. I am joined by Scott Novis, creator of GameTruck. With over 30 years in the gaming i...

Loving your children seems like a universally understood idea but there is a correct way to love them. How do we do that? We observe and experience love and then we replicate it. 1 John 4:19 tells us that “We love because He first loved us.” This verse not only explains why we are to love but how we are able to love. I want to focus on the how and ask you one question that will determine if you ar...