Exmormonology

Fear is a powerful feeling. It can consume us and keep us stuck in so many areas in our life. Religions, including Mormonism, use fear to keep people in line, in the boat, and doubting your doubts. You don't see this, until you see it. Let's talk about how we "feed the fear" with our looping thought patterns created from our ancestor's need to survive and our religious and social conditioning we a...

Someone asked me the other day, "Amy, what have you done with all of your mormon "things?" Garments, Temple Clothing, Scriptures, etc. etc. etc. Great question! I love this Q so much. I want to share with you what I did/do, and I also want to know what you have done with your mormon paraphernalia? In this episode of Exmormonology, let's talk about all of your options. We really do collect a lot of...

We have wrapped up the first year of The Exmormonology Podcast!!! Today is all about celebrating and reviewing all we have accomplished together over the course of the past year. If you are a post mormon, progressive mormon, active mormon but wanting to understand your exmormon friends and family, or full on exmormon, this podcast is for you. Learning how to life live after mormonism or while you...

Were you triggered by your social media feed being inundated with #givethanks posts? It was a lot, wasn't it. Let's talk all about it in this week's Exmormonology Episode. I address a lot of the reasons why you were triggered, but also I am going to give you a little tough love. If you are a regular listener to Exmormonology it is because you are looking for ways to heal and not be so triggered, s...

Time and time again we give our emotional power away every time someone says something that sends us over the edge, especially when going through a mormon faith crisis. In this episode of Exmormonology, I am going to tell you what is happening, what to do, and how to feel more empowered during and after your faith crisis. You are fully capable of growing stronger through this process. I believe in...

I was in a major car accident a few weeks ago. I have been recovering from a concussion. While I have had a lot of down time and very limited screen time, I have had a few thoughts (okay, a lot of thoughts) about my post mormon journey , my life and how life can change in an instant. I hope you tune in as this episode of Exmormonology is me being very human and vulnerable.

When you start down the yellow brick road of your inquiries into mormonism, you could never have imagined what was coming. AmIright?! As humans, we fear the unknown. We want and crave certainty. We probably do not even think about it much because we just assume we have a certain level of control over our lives. Nothing like a religious faith crisis to show you how much you want certainty in your l...

Let's talk about sex, baby! On this bonus edition of Exmormonology, The Irreverent Sessions, we talk about sex and the mormon church's influences on how we have been conditioned, accepted or not accepted, within the roles presented to us. We laugh, (I) get teary, and of course all things irreverent. Everything from how to make a Michelada (a Mexican beer), hope chests, being a virgin, purity cultu...

This week is a quickie Exmormonology. This week I share a few tender feelings that RBG's death brought up for me. I am curious if since you have left the church, do you have moments of feeling ignorant on topics you paid no attention to when you were BUSY being mormon? Yeah? Me too. Let's take a moment and honor Ruth Bader Ginsberg and talk about her legacy and how we can use her life as fuel to l...

Do you love coffee as much as me? Did you start to drink coffee in the closet, so to speak, when you felt too guilty to drink it openly around your mormon family? Yeah? ME TOO! Guilt and shame often run the show when you are in deconstruction mode out of the church. Let's talk about the psychology and mind control the church had over you, all under the guise of obedience. This week, I am coming at...

Music is life! So many songs have helped me get through some dark days of my faith crisis. In this week's episode of Exmormonology, I want to share several of the songs I love. I have many many more, but here is a great sampling of some songs that mean a lot to me. I hope you love them too! I would love to hear what songs have helped you through the tougher days of your paradigm shift.

What do you do when your mormon parenting handbook is tossed out the window? If you are a parent, and you have experienced a faith crisis , at some point you will have thoughts about how to parent your kids. Doesn't matter if they are little bitty or full grown with children of their own, you will have questions. First, it is totally understandable if you are having a hard time with this. You have...

This week in Exmormonology we are going to walk towards our painful feelings. We have to be able to FEEL our feelings.  Doing this lets the pressure, stress, and discomfort lessen. Once we are able to feel them properly, we can see that that emotion is just a physical vibration in the body and nothing to be scared of. M ost of us spend so much time trying to avoid our negative feelings, at all cos...

Opps, we did it again! Another Irreverent Bonus Ep. of Exmormonology. Whiskey is involved and there is a lot of loud laughter. In this session James and I talk about.. The Regular Testimony Bearers Las Vegas Church Approved Music Black and White Thinking Jesus, The Bible and The Book of Mormon  Things Lost In Translation Tithing Dollars White Lines and Stake Dances Thought Bubbles Happiness is Fam...

Growing up in the Mormon church, we have been so conditioned to black and white type of thinking. Black and white thinking effects our decision making. You may think you are "just bad at making decisions" but it is tied to your religious conditioning. You can do something about that. If you are a person who worries a lot about "doing it wrong" or "not good enough" or "afraid to mess up," this epis...

Exmormonology Ep. 32 is all about Modesty. Growing up, in and through mormonism, you have been influenced by all the lessens, scriptures, conference talks, parent messages and mormon culture, that comes with all the conditioning we experienced, even when we do not even see it as conditioning, while we are in it. We see it as normal.  This is true for the conditioning we have experienced around mod...

Have you ever done something that scares the living day lights out of you? I know the answer is yes because I know you have experienced a faith crisis. Experiencing a faith crisis means you had to face fear and damnation and hell, face to face. Leaving the only belief you have ever know, is terrifying. Get yourself a new pair of gloves, hold on to the cables with all your might. You will come out...

Perfectionism! Ewwww. You may not even think you are a perfectionist and I am going to show you how perfectionism masks itself as doubt and how it may be stopping you from achieving what you want in life. We have lots and lots of layers to work through leaving the faith. This week we dive into the perfectionism we were constantly striving for and never attaining. I tell you why this happens and ex...

This week let's get a little cheeky for our Irreverent Bonus Ep. of Exmormonology. Jim and I talk about all things, well at least a few things, Mormon Folklore. But in all actuality, it kind of all is, isn't it? We discuss, The Three Nephites, Cain being Big Foot, How to test a spirit, and the 1st Vision. Plus a few other tipsy wanderings that you don't want to miss. 

Exmormonology Ep. 029 Your brain is the most powerful tool you have. Are you using it to your advantage or are you letting it run the show with no supervision? If you are serious about improving your exmormon mental health, have a listen. You are the boss of your brain, only you. No one else is responsible for what is going on up in the there, except for you. Spend some time mining around in there...

Exmormonology Ep. 28 We have been taught from a young age that we are responsible for other people's feelings, when in connection to something we have done or said. It can feel strange to learn that this is not true. People have thoughts and feelings based on their own life story and experiences. This week in Exmormonology let's talk about what I mean. Great nuggets are toward the end. Also, my ne...

Are you feeling exhausted from all things Post Mormon? Let's talk about why and how you can help reduce the tiredness you feel as you unravel your life. Your brain is working overtime trying to solve the puzzle of "WTF just happened." Join me for Ep. 27 of Exmormonology.

Your brain broke wide open during your faith crisis. You know how that felt, right? Let it break open again if you are new to racism. You know how to feel uncomfortable. You have done it, did it, as you process life after mormonism. Do it again with racism. If you are new to this work, pull the curtain back. Look. Be willing to see it all. This is one of the things I love so much about exmormons,...

Let's look at the foundational teachings from the Book of Mormon that includes racism. Yes, the mormon church has tried to lessen the teachings around "white and delightsome" and dark skin being a curse, but the truth of the matter is that this language is in the Book of Mormon. Let's talk about the how these teachings get into our psyche and influence our thoughts, feelings and actions around rac...

Amy is drinking a Rosé and James is drinking Bourbon Whiskey and our conversation took us around the block a few times... Mormon Dating Pretty In Pink Sex Before Marriage Purity Culture Young Women's Motto Modesty Boys and their bad thoughts. Uchtdorf 3 year olds bearing testimonies Anti-mormons at General Conference to name a few. You will have to listen to the whole show to hear it all. Enjoy! A...