Exmormonology

How much power have you given away by blaming someone else for how you feel? Most of us do this all the time. It is so much easier to stay in a constant state of blame, meaning it is everyone else's fault for how we feel. Today I want to talk to you about setting down the blame and leaning into deciding how to take full responsibility for all your emotions.  No other person gets to determine how y...

Navigating the the world of post mormonville takes a minute (or years). Imma gunna give you a little bit of tough love. I am a bit on fire in the episode, but I ease you into it. I start with a few minutes telling you all about Truman, our new pup! Truth of the matter is it is the Wild Wild West in the world of exmormondom. Proceed with caution. Let's go.

No rush, no race, to your healing journey. I know we do not like the feelings that our religious, spiritual life crisis created, but it is part of the ride. I want to talk to you today about what it really means to shed and release the more difficult parts of this process and why being gentle with yourself is going to help soothe your soul.

A new year brings new ideas and the intention to perfect your life. You make a list and then think that in order to create happiness for yourself you need to accomplish all the things on your list. Then when the 3rd week of January rolls around and you have fallen off the wagon and you start feeling like you are never going to be good enough and you give up. This week I want to teach you how you c...

Year 3 of Exmormonology has begun! Today I want to talk about how I plan to move forward and through 2022 and the direction of the content you will continue to receive via my podcast. I have several fun events planned for this year and I can't wait to share them with you. Which one(s) will you be joining me? You do get to feel better in this life. Do not believe the thoughts that trick you into th...

Day 12 of our Exmormonology Mini Series, 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas ~ Day 12. Keeping it really simple today, a love note from me to you. I hope your day is beautiful. 

Okay, you are most likely heading into big time family time today and tomorrow. If you want more connection with your family this holiday season, I want to guide you through a method that I use to help me find more genuine connection with my family. I know it does not seem fair to put in work to make this happen when you are already doing so much healing work in relation to your faith/identity shi...

Today we are talking about anxiety during the holidays and how it may be intensified post faith/identity crisis. I want to give you some concrete things you can do to help you lessen the anxiety you may be feeling as you head into holiday gatherings. Pay attention to your brain as you listen to my suggestions. You may find some resistance. That is okay, just notice it as it comes up and stay with...

Day 9 of our mini Exmormonology 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas series is a very quick, down and dirty, reminder for you this holiday season. It is simple but HUGELY important. I do not want to give it away, but please take the 4:16 mins to listen to this episode. I hope it is helpful!

Day 8 of 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas. If you have been listening to Exmormonology for any amount of time, you know that I believe...music is life! So, what do we do about Christmas music??? Are you loving it still? Hate it? Avoiding it? Let's talk about a few ideas of what you can do in and on Day 8 of our mini Exmormonology series.

Twelve Days of Post Mormon Christmas, Day 7. Let's talk about Jesus, shall we? If you are struggling to reconcile Jesus and Christmas and what you believe, tune in. I mean, Jesus is the reason for the season right? Maybe, but that is up to you. I want to walk you through the thought process that helped me navigate this uncomfortable space during the holidays, especially early in my deconstruction...

Is the people pleasing in you showing up big time right now? If so, this Exmormonology Ep. is for you. If you grew up with any kind of religious conditioning, you will relate. So, stop what you are doing and tune it.

Day 5 ~ Isn't the post religious deconstruction process interesting? The ripple effect of your proverbial shelf crashing down can be overwhelming. So, if you are finding the holiday season feeling a bit too much, you are not alone. In our Day 5 of The 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas, I want to dive into the meaning and reasons for tradition. Let's not let traditions of yesteryear keep you tied do...

Exmormonology's 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas ~ Day Four ~ A Las Vegas Christmas. Let's continue on with outside the "traditional" Christmas lines. As you may deduct from this title, Jim and I spend a Christmas in Las Vegas and it was nothing like I thought it was going to be. 

Give yourself the permission to do Christmas differently.

If you are a wildflower that struggles through the Christmas season, this mini Exmormonology episode is for you, especially if you are not sure what to do with Christmas now that you are no longer a believer or not sure what you believe anymore. Don't run away from these tender feelings. Let's talk about how to honor them.

Are you finding "The Holidays" have a completely different feel to it now, post mormon? Navigating the holidays can be a hard time without adding the layer of your faith transition. So, over the course of the next two weeks, I want to give you mini Exmormonology Episodes that can help you as you decide what you want this time of year to mean for you. Contrary to what your brain is presenting you,...

Wildflower, get your pen and paper ready for this Exmormonology Episode. My intention for you is to get your brain working for you instead of against you and to make this happen you will need to be an active participant in your life and in your healing. It is easy to be a consumer of information, but to make small AND big changes in your life you need to prime your brain. So, let's walk towards dr...

It is normal for you to feel a bit lost after your mormon faith crisis. I mean, when your life narrative has been removed and you feel left grappling in the dark, it can feel very lonely and confusing. Today, I want to talk about what to do about it and how you can start rephrasing this chapter of your life. Many of us feel like we have to "find ourselves" and that thought alone can be overwhelmin...

Researching and staying abreast of all things mormon is a common part of mormon deconstruction. We want to find the perfect proof to show our loved ones how we came to our decision to leave the church. Or at least make sure we have crossed our Ts and dotted our Is, because, you know...our eternal salvation and all. Makes sense, right? Let's talk about why we do this and when it may be time to stop...

The title says it all really. If you have ever felt the difficult feeling of shame, I hope this episode gives you permission to start letting go. It is possible.

So many layers to unravel after you deconstruct mormonism. Sex, sexuality, and sexual Identity and orientation are all part of the process. This week I want to share some of the personal pieces of my post mormon story as it relates to self pleasure, free falling in Hollywood, and figuring out some things about my sexual stereotypes and how sometimes we have to stumble around in the dark to figure...

Choose The Right vs. Choose The Wrong ~ The psychological implications from the "innocent" mormon acronym CTR are pretty big and may be playing a bigger role in your post mormon healing than you think. This week on Exmormonology I break it down for you so you can see what you are up against with your religious deconstruction. 

Let's talk about our feelings, shall we? In this episode of Exmormonology I want to talk about what happens if you are in the habit of putting your emotions in The Emotional Time Capsule. The ETC is the collection of all the feelings you would rather not feel and so you tuck them away and hope that you never need to unearth/feel those emotions. If it only worked that way, right? Your overall gener...

If you missed the first part of our convo, go listen to Ep. 65 first! In part two of our discussion we continue with A'Lea's thoughts and feelings as she steps into navigating polyamory with her husband, mindfulness, Peter and getting "out of the boat", modesty standards and family, body positivity and how it has changed, racism and body image, confessing your sexual past with your future spouse (...