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The ruling is on the domestic violence protective order. You have to allege certain relationship statuses to have standing to really move for this under our current statutes.  Currently, you have to show that you are spouses or former spouses to get a domestic violence protective order.  Or that you are persons of the opposite sex who are not married, but had lived together or currently live toget...

Back in the day, we had the tender years doctrine that if you had a small child that the mother stayed home for most of it. That played into many custody decisions. The roles of men and women in marriage have changed a lot in the past 50 years. The current law says there is no preference one way or another.  Although most of the cases we try are boobs versus dudes, there are cases where it's dudes...

MYTH #1 - Prenups are only for the rich and famous Prenups are like insurance for your marriage, never think about divorce when you are getting married but it happens. You don't necessarily have to have wealth at the time you are married but you should have a plan for the wealth you may acquire.   MYTH #2 - Most divorces are nasty drawn-out battles in court Most? No. Some? Yes. Many people are abl...

Many people usually think family law attorneys are female. Chris talks through his experiences practicing in a small town to now practicing in Raleigh. Chris has been practicing law for 10 years and is originally from Benson NC. We discuss the differences in family law courts in rural counties and city counties. Especially in regards to standard visitations. Judges are limited to an hour to hear y...

Having been involved in the IT industry for 30 years, Derek has seen the change in perception from what personal computers used to seem safe because people used them in the privacy of their homes, to today when it is easy to trace our activities online. He also notices the courtships and illicit affairs are accelerated by technology. He also unpacks retro sex, which is a phenomenon of reconnecting...

Jamie bought Blackman Detective Services in November of last year, and they provide full-service PI work. They help attorneys, businesses, and individuals with everything from background checks to criminal investigations, process services, and all the "fun stuff." In a previous episode, we talked about the alienation of affection and the cheating that goes on in relationships, and how that affects...

Dr. Susan Orenstein is a licensed psychologist and the founder and director of Orenstein Solutions. Susan has committed her professional career to help individuals and couples improve their relationships. She helps her clients learn to communicate more effectively and build intimacy inside and outside of the bedroom.  In our previous episode, we talked about the fallout of affairs and we discuss t...

Decisions made to have a physical affair will have an effect on the divorce proceedings, spousal support, and sometimes custody.  In our experience, emotional affairs carry many of the same consequences of physical affairs and occasionally feel more insidious than the actual affair. We discuss many of the "why's?" that lead up to an affair.  Is the statement, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" tru...

Lesli shared why she got started in her practice . A little girl was brought to her who was the rope in her parents' tug of war who was only five at the time. She realized she needed to work with the parents to really be effective at helping people in her situation. We talk about the myth of the "Mind reading school of marriage." Where we wrongly assume that our spouse can read our mind, know what...

Is there a good time to leave a marriage? Our answer is if you are in danger. Questions to consider: Do you feel safe? Are you scared? Are your children safe? It is time to get a domestic violence protective order. We do that because you can't make the other person go. Other than that specific situation the answer to when is the good time to leave is: It depends. Many people decide to wait until t...

Elizabeth is from Cary, NC and she grew up in a toxic family with an abusive father. Her parents stayed together for the kids. This is something they hear all the time as family law attorneys. Part of that is why she focuses on family law and it's all she has done professionally. Elizabeth has a master's and bachelor's in social work and worked in the nonprofit field before she began her practice....