Equestrian Performance Mindset

Do you ever feel physically ill before a competition, like you might actually throw up? You’re not alone. In this powerful episode, I and Lorna tackle one of the toughest emotional challenges riders face: pre-competition anxiety so intense it makes you sick. But here’s the thing; it doesn’t have to be that way. Together, we unpack what’s really happening in your mind and body when nerves take over...

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I share a personal journey of focus, intention, and what it really means to make progress. With my wedding and the competitive season for my eventing horse Echo in full swing, I made a bold decision: to intentionally let go of doing it all, and instead focus on doing fewer things really well. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why trying to “do it all” mig...

In this deeply personal and reflective episode, I and Lorna share an intimate look at a truly special life event "Jocelin’s wedding", and the powerful mindset lessons it uncovered. After an unexpected break from the podcast, we discuss what it really means to be present, how disconnection from distractions can unlock richer experiences, and why creating moments that set your heart on fire is more...

Welcome back to another powerful episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast with I and  Lorna. In this raw and relatable conversation, We dive deep into what happens when competition doesn’t go as planned, and how to mentally regroup when your best efforts still fall short. Lorna shares her recent and emotionally intense experience at a dressage competition where things spiraled ou...

This is not just another episode, this is a milestone moment. Join me as I take you behind the scenes of one of the most significant events in my riding career: my debut at 3* eventing with my 7-year-old horse, Echo vd Vrombautshoeve Z. What started as a distant dream becomes a breathtaking reality, and in this special documentary-style episode, you'll experience the week with me, from nervous pac...

In this empowering episode, we dive into one of the most common fears holding ambitious riders back: the fear of not seeing a distance, and what it really means when you're scared to step up a level. Whether you're hovering at 1.10m and terrified of even thinking about 1.15m, or constantly waiting to feel "ready" before pushing yourself forward, this conversation is for you. We unpack: Why fear of...

Ever found yourself halfway around a course and suddenly thinking, “Only five fences to go, just keep the time”, only to realize you’re more busy with the resume that with riding your horse? Yeah... same here. In this raw and real episode, I share exactly what happened at my last event when I got caught chasing the result instead of riding to the best of my ability. Spoiler: It got chaotic. I almo...

Does your calm, rideable partner suddenly transform into an adrenaline-fueled beast the moment you trot up the centerline at a show? You're not alone! In this episode, Jocelin and Lorna unpack one of the most frustrating experiences riders face: when your horse becomes an entirely different animal at competitions; hotter, stronger, and seemingly tuned out from how they go at home. In this episode...

In today’s episode, join Jocelin as she shines a light on the common fear of what people think and equips you with actionable steps to ride with more confidence and joy, regardless of who's watching. She tackles the silent struggle that holds many riders back: the fear of judgment. Whether it's during training sessions, competitions, or after making a mistake, this fear can sap your conf...

In this podcast episode, Jocelin and Lorna tackles the common fear of failure that arises when riders take on horses who have competed at a higher level and how the pressure of a horse's past achievements can lead to self-doubt and anxiety about not measuring up. In this episode, we explore: Why the pressure of a horse's past achievements can trigger fear of failure. The importance of understandin...

This episode is all about documenting a huge milestone in our journey — our first qualification for the World Championships for 7-year-old event horses! I’m taking you behind the scenes of the ride that made it happen, the mindset that carried us through, and the lessons you can apply to your own goals and dreams. In this episode, I share: The story of our second 2*L and how we pulled off our best...

Frustration: Your Secret Weapon or Biggest Riding Roadblock? In this powerful episode, Jocelin and Lorna unpacks the hidden potential of frustration in equestrian performance, revealing how your mental approach can transform seemingly impossible challenges into breakthrough moments. We dive deep into: ✔ Why frustration is actually a growth opportunity, not a setback ✔ How controlling outcomes...

Have you had that ride that started great and then suddenly spiraled into frustration? In this episode, Jocelin brings you behind the scenes of a pretty intense XC lesson she had last week.  She's breaking down the four specific ways  she sabotaged herself during that lesson, and how you can learn to spot (and stop) these mental interferences in your own riding. This one’s a re...

Your mindset at competitions can either elevate your riding or sabotage your success. In this episode, we reflect on our first events of the season, sharing insights on how setting clear intentions, embracing mistakes, and staying present can drastically improve your performance and enjoyment. We also discuss: ✔ Why setting rigid expectations often leads to disappointment ✔ The importance of defin...

Do you feel like you’re stuck in the “in-between”? Like you’re doing the work but nothing seems to click, and you’re constantly second-guessing yourself? Welcome to the messy middle,  that phase in your riding, season, or growth where clarity feels miles away, self-doubt creeps in, and progress seems invisible. In this episode, Jocelin breaks down what the messy middle really is, why it’s men...

Your mind can either hold you back or be your greatest asset. In this episode, we break down 10 Mind Rules that will help you take control of your thoughts, build unshakable confidence, and get your mind working for you instead of against you. We also talk about: ✔ Why trying harder can actually make things worse ✔ The power of visualization (and how it works 80% as well as actually riding) ✔ How...

Do you really need luck—or do you need confidence in your preparation? In this episode, Jocelin breaks down why the words you use matter more than you think. Saying “good luck” seems harmless, but it subtly shifts the focus away from your effort, skill, and preparation—reinforcing the idea that success is up to fate. But here’s the truth: you are in control Want more mindset and performa...

What does it take to break barriers and pave the way for future riders? In this episode, Jocelin and Lorna sat down with the incredible Ela Zembilci, whose deep-rooted equestrian history and personal journey make for an inspiring conversation. Ela's family has played a pivotal role in shaping the horse industry in Turkey—from her grandfather founding the Turkish Jockey Club to her mother becoming...

Are you ending your day frustrated by everything you didn’t get done? What if success was as simple as one daily action? In this episode, Jocelin will talk about strategies on how to win the day and what to do if you miss a day (and how to bounce back fast) ACTION TIP: Define your winning action for the day, post it on social media, and tag me on Instagram (@jocelinlillienau) using the hashtag #wi...

Found yourself spiraling in negative thoughts?  In this episode, we break down why negative thoughts stick , how to stop them before they take over, and practical mindset shifts that help you ride with more confidence and clarity . You’ll learn: The real reason we get stuck in worry and anxiety A simple mindset shift to stop self-sabotaging Powerful visuals (like the ‘floating cloud’ and ‘inf...

Do you feel like your reactions in the ring are too slow? Like by the time you realize you need to adjust, it’s already too late? 🤯 Here’s the truth: Top riders aren’t just physically skilled—they’ve trained their MINDS to make split-second decisions without overthinking. And guess what? You can too. In this episode, we’re breaking down: ✅ The 5 biggest mental blocks slowing you down ✅ Why...

Get ready to be inspired! In this very special episode, Jocelin and Lorna welcome Elizabeth—a passionate show jumper from Dubai who reveals how she turned her ballet-trained perfectionism into unstoppable determination in the ring. Hear how she broke free from limiting beliefs and overcame life’s toughest challenges to discover her true riding potential. If you’re ready to unlock the mindset...

What’s your word of the year? In this episode, I’m sharing the personal story behind mine—“Self-Trust.” Learn why I chose it, how I’m applying it to my riding and daily life, and how you can discover your own guiding word to elevate your mindset this year. We’ll explore setting bigger goals, trusting your decisions, and overcoming the urge to overthink. Ready to make this year your strongest one y...

Caught yourself freezing in the saddle when flashbacks of harsh coaching or negative comments creep in? In this episode Jocelin & Lorna dive into powerful 90/10 rule to help you reclaim your mental space and regain control of your riding. Discover how you have more influence over your performance than you think. Ready for more? Download our 5 Favorite Mental Tools PDF—the same mindset str...

Have you gone into a ride thinking, 'This HAS to work out'? Whether it’s a show or a challenging exercise, that pressure can feel overwhelming. I’ve been there and let me tell you, it didn’t go as planned. In this episode, Jocelin is sharing her personal experience and what a client recently revealed about the same struggle. We’ll explore why the mindset of 'it MUST work' can sabotage your perform...