EQ Gangster

This episode is sponsored by Lima Charlie Network. Learn more at LimaCharlieNetwork.com.   Does first time obedience in parenting lead to people-pleasing in children?   Does first time obedience prevent a child from having free will & independence?    What leads to people-pleasing? How can we be more intentional at validating & affirming others' emotions–our spouse, children, co-workers & teams?  ...

Has self-sabotage ever impacted your decisions or blessings?   Do you feel worthy?    Tremendous blessings…how do you handle them?    Are you freely able to accept all that God & life have for you?

Such a fun interview!    Some amazing life lessons from when her purse was stolen.    How she maximizes failure.   The role EQ plays in finding Executive talent.    If you're ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join our EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/ .

A brief discussion about my wins & failures of 2021 & how I thought about them as a former people-pleaser addict.   My failures in 2021:  https://www.facebook.com/noble.gibbens/posts/10158974881152968   My wins in 2021: https://www.facebook.com/noble.gibbens/posts/10158958955912968   The McKinsey & Company article I discuss about how women managers are more emotionally available & supportive in 5...

I share some of my lessons learned while in Speculator, NY at Camp of the Woods for a speaking engagement.    We spoke on the impact of emotional intelligence on relationships & personality.   There was even a triggering experience that barely registered on my radar. It would have normally sent me through the roof.    So thankful for the emotional fitness journey God has had me on.   If you're loo...

Are you aware when your passion can overtake your self & social awareness?    How did it make you feel when you ran into a very passionate person who didn't know when to shut up & stop talking?    How does it make you feel when you're in conversation with someone who never asks you any questions?    How often do you interrupt others in conversation–family, friends & co-workers?   How does it feel...

This episode is sponsored by ReachUp magazine! You can find out more about this non-profit, ReachUp at https://reachupmag.org/ .    A humorous Brazilian Jiu Jitsu story leads us into a discussion about our effectiveness w/goal setting & how we can become even more effective at goal setting in 2022.    I encourage you all to start a consistent, healthy emotional fitness program that I call Go A.P.E...

This episode is sponsored by LimaCharlieNetwork.com, an amazing team of active duty & military veteran podcasters! Check out more info at https://www.limacharlienetwork.com/ .   Get ready! This episode has a lot of great, questions to use during your After Action Review (AAR) of this past year.    Reflecting on the questions in this episode will help you gather insights & lessons learned from 2021...

Whew, this was an emotional episode for me.    I share my thoughts on the importance of grieving & mourning loved ones and a few practical steps on how to grieve & mourn in a healthy productive way.   There are also a handful of challenging questions to reflect on about your own emotional availability for those closest to you when they're going through difficult times.    Also a thought on what yo...

Kathy asked me some really interesting questions that were great to reflect on over the past 200 episodes.   I'd love to hear how some of you would answer some of these questions, too!    Sign up for our New Year Emotional Intelligence 5-Day Challenge, too! Link is below.    If you're ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join our EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/ .

What's the goal of emotional intelligence?   How teachable do you think you are?    How does your level of teachableness impact your performance?    Two components in the EQi Assessment that make the EQ assessment unique: the Decision Making Composite & the Stress Management Composite. The EQ sub-element, Reality Testing, is in the Decision Making component.    How accurate is your Reality Testing...

Two conversations led to two massive breakthroughs that have eluded me for at least 4 years.    One breakthrough came from a podcast interview I did w/@amythelifecoach where she helped uncover why I have a tendency to cut people out of my life if they violate one of my boundaries.   The other breakthrough came via a conversation w/my wife who helped me understand what has been hindering my learnin...

Have you ever done a Genogram before?    This episode shares a phenomenal exercise to better understand some of the reasons of why you do what you do.    A "genogram" is a family "map".  It's a great visual way to better understand your family history and how your family history may be impacting your leadership & your personal & professional behaviors that may not be healthy or productive for you...

d Stover is a West Point grad, Class of 1996 & played on the Army football team that went 4 - 0 against the Naval Academy. He's a successful business manager and is absolutely amazing at relationships. He shares some excellent insights about maintaining important relationships.   Be your authentic, genuine self.   Invest in relationships.   Be relationally curious.   Put yourself in other people's...

This episode shares a recent insight into one of my childhood emotional origin stories around my strong desire for Independence.    Independence is one of the 15 elements of Emotional Intelligence.   My Independence score on my EQi Assessment was very high, but I never understood why.   To begin healing an area in your life, even if it is a "good area" (like strong independence), discovering the o...

Rob Actis is the author of the #1 bestselling book The Law of Action . A lifelong go-getter, action taker and serial entrepreneur, Rob used the Law of Action to achieve his lifelong dream of speaking on TV, radio, and, to become a successful audiobook narrator of over 30 titles available on Audible.com.   He shares his journey where he discovered his purpose & passion very early on in life & he pu...

Courage is the foundation of leadership.   Where does courage come from?   Where does drive or charisma come from?    Is leadership a function of nature or nurture?   If you're not uncomfortable, you're not growing.   I'm a life long-learner.   As a life-long learner, I'm always a novice.   How have you gotten comfortable in leadership?   Leadership continuum: Technical component Cognitive compone...

Some relationships will produce a return & some won't & that's ok. Invest in relationships anyway.    Does your time budget reflect the value you say you put on relationships?    Be sure to establish healthy boundaries in both your personal & professional relationships. The consequences can be minuscule or catastrophic.    Don't underestimate or overlook the value of relationships.    Healthy rela...

It is exciting learning about & discovering people.    Active listening (w/your whole body) is rare.    Every person you meet is an opportunity to grow, learn & sharpen your listening skills (&, therefore, empathy).    Every conversation is an opportunity to make someone feel important, seen, heard & valued with intentional, active, curious listening.    How am I structuring my life to match my co...

How important relationships are—mentally & emotionally.      Relationships are good for the soul.   The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your relationships. -Michael Fletcher    relationship audit   When you sow into relationships w/out expectations, you can reap 30, 60, 100 fold. I unexpectedly reaped so much this weekend. So many of my amazing classmates made feel so seen, lo...

This episode is for anyone that travels, has any type of long distance relationships, deploys or goes on TDY and wants effective ideas on how to continue growing your relationships even while apart.   Please share this w/anyone you know who also might fit into this category.   These are excellent actionable steps that have been game changing for me during my travels & deployment.   Thank you for r...

Bullied, attempted suicide. Became a Youth Minister.  Got his Masters In Counseling Worked in the Inner City w/Gangs & people w/substance abuse Earned his PhD in Clinical Counseling & Mental Health Founder of Mayfield Cousnling Centers   Author of The Path Out of Loneliness book https://www.amazon.com/Path-out-Loneliness-Fostering-Connection/dp/1641583398   He discussed: Avoidance Attunement Attac...

I'm embarrassed, frustrated, exposed, sad, disappointed, upset at my behavior on a recent Professional Coaching call w/a cohort of about 15-20 other professionals. I share the story in this episode.   Where do you seek approval?    From whom do you seek approval?   From where do you seek validation?   From where do you get your value?    How valuable do you think you are?   Who impacts your mood? ...

How do you define grace?   What is grace?   What does grace mean to you?   What impacts grace?   How much grace do you have for others?   How much grace do you have for yourself?   How good are you at forgiving others?   How good are you at forgiving yourself?   1 Corinthians 3:16-17 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Matthew 6:14-15   Why do people who love Jesus have the same exact divorce rate, suicide rate...