EQ Gangster

I had a conversation with a friend who dialed me in after I had prematurely come to the conclusion that feeling strong emotions equaled a low EQ.    Then, I had some reflection after feeling bad after receiving some positive feedback. Is it ok to like / appreciate words of affirmation from others? Is it a sign of weakness?    If you're ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join th...

  This episode introduces the concept & question of how do you set goals & "dream build" from an emotionally healthy place.    How have you developed / established your goals?    Who are you trying to please?    Who influenced your goal setting?    Where did you come up with your particular goals & dreams?    Is there such a thing as dreaming "too big" or "not big enough"?    What role has your fa...

I share some current personal reflection on how my coping, survival mechanism is negatively impacting my relationship with our daughter.    There are a handful of helpful questions to assist you in doing some reflection on how some of your coping mechanisms may also be impacting your relationships, both personally & professionally.   I also share my game plan to restore & strengthen my relationshi...

Dr. Travis Hearne shares some great insights regarding managing emotions of not only yourself, but your team when working remotely.   He also shares his own personal challenges & journey from being emotionally numb as a Marine and then learning to develop his own self-awareness so that he could be emotionally present & available for his wife & children.   He recently wrote a book on leading remote...

There are two other episodes involving Dr. Jerry Novack. One previous episode was based on some more excellent EQ insights I received from him during one of our conversations.    The other episode I interviewed him.   It is always such a tremendous learning experience speaking w/someone w/such great self-awareness.    Jerry's self-awareness forces me to reflect, challenge myself and dig deeper int...

Here are some questions about our emotional bandwidth & capacity when dealing with someone that is emotionally charged:    Whose emotional state impacts your emotional state?    How effective are you at being able to hold space for someone whose emotional w/out letting their emotional state impact / affect you?    Who is impacted by YOUR emotional state?    What can you do to better prepare yourse...

  These are the 7 questions I answer on this episode from my recent Missions Trip to the Dominican Republic:   1.) What fears did you come to the DR with & how have you overcome them?    2.) What did you learn from the Dominican culture that you can take home & apply to your life?    3.) What challenges do Dominicans face that you should be thankful for that you don't have?    4.) Most impactful p...

LTC Travis Walter shared a real-world example where he encountered a very toxic senior military officer.   Travis shares how he transformed a toxic leadership experience into an opportunity to grow his own emotional health & emotional intelligence by increasing his awareness & curiosity.    He even grew his faith & learned Boundaries & learned how to begin advocating for himself even if it cost so...

Just finished interviewing Adam Posner, owner of the NHP Talent Group & Podcast Host of The POZcast.    Amazing dude.   Here are 3 of the lessons I learned from Adam.    1.) Don't let life happen to you. You "happen" to life. What do you want? Go after it. Pursue it. Connect w/others that are where you want to be. Ask questions. Learn. Grow. Change.    2.) Embrace your emotions. Don't be afraid of...

What are you avoiding that you know would help you grow emotionally?    For me, I have been avoiding Amy Fiedler & Matthew Phifer, two of my favorite people that discuss skinny on Emotional Health.   Why? Why would I avoid two of my favorite content creators on emotions & EQ?    Are there any areas of your life that you're avoiding tackling / workin on? Why?    Amy Fiedler IG: https://www.instagra...

Some fascinating insights from Cory Rusin on the intersection & relationship between purpose & EQ.   We discussed some of the following topics:   Practical tips that not only apply to teenagers but also to adults in pursuing purpose. How to think about & approach pursuing one's purpose. Some really good questions to ask oneself about pursuing one's purpose.  The importance of self-awareness in the...

In this episode I share some interesting insights I've learned about energy levels & how they impact performance.   There are also a list of questions to help assess & increase awareness of your energy levels.     If you're ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/.

Such an awesome discussion w/Alden Mills!    Here are some of the things we discussed: Why have you been so successful?    Thinking - Feeling Loop: Thought - electrical impulse Feeling - magnetic charge   How well can you tell when something aligns with your values?    How in tune are you with how something feels in your body?    How would you counsel / coach yourself?    How intentional are you a...

Get ready for this one!    Lots of questions & some great exercises to do an Emotional Fitness "Test" / Audit of your Emotional Foundation.   Doing the Emotional Fitness Audit will increase your chances & likelihood of beginning & continuing your Emotional Fitness Program.    If you're ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/ .

Have you ever been bullied? How did it affect you?    Did you still allow yourself to be bullied?    Remi learned some huge lessons from her emotional growth journey:    Stress management Patience Forgiveness Boundaries   She shares how she learned each of those big lessons. Some, like me, she is still working on.   She gives some great progress on developing & enforcing her boundaries with some f...

How many people do you know have achieved mastery in their craft?    Tammy, our massage therapist, has 32 years of massage & over 32,000 bodies she's massaged.    4th Degree Blackbelt, Professor Marcelo Motta, is 43 y/o and has been training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for 30 years. He still competes at the highest levels of BJJ.    What can you be world class at?    How intentional are you at developing...

This was a very transparent & vulnerable conversation with Curt. What made this such a great discussion was how self-aware Curt is & how much (emotional) work he's already done.    He has a tremendous understanding of some of the very dark places he's been through & the lessons he's learned.    Perfectionism, depression, suicidal ideations, lessons in the valley were all things brought up & shared...

This episode was originally shot as a Facebook Live.    Emotional intelligence is comprised of self-awareness & self-management and social-awareness & social-management.    I share a couple insights from some of the executive clients I coach.    After decades of my own dysfunction, it is very important to have both the self-awareness AND the self-management.    Important note: No emotional managem...

Wow…this was an amazingly insightful conversation with Matt! He shared some     incredible thoughts & wisdom throughout our chat.       Here are some of the questions we discussed:       How did you develop your self-awareness?       How our emotional dysfunctions fit like a glove in certain relationships with others.     What % of people are emotionally unhealthy?       How hard is self-awareness...

This episode is sponsored by Sha Sparks, Author & Podcast Host, The Power of Investing in People, part of the Lima Charlie Network.    I share a (very) recent story where I reverted back to some old coping mechanisms (stuffing, avoiding, stewing & brooding) after I got triggered earlier this week.   Some things I discuss about my most recent valley: How my "stress plate" started to overflow. Emoti...

This episode is sponsored by LimaCharlie Network. Visit https://www.limacharlienetwork.com/ to connect with other amazing Active Duty Military & Prior Service Podcasters & Influencers.    In this episode I share a couple insights from a recent Coaching client w/very high Emotional Intelligence scores.    How emotionally intelligent are you?    Where did you develop your EQ from?    When did you st...

If you're ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/ .

This episode is sponsored by the EQ Mafia, a safe, supportive, encouraging, empowering emotional fitness community committed to helping each other grow & heal to maximize our gifts & bring our best to the world. Visit eqgangster.com for more details.   In this episode, I discuss the characteristics and consequences of being a people-pleaser addict for 4 decades.   I also share some of the blessing...

What a tremendous guy with an amazing story!    Surfer, International DJ, Entertainment & Tech CEO to crippling illness that left him bedridden for years back to a successful entrepreneur & founder of the tremendously valuable resource for men called Mens Groups.   Here are some of the questions we discussed about his journey:   What was the pivot point for you that led him to start taking ownersh...