Enneagram and Marriage

Eighty percent of adults say they want to write a book, but getting started can be intimidating. How does one even go about starting? How do you get an agent, and what are the first steps? Can you get help in the process? Today in this fascinating episode of the E + M pod, we're answering all these questions and so many more about the steps to making your writing dreams come true right here on tod...

It’s hard to be brave enough to step into our calling sometimes, especially if there's fear that God won’t show up for us. When we have heroes in real life or from our ancient narratives alike, we can be assured that we have a heritage of faith, tenacity, and even wins of epic proportions. Today, we are joined by exemplary scholar, Dr. Sandra Richter, PhD, Harvard-trained biblical scholar and The...

After the honeymoon years, it's easy to miss one another and see one another as enemies in relationship versus fighting for one another's dreams and aligning together. Lauren Handel Zander, Enneagram 8w7, helps you see things differently and then to find the life you're intentionally seeking together. Lauren, the developer of the highly esteemed Handel Method is an author and an international corp...

Couples work involves not just the external families each partner comes from, but also the internal systems each brings to the relationship. IFS (Internal Family Systems) research reminds us that couples can grow these internal systems with self-awareness and compassion individually and together. Today Christa offers the E + M audience a few basic strategies for doing this work together today. Joi...

It’s important that as we live out our day-to-day life that we also make sure these daily rituals we are taking part in are also truly bringing our deepest core gifts and values to light. When we are deeply intentional with rooting ourselves in our core values and then shaping our marriage relationship and social giving around that, we find the deepest joy and personal refreshment. Today, Christa...

Many would argue that the Enneagram is an extremely helpful tool to help us organize and sort out our struggles in nuanced ways so we may more accurately heal and connect with mental health treatments that work. Yet is it a scientifically validated tool? Is it historically sound against naysayers? Perhaps most importantly, do the insights help people to live better lives? Join us to learn about th...

As the Paris Olympics gets off the ground this summer, we've got a few fun recommendations for you as well as some personal growth tips for finding the shining virtues for you and your relationships as well. Join Christa (and early guest Melody Hardin) for a discussion on what to be on the lookout for this Olympic season as well as what YOU can do to get back to your healthiest expressions and vir...

Marriage issues in the bedroom can be downright confusing and complex across varying couple dynamics and seasons of marriage, especially when an unhealthy message is unintentionally filtered in from trauma in any capacity. In this short, sweet, and yet deep-diving episode, Christa walks you through the highlights of The Hidden Chapter of The Enneagram in Marriage so you can find your intimacy stri...

Do you feel a lack of direction or margin in your life or relationship? That once you do get a few minutes to yourself, you’re overwhelmed and bogged down versus experiencing the refreshment, joy, and abundant life you know you're wired for?  Today on the E + M podcast, you'll find the margin and clarity you need to thrive as we're joined by marketplace leader Carla H. Hayden, Enneagram 8, as we l...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Ones and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a One, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how...

When a couple finds themselves aligned in values and begins to take care of themselves, often they're in the position to fulfill dreams and callings in a gorgeous new way. Today we get to talk to Raeanne Newquist who, along with her husband, left a predictable and safe life for a glorious adventure on Mercy Ships, where she and her family got to help save the lives of thousands who get free and li...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Twos and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Two, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how...

Healthy parenting involves not only the journey of helping to love our kids but also understanding ourselves and the ways we handle stress. This often involves doing some healing around our own developmental stories. When we learn to self-regulate well, we bring a non-anxious connected presence of attunement with our kids so they thrive and we thrive, too. Today the Enneagram & Marriage audience i...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special, shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Threes and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Three, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in a relationship and take a special mini-peek...

Making negotiations in marriage is essential yet how we come to these is quite the task to undertake without good tools and training. Today we learn from an expert at negotiating in marriage, Dr. Wyatt Fisher (type 3/5) who has so many great tips for us today! Join in as we walk through them together strategically right here and use the tips today in your marriage for your toughest issues. Watch o...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Fours and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Four, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at h...

Today, we get to chat with Chris and Jenny Graebe (7w8 and 1w9 pairing) about how they slow down to create healthy rhythms for their marriage and for a healthy, intentional life of love and faith with their five kids. They also share from both their first book together, 📖 The Rhythm of Us, and their brand new book, The Rhythm of Home as well. They talk about how through exploring five intentional...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Fives and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Five, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at h...

Do you feel like you have a lot of work goals but can't seem to accomplish anything in the allotted time your day actually gives you? Do you feel frenetic because you're trying to do a good job at work but then your family life, not to mention your marriage or life with God, is majorly lacking? There are so many shifts we can make as humans, and each of us will have to move a bit differently to ac...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Sixes and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Six, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at ho...

As Tolkien once said, "Not all who wander are lost," and you will be even less relationally lost as you wander into learning with E + M about the ins and outs of traveling with your spouse and/or family and friends! Take some time today to invest in the tips in this episode from travel expert and geographer Angela Gilmeister, Type 1 (Wild Hair Travels, Happy Women Travel Podcast) in this extra spe...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Seven and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Seven, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at...

When infidelity wounds a couple, in the wise words of our guest today, Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph. D, best-selling author and the winner of the Thurber Prize for American Humor, there's a marriage murder mystery to be solved: Who killed this marriage, is it really dead, and can it come back to life? Join us for a riveting and deep-diving episode with Key, surrounding the events of his unexpectedly...

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Eight and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're an Eight, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at...

What a necessity it is to have great tools to process our conflict and trauma together in marriage, parenting, and relationships, and yet often in the moments of great felt threat or pain, our very bodies rise in protective styles, even possibly blocking us from doing this work. Today we get to talk about bodywork or somatics and to learn some helpful trauma tools, both in general and type by type...