Enneagram and Marriage

Timing can make or break a crucial conversation in marriage. Learn the science-backed best times for difficult discussions, understand your partner's readiness signals, and discover type-specific approaches to timing-sensitive conversations. Transform potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection. We talk about the tips through the lens of the most powerful marriage systems, Gottman...

Join us with bestselling author Tori Hope Petersen as we explore breaking free from patterns that hold us back in relationships just as she launches her new book, "Breaking the Patterns That Break You: Healing From the Pain of Your Past and Finding Real Hope That Lasts". From foster care to flourishing family, Tori shares powerful insights about healing generational wounds while building healthy c...

Join us with EJ Kerwin, LPC and Terah Kerwin, LMFT (5-2 pairing), founders of Relationship Renovation as we explore how every couple can build secure, stable connections together. Drawing from their work with countless couples across seasons and temperament combinations, join us for an episode filled with wisdom for creating unshakeable bonds. Whether you're naturally anxious or avoidant, an exter...

Join Christa as we explore the delicate dance of healing childhood wounds within marriage. Discover how to create safe spaces for growth, understand your partner's healing journey, and navigate triggers with grace. Whether you're supporting a partner through their past pain or seeking understanding of your own patterns, this episode offers practical wisdom and hopeful strategies for growing togeth...

Ready to move beyond theory into real transformation? Join us as bestselling author Stephanie Barron Hall unpacks how different types accidentally trigger each other, why some people love conflict while others run from it, and what to do when communication styles clash. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned explorer, this episode offers fresh insights and practical tools for real-life...

Ever feel like your partner's Enneagram patterns are pulling you into a dance you didn't sign up for? In this transformative episode, we explore how to support your partner's growth journey without losing yourself in their challenges. Using real-life examples (including a story about a faulty airplane seat!), discover practical ways to love your partner through their growth edge while staying grou...

What happens when your kids grow up and start their own families? How do you maintain boundaries while building bridges? In this heart-warming episode, Ro Elliot shares wisdom about using the Enneagram to navigate family transitions with grace. Whether you're becoming a grandparent, welcoming new in-laws, or simply watching your family dynamics evolve, this episode offers practical insights for gr...

Think you know the Enneagram? Think again! This myth-busting episode challenges common stereotypes about each type, including the often-misunderstood Types 6 & 9. We're diving deep into why behavior doesn't equal type, how health levels change everything, and why motivation matters more than actions. Perfect for both beginners and experienced Enneagram enthusiasts who want to move beyond surface-l...

Confused about your Enneagram type? In this beginner-friendly episode, we're exploring three powerful ways to understand your type: through Intelligence Centers (Head, Heart, Gut), Harmonic Groups (how you handle problems), and Harmony Groups (how you move through life). Whether you process through thinking, feeling, or doing, this episode will help you find your home in the Enneagram. Get ready f...

Ever wonder why your partner's different approach to life - the very things that sometimes drive you crazy - might be exactly what you need? In this energizing episode of Enneagram and Marriage, we explore the beautiful paradox of how our partner's contrasting Enneagram type isn't just a challenge - it's actually our greatest opportunity for personal growth! Whether you're a detailed Type 1 marrie...

Ready to unlock the hidden superpower your Enneagram type brings to your marriage? This week on Enneagram and Marriage, we're diving into each type's unique gifts that can transform an ordinary relationship into an extraordinary one! From the Type 2s emotional intelligence to the Type 5s depth of insight, every type has a special gift that can revolutionize your connection. Whether you're new to t...

Here on the very first episode of the year on the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast, we're exploring what meaningful resolutions look like for each Enneagram type within marriage. We'll talk about why blanket advice like "communicate better" might resonate differently with a One than it does with a Seven. We'll discuss how a Four's path to being more present looks vastly different from a Three's journe...

Ready to celebrate your love story? In this intimate year-end episode, Christa guides you and your partner through capturing your most precious moments of 2024. From belly laughs to breakthrough conversations, you'll preserve the magic of your journey while planting seeds for an even deeper connection in 2025. With our free interactive prompts (and worksheet for Collective members), you'll discove...

On today's soul-stirring episode, Christa welcomes a special guest – her husband Wes. As a social dominant, Wes has spent years mastering the delicate art of balancing his natural pull toward community and connection with the equally vital needs of self-preservation and one-on-one intimacy. Join us for an intimate conversation that weaves through the landscape of instinctual drives, exploring how...

Tis the season where you can get SO busy with trying to wrap things up at work or school that you can forget the kind of things you can wrap up in terms of presents for your people - and the kinds of gifts that just can't be wrapped up, too, like fun experiences together. This holiday, take our team’s reminders of some of the classics that each of the Enneagram types enjoys being gifted this seaso...

The people in the fictional town of Pawnee, Indiana try their best to make sure the world is run according to the best of their ideals on one of the world's favorite shows to binge, Parks and Rec. The show, a political satire, is ultimately a tribute to loving your neighbor even when your neighbor is frustrating for you and has different ideals. Today, Christa and Melody are taking a fun time-out...

When something really hard hits you around the holidays, you need both help and hope. Today’s mini-episode delivers both, and adds a spark of joy to ground you as many times as you need it as you reflect, heal, and honor the harder days and moments in your life and what they mean. Join Christa here for three important tips during or after a dark night of the soul. Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.b...

"The way to unity is not through uniformity, it is through understanding and loving the other." - Lore Ferguson Wilbert. Whether it’s your spouse, family member, or your neighbor, it’s not always easy loving someone with differences. Yet chemistry is not sameness, and today we are grateful to have Christianity Today book award author Lore Ferguson, 9 (9w8 and 6w5 pairing), Wilbert on the pod today...

The busy times over the holidays can truly take a person -- and a marriage -- down to an unhealthy level if they're not intentionally stepping into life with faithful steps. Don't miss this refreshing take on how the Enneagram Instincts/Desires can help you fall into rhythms of being present to rest, loving, and giving this season and beyond in this E + M Mini-Episode! Watch on YouTube: https://yo...

Advent begins in the dark, and at this weary time of year, we truly need reminders of what we can hope for and how we can remain with one another, despite the hardest hurts that make us want to draw away. As we do so, we're joined by the exquisitely talented, award-winning writer and senior editor at Harper One, Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4 (4-8 pairing) as she talks about her new book that addresses...

Often couples have a mismatch in their sexual desire, and sometimes that desire is stronger in the females, not just the males, contrary to popular belief, and the reasons are complex, no matter the case for either spouse. Whatever your story is, today's episode reminds you of ways you can discuss and work through your mismatched sexual desire as you walk through through this busy season with beau...

Relational triggers only get worse when we're not aware of our focus of attention and blind spots. Today we're grateful to have world-renowned psychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel, MD, (Harvard Medical School, Author of the NYT Best-Selling The Whole Brained Child) on the Enneagram & Marriage podcast to help us process relational triggers of each type and how to create a healthy window of tolerance as we w...

Communication between partners can get very sticky around the holidays so today we’re taking some time to allow you a chance to refresh and review the best ways to communicate as partners of each type. It won’t be easy at times, but these E + M quick tips will help you to have a beautiful glow all season long. Listen now to add a little sparkle of kindness into your season! Watch on YouTube! https...

We see others' shadows readily, but seeing and releasing our own shadows is where the real change begins, even as we learn to move beyond our protective but maladaptive shadow responses. Today we talk with master Enneagram teacher Leslie Hershberger about how to release your most polarizing dynamics as we walk through each and every personality type. This is a deeper dive Enneagram-specific master...

With the holidays around the corner, it’s time to get refreshed and to get into better habit-building for you and your marriage and family. Today Christa takes you through five areas for better habit-building that you can work on individually or together with us! Take a moment to set some Atomic Habits around fitness, food, communication, marriage, and tech this season. Watch on YouTube here! http...