Enneagram and Marriage

During a season of dysregulation, it's easy to forget the good of our spouse. Studies also remind us that the holiday vibes create a wishful desire for our spouse to match the latest Hollywood holiday heartthrob. But what if you settled your heart in a peaceful, loving, joyful, and also realistic way? What if you regulated yourself enough to see the good each type brings to life and to marriage th...

Though each member in a couple can balance one another out as we give to one another, there are also certain ways we crash together in terms of our head, heart, and body centers. Today's E + M listener-requested mini-podcast helps us to not only avoid predictable pitfalls when we consider the tendencies of the Enneagram types merging with one another across and within the heart, heart, and body tr...

Have you been going through the motions lately, scared to look under the surface for fear you may not be able to get back up again? Today's episode has specific tips geared toward helping you to walk from the shadows and into the light and life you were made for. Neal and Carly Samudre, founders and a therapist and coach team, expertly created a way to own and evoke healthy feelings and embrace ea...

So many times, we don’t realize that the parental overlays from our first few years of development have laid a foundation that runs deeper than we can imagine. In this mini episode, Christa runs through the dysregulation patterns of each Enneagram type just in time for the holidays so you can make sure that you are not only aware of potential connection disruptions, but also truly prepared for the...

Destiny Boyum, MT-BC, Enneagram 2w3 joins Christa on the podcast today to help our community to process how music therapy can heal and soothe and even potentially mend marriage communication, sexual intimacy, sleep, grief, and dysregulation. Don't miss this special episode on music and marriage in your Enneagram as well as our special gift to you, type-by-type audience submitted E + M playlists! L...

When the holidays get busy, it can be so easy to get lost in the shuffle of the tyranny of the urgent. However, without intention, you not only won't merge your Enneagram gifts to find your best and brightest ways to glow in the world, but worse, you can fall into the shadows. Join Christa for this mini that includes a brief writing exercise as well to get you fired up and focused together out the...

As we head into the topic of marriage communication, Christa takes us on a journey of nonverbal communication research and why the tiny nuances in microexpressions matter more than you may have ever realized. We talk about mitigating communication, good encoding, acoustic manipulations, and so mix more as we refine the very best of the 3 C’s of nonverbal communication styles in life and marriage t...

Are you feeling alone in your grief or even just stuck this season? Join Christa for a therapeutic journey of discovering ways of processing grief, learning to lament and move ahead, and honoring the story within.   Show Links:   Dr. Mekel Harris, PhD  >> Free Mindful Grief Journaling  Prompts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The dangers of a complacent marriage are many, ranging from stagnancy to infidelity, the latter of which makes trauma imminent. During the holidays, as couples get busier, marriage often gets put on the back burner and the allure is gone. However, "do no harm" can hurt just as much as an overt issue, and in this episode, we address both the makings of an affair as well as the makings of a magnetic...

How can you best shine together this holiday? This episode is not only a safeguard against stress and struggle over the holiday maritally, but it's an important shortie episode for you to remember the best ways to show up for your partner so you truly get your glow on together! Listen to tips for each type so you can remember the tips with all the various pivots across type, wing, arrow, and more...

We're digging into the nuances of how each of the nine Enneagram type communicates in terms of their communication style strengths and stressors in marriage. We've brought communications expert and Instagram influencer Steph Barron Hall, Enneagram 3 of @NineTypesCo for this special final piece of her two-part episode with us! As you listen, you can truly intentionally cross the bridge of clear com...

Types Two, Seven, and Nine stay as positive as possible and as such there are some extremely important reminders as you learn to walk through your love life with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Two, Seven, and Nine to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost!   Show Links:   Learn even mo...

We all need good tools for marriage communication as we try to stay warm together this holiday season ahead. Christa is joined for this important 2 part communication conversation by none other than Steph Barron Hall of the popular Nine Types Co. Instagram account. Here in part 1, you're getting 3 tips for communication for all couples surrounding family culture, narrative, and listening. We also...

Types Four, Six, and Eight are quite passionate and as such there are some extremely important lessons to find - and keep - love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Four, Six, and Eight to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost!   Show Links:   Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs o...

Dr. Jerome helps us to understand how we develop provocative differences in marriage over time, differences that can cause conflict but that are essentially important for brain health or neuroplasticity. In this fascinating interview on brain and body health in marriage, we look at both our top Enneagram proficiency areas as well as those in which we have a lower aptitude - we need both to level u...

Types One, Three, and Five are quite logical and as such there are some extremely important straightforward ways to finding love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types One, Three, and Five to give you a practical and simple shortie relational boost!   Show Links:   Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on all...

You bring your internal narratives to everything you do, and as such, the stories and scripts inside of you not only matter but affect your life more than you may realize. Today's podcast gives you a chance to recognize your inner narratives and offers steps to help you become more grounded as you incorporate an inner Enneagram coaching technique that you can use as you prepare to enter the ups an...

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 1, 4, and 7, create patterns of idealistic expectations that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 1,  4, and 7, and the ways they can bypass the realities and deep connections of marriage, in favor of seeking impossible ideals. Check the las...

Sometimes we do all the right steps and we still don't get the desired results with family and friends around us. Dr. Alison Cook joins us with some profound answers as she invites you to say a healthy "yes" to others even as you set boundaries for yourself. Join Christa and Alison as they discuss not only riveting points from Dr. Cook's book about boundaries in general, but also how to approach i...

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 3, 6, and 9, create patterns of comforting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 3,  6, and 9, and the ways they can bypass deep connection in favor of comfort. Stay tuned for the other types!   Learn even more in our deeper div...

In-law issues and extended family are enormous contributors to marital discord. Because of the exorbitant stress, one of the best ways to look both inward and outward at this complex dynamic is with an Enneagram 9 therapist and we're doing that on today's episode. Hailey Brown, LCMHC has not only been a counselor for the past decade but is also an Enneagram and Marriage certified coach. We get to...

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 2, 5, and 8, create patterns of rejecting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 2,  5, and 8, and the ways they can reject nurturing and accidentally bring out something they fear most, rejection from the ones they love. Stay tu...

When we're considering how to glow or even relate with a spouse from a different family pattern than us, we are often called to not only marital or personal but spiritual work as we come across our unhealthy inner scripts. It's wonderful to get to process this topic and to do a spiritual exercise to the depths with Marilyn Vancil, 9, Spiritual Director, Author, and Enneagram teacher as she launche...

In today's mini-episode with Christa, we share an extension of gratitude for the kindness and love shown in this time of Hurricane Ian crisis and our current positioning in the midst of it. Christa also mentions her dear friends Ryan and Anna Herzog and their teen daughter Lily on this episode who lost their home suddenly in Hurricane Ian last Thursday. If you'd like to donate to their GoFundMe pa...

For many, a marriage or close relationship with addiction is the norm, and yet life with an addicted partner is not only not the ideal, but is often a source of chaos, negativity, emotional upheaval, and worse, sometimes for generations on end. Join Christa in this special episode with Dr. Deborah Russo, Psy. D, who has a specialty in working with couples and addictions. Dr. Russo shares clarified...