Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

In my last podcast episode,  ERP 160: How to Deal with Anxiety in Relationship I addressed one listener's question a little more than I did the other listener's question. The information in the episode is relevant to what happens in the brain when we experience anxiety and how to work with it. Today, I want to talk a little more about anxiety as it relates to relationship security. If you listened...

Listener's question: "How to not let your anxiety disorder become a third person in your relationship and the hardest part of how to let your partner in on it and help them understand the anxiety attacks aren't because of him." Second Listener's Question: "I recently came across your podcast and I was really intrigued by your words and style of work.  I was hoping you would possibly be able to hel...

GUEST: MARTIN UCIK Martin Ucik is a German born entrepreneur who trained with Eckhart Tolle as a Power Of Now group facilitator and founded www.singles2couples.org, an Association for Healthy Relationships. His studies of Ken Wilber's Integral Model allowed him to integrate his personal experiences as a divorced father and the wisdom from over 200 relationship books into Integral Relationships: A...

In the last two episodes, I explored the drama triangle. In episode  156 , I discussed what the drama triangle is and how is shows up in our interactions with others, especially during conflict. In episode  157 , I explained how we can easily get wrapped up in the victim position and how this can negatively affect our experience in relationship…and more importantly a critical key in how to shift o...

In the  last episode , I discussed the destructive nature of the drama triangle. When faced with conflict, we may quickly see the roles of the persecutor, victim, and rescuer emerge. Although the information isn't specifically directed to a couple, it can help rid of the victim mentality in relationships. If you missed the previous episode, I encourage you to listen to it before listening to this...

TOPIC: SYMPTOMS OF VICTIM MENTALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS FEELING LIKE A VICTIM IN RELATIONSHIP IS AN AWFUL FEELING In relationship, we want and need to feel safe, loved, and valued. When difficult things happen, it can be extremely painful. Sometimes, it is a condition or circumstance that is challenging (like a health issue, family crisis, natural disaster, etc). But when our partner behaves badly or...

TOPIC: HOW TO OVERCOME ENVY IN A RELATIONSHIP ENVY Envy is a normal human experience that results from comparing ourselves to others, and the feeling that we come up short in the comparson. In the article, titled " To Love and To Envy, " by Dana Shavin, she writes "Envy is the emotion that arises when we feel that someone possesses an attribute we crave but lack." But what happens when we compare...

TOPIC: HOW TO DEAL WITH A LOVED ONE WITH CHRONIC PAIN GUEST: JACKIE BLACK, PH.D., BCC Dr. Jackie Black is a marriage expert, educator and Board Certified Coach, serving Couples Facing Life-Threatening and Chronic Illness, and Chronic Pain. Dr. Jackie Black is the creator of the 7-Week, Online Program, Couples Daring to Live Well (with illness) Program™, and the 3-Day Private Destination Retreat, C...

TOPIC: STEPS TO REBUILDING TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP LISTENER'S QUESTION "Thank you for the work you do on your podcast, it has helped me greatly in a hard relationship time. My fiancé and I were supposed to get married on June 28th. Three weeks before the wedding he met me at the courthouse to get our marriage certificate and told me that he couldn't go through with it. This came as a complete shoc...

TOPIC: DEALING WITH SELF ABANDONMENT GUEST: DR. MARGARET PAUL Dr. Margaret Paul is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio and television shows (including Oprah). Her book titles include "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By...

Topic: Fear of outshining in relationship In ERP 150: What to Do When Stuck in Self-Sabotage , I addressed how it is sometimes difficult to accept and embrace new levels of success, love and abundance. Unconsciously, we have a tendency to sabotage the expansion process because of old limiting beliefs. "The Upper Limit Problem is our universal human tendency to sabotage ourselves when we have excee...

In a recent session, a client asked "Am I sabotaging my relationship?" After being divorce and single, she has been in the process of dating. With the guy she is currently dating, she is unsure. She wants marriage and long-term partnership, and she doesn't know if he does. She wants to have an emotionally mature connection, where they are each committed to trying to resolve conflict constructively...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: Sharon writes: "I have discovered your podcast recently, and it has helped me so much in my own self-reflection and relationships. My boyfriend and I are considering moving in together, but I am a little worried. We have been together for 9 months. We sleepover with each other a few times a week, so in some ways we are kind of living together already without the financial resp...

TOPIC: RELATIONSHIP TRAUMA AND RECOVERY GUEST: DR. JANINA FISHER Janina Fisher is a licensed psychologist and international expert on the treatment of trauma and dissociation. Author of "Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors" and co-author of "Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment," she is also Clinical Director, Khiron Clinics UK, Assistant Educational Di...

Suzanne Midori Hanna, Ph. D. is a clinician, instructor, and author in couple and family therapy. Her work in medical family therapy has led to an ongoing interest in mind-body issues, mental health, and the neurobiology of cutting edge couple and family therapy. She is the author of The Practice of Family Therapy: Key Elements Across Models, fifth edition and The Transparent Brain in Couple and F...

Suzanne Midori Hanna, Ph. D. is a clinician, instructor, and author in couple and family therapy. Her work in medical family therapy has led to an ongoing interest in mind-body issues, mental health, and the neurobiology of cutting edge couple and family therapy. She is the author of The Practice of Family Therapy: Key Elements Across Models, fifth edition and The Transparent Brain in Couple and F...

Guest: Dr. Marty Klein Dr. Marty Klein has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for over 30 years. He is the author 7 books, including Sexual Intelligence and the recent His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex. Each year, Dr. Klein trains thousands of psychologists, physicians, clergy, and attorneys in sexuality. He has been...

If you missed part one, you can check it out here  ERP 142 , where I give practical explanations and examples of mindfulness. In episode  ERP 143 , I talked about important research that is showing higher levels of mindfulness contributes to happier, more satisfying relationships. In this episode, I also give you the first 3 ways that mindfulness benefits you and your relationship. 1. More Attenti...

If you missed part one, you can check it out here  ERP 142 , where I give you explanations and examples of mindfulness and how you may already be practicing mindfulness in your life. With a better understanding of mindfulness in general, let's talk about how mindfulness benefits our relationship. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and example...

The demands of modern life keep us busy and pulled in many directions. It is easy to get swept away with schedules and tasks. We hope to be more productive and accomplish more. However, we sometimes expect too much of ourselves and our relationships. To make matters worse, we often fall into the trap of thinking our relationships are self-sustaining. We believe that a good relationship just works...

"THE VALUE IN PAIN AND THE PAIN IN VALUE" In last weeks episode, I talked about Lode Dewulf's Ted Talk The Value in Pain and the Pain in Value, and how this relates to relationship pain. I highly recommend watching the video. He does a great job of describing how we compound the amount of pain we experience, by adding more layers of pain. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcrip...

"THE VALUE IN PAIN AND THE PAIN IN VALUE" Last year, I can across this Ted Talk,  The Value in Pain and the Pain in Value , by Lode Dewulf I highly recommend watching the video. He does a great job of describing how we compound the amount of pain we experience, by adding more layers of pain. Lode's teaching apply to all types of pain, physical, mental, emotional, etc. Today, I we're going to focus...

LISTENER'S QUESTION "I love your podcast! Thank you so much for all your advice. I have been dating a guy ten years my age for just over a year. The first 5 months of our relationship I was emotionally cheating with my ex. When it became open I cut off communication and worked very hard to gain back trust. It's been eight months on a rollercoaster of emotions trying to earn back trust. I did every...

Dr. Hendrix is a couple's therapist with over 40 years experience as an educator, clinical trainer and lecturer whose work has been on Oprah 18 times. In addition to Dr. Hunt's partnership with her husband in the co-creation of Imago, she is sole author of Faith and Feminism. She was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame for her leadership in the global women's movement. Helen and Harville have be...

GUEST: KATE MOYLE Kate Moyle is an Accredited Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and In House Expert and Partner at Pillow App for Couples. Pillow helps busy couples to fit intimacy into their lives in a convenient and connecting way, by providing audio-guided intimacy episodes that focus on sensual touch, communication, eye-contact and other basic forms of intimacy.. Kate is passionate about h...