EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

If you are like Aaron and had a loving upbringing with lots of support from your parents, that means you would be better set up for a strong relationship rather than if you were like Jocelyn and had your parents go through a divorce or tough upbringing right? NOPE! Did you ever think that whatever your past upbringing, it could be what is causing any hiccups in your current relationship? In this e...

You can't get 'down' enough or have a bad enough attitude to positively influence your partner. You just can't; and we prove it to you today! This episode will light a fire in YOU, and shift a destructive belief you might have about how to truly influence your partner to change. Sure, you could get your partner to be "compliant" because of your bad attitude and they just want to succumb to make yo...

This is one of the truest quotes we've ever heard: "There isn't anything that anyone wants for any other reason than they believe that they will feel better in the having of it." So everything you do in life is all for this one reason-- to feel better! The problem is that this puts your experience of life based on things you don't have 100% control over. It gets even worse for your relationship if...

Listening is not a passive action! Listening is actually an intentional action. You might not recognize the difference between when you're listening from your EGO vs your HEART. In this podcast, we're going to break down the difference- how it sounds, how it feels to you, and how it feels to your partner. None of us were really taught how to LISTEN, which can leave your partner not feeling truly u...

Have you ever found yourself or your partner avoiding direct or clear communication, evading problems, fearing intimacy or competition, making excuses, blaming, playing the victim, feigning compliance with requests, being sarcastic, or hiding anger?  All of these behaviors describe being passive aggressive! You might not have thought of this at first, but there are many couples that are experienci...

Do you find that you are physically together with your partner more than ever, yet still feeling disconnected? How could this be right? Well, connection isn't just about proximity. Connection also isn't something that you can just count on always being there. It takes attention and intention just like anything in life that you want to grow.  Today's topic came from multiple messages that we receiv...

Trust is the feeling of: "you have my back". When trust is high in any relationship you can feel that you can fly, fail, and yet still be accepted and loved by your partner. This is so foundational for a healthy, happy relationship that wants to be able to grow. When trust has been broken, whether from a big or small event, it harbors doubt, resentment, and suspicion in the relationship.  Today's...

So you have had a fight in your relationship, now what…? Right after you might feel angry or sad, certainty disconnected, or even that you do not want to be around them. This is a tough place to be in for your relationship; HOWEVER this is not the part you need to be worried about initially. It's about how long are you going to be in this period of being disconnected! This episode is all about how...

All of a sudden the personality differences that attracted you to your partner earlier in the relationship, become the things that frustrate you and cause tension! How can this be? Once you find yourself in this place it can feel like your own needs are not getting met. For example maybe you are naturally more spontaneous and playful than your partner who 'makes decisions slower' and likes to stru...

Swinging for the fence right from the start here… criticism in your relationship in one of the top four things that lead to disconnection and divorce (*The Gottman Institute). Even besides that fact, being criticized by your partner just sucks! It leads to arguments, conflicts, and a loss of connection at best.  Though it may seem like a topic that you want to tell your partner to listen to, becau...

So here you are, trying to share with your partner something that is important to you and something that you feel emotion around… Then they say something like: "you are overreacting, it's not that big of a deal",  or even "that doesn't make sense!" You immediately feel invalidated and maybe that your feelings don't matter, right? This causes many upsets and conflicts for couples and at the very le...

You know those things your partner says or does that TRIGGER you? YES trigger, meaning you have an automatic emotion that comes up that then causes you to get upset. Then from there you may both do things that hurt and keep you disconnected for hours, days, or even weeks!  You're not alone, we received hundreds of comments when we asked the community what triggers them in their relationship. This...

Avoiding conflicts in the short term only lead to resentment building in the long term! Though you may have adapted the philosophy of avoiding conflicts from other examples that you saw, or your own past experiences. It hurts your relationship by turning into resentment. You can even be a happy and growth focused couple but can start to build a rift in just a few days time.  So we took this topic...

Facing any time of challenge let alone a global down economy can have you wondering and doubting if you can pursue your passion. You may be wondering is this really the time to start or even grow a business (especially as a couple)?  You are about to find the answer to that and much more as Chris and Lori Harder share how they went from humiliation in the 2008 crash to building the foundation of t...

Ever have those moments that don't feel like they're going your way? It could be that you suddenly got into a disagreement on a seemingly great day, your kids aren't acting like you want them to, maybe one of you lost your job during the quarantine period…..or maybe your dog stepped on a cactus early in the morning (like our story) This episode is all about how to let go of RESISTING the present m...

Things have absolutely changed in the world and in your life from this pandemic. You probably experience a change in your relationship roles (including taking on additional roles you never thought you would have to) and the amount of time you are in your home and around your partner. Plus, no matter what type of job, career, or business you are in; you probably have felt an impact in your finances...

During these times of uncertainty with the coronavirus, do you find yourself torn between wanting to be really productive and taking time out to relax and just slow down? Or do you see many other people talking about finding the opportunity in these times to serve more people and grow your own influence and impact; and feel pressure to try and do the same?  Many couples are finding themselves in t...

Start your day off with a dose of laughter + power-packed content! This episode is your moment to gain 3 ways you become Stronger Than Ever during these tough times. If you follow us on social media, you've heard us say, "this time will either strengthen your relationship or strain it…..all based on your skills, actions and choices!" Since you're listening to this podcast, you obviously are commit...

In this episode you will know that expectations are the cause of any and all disappointments that have come up, or will come up in your relationship. But this is not a problem at all once you know that it's from the unexpressed or unknown expectations. You will always have expectations whether from the past that you are becoming aware of, or if you are growing and evolving as people and as a coupl...

This episode is all about the 'Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships'!  No matter what you have heard from songs, movies, or people in general LOVE ISN'T actually enough. Loving each other doesn't guarantee that you'll have a truly healthy relationship. Believe it right now or not what you need are the skills and corresponding habits to have a long term healthy relationship!  In this episode,...

In this episode you will know the most important factor for a healthy relationship: creating the right environment! You may think that sounds like focusing on your home life, yet you will have the 4 areas that create your total environment: home, relationships with other couples, geographical location, between you and your partner.  You will have a pattern interrupt method, activities to do on the...

Don't feed into the FEAR in the world right now or let it impact your family life. As you can see, the news is pumping out scare based tactics and it can be hard to compartmentalize that and keep it outside the home. The last thing you want is for outside fears (global sickness, financial economy, political future) to start to create tension and arguments between you and your spouse. What you allo...

Welcome to this new game show type episode called "HE Said/SHE Said"! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each other, live together, and have been together for years.  No matter how well you think you know your partner, you can see...

In this episode you will know that there is ONE MAJOR thing that you must stop doing in order to experience yourselves as a power couple. In this sense, it's your own version of being a power couple where you are able to approach any challenge with the skills to stay on the same team, communicate your needs and desires effectively, and pursue your purpose together.  Yet if you are doing just this...

Have you ever had thoughts that: "The sex we had in the beginning of our relationship was the best we will have", or even "I can't talk about what I want more in our sex life because my partner will be uncomfortable or unwilling to talk"?  Well if you fall into that category, you are like many other couples out there. But just because you have a lot of company, this is not a place you want to cont...