EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Complacency is that feeling of low energy and lack of engagement in a relationship. Do you or your partner ever have that sense in your marriage? This one will be a bit of a "gut check" for how you've been showing up for each other. Complacency can lead to feeling like "roommates" or just a general lack of aliveness and joy within the relationship. If complacency becomes the norm in your relations...

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. [Side note- if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take...

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. [Side note- if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take...

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. [Side note- if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take...

We're sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"! But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner. Side note: if you haven't taken the Quiz to find out your partner's "Communication Personality Type," take t...

The Argument Hangover book was released this week! Do you think you could write a book with your partner, what would that even take? Well let's dive into the behind the scenes of how we wrote this book together, where the ideas came from, who wrote each chapter, and any challenges that came up!  The intention is to have some fun hearing about how this process went and some interesting things that...

Challenges arise in every relationship and this is not something you have to try and change. It's about whether you approach the challenges as a team or against each other. To have the best shot at staying on the same team, you need to be prepared before they show up. Then you will respond rather than react to them.  Today's podcast goes into 5 Root Causes of Most Relationship Challenges. Of cours...

Toilet paper, the cost of rice, who changes the water dispenser more. These are just a few of the submissions we received from you all on IG about: the silliest things that have caused arguments. This will be an episode that you just chuckle and realize that we're all human in relationships. We all have those moments where we're fighting like it matters to us a lot, but isn't life altering in hind...

How good are you at managing your emotions as an argument begins? Do you recognize the emotion that you're feeling, but still choose your words and actions consciously? Or do you find that your emotions (anger, sadness, etc) drive your words and actions that lead to disagreements escalating to the point of hurting your partner and the relationship? The thing is, it's absolutely OKAY whatever emoti...

Life is on your side, even if you don't always feel that way! We wanted to take 10 minutes to share the crazy, unexpected, miraculous story about how we got this book deal. Why? Because it provided a life lesson that we think will inspire you in any season.  P.S. Did you order your copy of The Argument Hangover yet? It's shipping in just a few days, and you can claim $200 of bonus resources HERE  ...

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn't always happen right? Especially for men to show up as, and express, unconditional love.  Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of men are not being met. This is not to put pressu...

When your partner seems off somehow, do you ask them, "what's wrong?" I know your desire is that they express themselves, but asking this question can only make them shut down more. Odd, right? So in today's quick episode, I'll chat with you about: Why asking "what's wrong" has the opposite effect on your partner What to ask them instead if they seem "off" And what to do if they keep saying "I'm f...

Being able to fully express yourself is one of the most important aspects of being in a relationship. This is what allows you to be known by and connected with your partner! This is what leads to a healthy and loving relationship. However there is one thing to this, that could have you be dependent on them for. It will also lead to diminishing your own ability to self-sooth and self-regulate your...

The Couples Workshop is coming up on February 21st, 2021. Save your seats before it passes. To get a bonus copy of The Argument Hangover with it, enter this code when you check out: podcast2021 Your relationship is meant to be about experiencing love and connection. As time passes, there is a subtle and sneaky thing that arises that blocks you from feeling connected to your partner.  This is a sho...

Healthy relationships consist of both time together and time apart. Which of course can feel much harder (and even more necessary) right now. Perhaps you've been needing some "alone time," but haven't expressed it to your partner. Or, you've mentioned it before, but no action was put in place so it's a point of tension between you two now.  In today's episode, we'll discuss: Signs that alone time...

Don't get discouraged if your partner isn't taking as much initiative. Or if you're still running into challenges, even though you're really trying to 'work on things'. This episode will give you the dose of perspective and the encouragement you need to keep staying on track in your relationship. Real quick, did you check out the 5 Day Couples Challenge that's starting February 15th ? We don't wan...

"You are being too sensitive, just get over it, that's not what happened."... Have you caught yourself or your partner saying things like that to each other? While you might say these from a seemingly innocent place, they do NOT lead to your partner feeling good, connected, or even validated.  In this episode you will get: 6 phrases to never say to your partner The negative impact they can have (e...

You have heard it said that your past is in the past, or some version of don't cry over spilled milk. So of course that means there is nothing you can do about it right?  What if we told you that your past is not fixed? What if you could actually change your past? In relationships, it is the things that happen in the past (what your partner said or did) that we find hard to let go of. These keep y...

Small things in your relationship can be what build up and cause you to feel disconnected or upset with your partner. Of course when this happens there isn't room for the love, connection, and happiness that you desire to experience. It could be things you say to yourself like:  "Ugh, if they'd only pick up their socks, if only they'd stop being on their phone at night, if only they would eat heal...

Our happiness and motivation can't be reliant on outside circumstances. Yes, times are crazy. But we have the ability to shift our focus and mood by our daily and weekly habits. In this episode with Jocelyn, you'll hear: A story she's barely ever told about breaking her back and spiraling down to depression Our daily and weekly habits we've been doing for years How these will lead you to taking co...

Communication is not "one size fits all" and your partner might never communicate EXACTLY like you do. So you can stop trying to get them too! You can either fight against it when you get frustrated or you learn to flow with it for even more effective and connecting ways of communicating (no matter what circumstances or emotions come up). But guess what...your communication can significantly impro...

Can this be true, do you really feel discouragement or difficulty in life and within your relationship? Absolutely. If you have listened to this podcast before, you know that the point is not to avoid these types of feelings or even talking about them with your partner.  But it can feel difficult to shift out of this state even as an individual. Plus there are a lot of outside factors that contrib...

When your partner gets triggered, what do you do?...  #1: Do you react back, get defensive, and it triggers an argument? #2: Or do you lovingly hold space and help them process what came up for them? Don't feel guilty if you fell into the first category, as that is where most people fall into.  We weren't taught how to recognize and SUPPORT someone while they're triggered, especially in a romantic...

I'm an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover....

When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation , does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument ? You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding . You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship. In this episode, you'll hear: Ways to initiate the chal...