Eager to Please Podcast

The decision to get married comes with the belief that this is your partner forever and that’s why divorce hits so hard. It’s not just the end of a relationship; it’s the unraveling of your fairytale that once felt unshakable.  But the fact of the matter is, no one gets married to get divorced...

And they lived happily ever after. That's the dream, isn't it? You find "the one", settle down and share a life with someone. But when it ends, you find yourself saying "I failed". Happily ever after only exists in fairytales and Disney movies. Or does it? Join me for this intro into the world of Make Believe because maybe it does exist, it just doesn't look like how you thought it should.  Follow...

In this episode we explore the significant difference between hearing and listening - two words often mistakenly used interchangeably but dramatically different in meaning and impact.  We dive into ways we can course correct and change the way we hear versus listen. Join us!  Follow us on Facebook & Instagram @eagertopleasepodcast

Join us as we welcome our first couple on the podcast to answer all the questions around a couple's perspective on hearing vs listening and what work they've done to ensure the other feels heard. Interested in group therapy? You can check out the groups Megan supports (both in-person and on-online) here ----> Group Changes   Follow us on Facebook & Instragram @eagertopleasepodcast

Ever heard the saying "kids say the darndest things?" It's true! We can all learn something from a 10-year old. Join me in this episode to find out what that is! Follow us on Facebook & Instagram @eagertopleasepodcast

Sometimes what we really need is for someone to listen, not try and fix things for us. Join me in this episode as we start a new month, new theme...fittingly called Listen.   Follow us on Facebook & Instagram @eagertopleasepodcast

Has anyone ever said to you - "What's wrong with you?" Or, have you ever questioned why you felt a certain way and had no idea why you were having those feelings? Join us in this episode to find out why so you can stop beating yourself up and start giving yourself the grace to be who you were meant to be.  Follow us on Facebook & Instagram @eagertopleasepodcast

Join me in this episode as we sit down with Cyndi Torres, a certified counselor in Theotherapy, who has struggled with the question "Who am I and what is my place in this world?" most of her life. After years of research, putting in the hard work, and asking herself those though questions most of us avoid asking, she's come out on the other side of what she describes as feeling emotionally helples...

There's a common misconception that self-care means neglecting the needs of others, but that couldn't be further from the truth.  What's important is understanding that self-care is necessary for a person's mental, emotional, and physical well-being.  Join us in this episode as we talk about ways to avoid the "perfectionism" trap and move into ways of finding balance. Follow us on Facebook & I...

Ignoring your own needs and wants can lead down a path filled with increased stress, anxiety, and depression, in addition to strained relationships and health problems.  I've been there, and it's an exhausting experience. In this episode and the few that follow, we'll be discussing why it's so important to know your self worth, how to find it, and to never leave yourself again. Follow us on Facebo...

At what point will you decide you deserve better?  Join us in this episode as we ask ourselves these 5 questions as outlined by Joyce Chen, life coach.   Follow us on Instagram & Facebook @eagertopleasepodcast

Letting go of something that doesn't serve you well isn't always easy, but when the pain of hanging on is greater than letting go, it's time to let go. Join us in this episode with Nancy Deckant as she shares the lessons she's learned in working though some tough relationships and learning to move on. You can follow Nancy on instagram @nancydeckant You can follow us on Facebook & Instagram @ea...

If it doesn't serve you, it's time to let it go.   It’s a simple, yet powerful reminder for all of us to recognize what’s draining our energy, preventing growth and hindering our happiness - whether it’s a relationship, habit, belief or physical possession. When was the last time you checked in with yourself to identifying which areas of your life are not serving your well-being? It's time for a l...

You’ve probably heard the old saying - there’s 2 sides to every story - yours and mine. But I’d venture to go even further and say there’s a 3rd side that lies somewhere in the middle where both sides collide. It’s called the truth. Join me in this episode as we begin to analyze this month's new theme "Letting Go and Moving On" with a new song - His Story co-written with my friend and producer, Ch...

In this episode we dig into the interrelationship of avoidance and control.   Have you ever been guilty of procrastinating on tasks, avoiding social settings or pushing away difficult feelings that feel overwhelming so you can feel in control of your life? I know I have! And I came to find out there was an underlying reason I was doing it. Join me in this episode as I share what I found out about...

Joining us on this episode as we continue our conversation on avoidance is listener favorite, Megan Flores, LPC-MHSP. She describes the difference between willful and blind avoidance (and yes, there's a difference!) as well as sharing some advice on how to address avoidance in a healthy way. Her thoughts: 1) Are you able to be honest with yourself? 2) What would you say to yourself 1 year from now...

Let's be honest. We've all been in situations where we have either intentionally or unintentionally avoided doing something. Maybe it was a conversation we know we should have had or procrastinated on a task that's unpleasant or overwhelming (like work, studying or exercise)! But did you know there are different types of avoidance?! In this episode we take a closer look at some of those types and...

In this episode of the Eager to Please podcast we start our deep dive in to our new theme, AVOIDANCE, and you know what that means! A new song!   "Stay Busy" written with the infamous Steve Seskin, thoughtfully points out why people stay busy (to avoid pain or dealing with situations they don't want to deal with) but it also calls the listener to action.   You don't have to stay feeling stuck. You...

In this episode, we reflect on all we’ve talked about as it relates to the “I’m Fine” phrase and why people tend to say it. It starts with emotional wellness and according to Holly & Scott Stoner, licensed marriage and family therapists, we need to start making our emotional wellbeing personal. Ask yourself these questions: Is there a particular emotion that is challenging for you to express? ...

Why do we feel the need to tell people we're fine, everything's fine, when it's really not? In this episode we sit down with my sister, Michelle Costa, who has lived out this phrase her entire life. Sharing from personal experiences, she digs into why people do this and why it's so important to listen to your "gut feeling" when things aren't fine. Learning to lean on those people who love you most...

Change is never easy. In fact, it's terrifying! But, for the first time in my life, I truly mean it when I say I'm fine. Join me in this episode to find out why!   Follow us on Facebook & Instagram @eagertopleasepodcast

Perfect. Balanced. Happy. That's what I used to think Camelot was until I figured out that place does not exist. Sure, it's fun to imagine yourself there, but the reality is that those qualities can't be found externally. In order to find peace, balance and happiness, you have to find that within yourself. You have to learn to love and take care of the person who looks back at you in the mirror ev...

What's up Eager to Pleasers?! Just wanted to check in on you to see how you're doing and to see what you've been up to lately.   What changes have you been making to bring yourself closer to finding balance and peace and feeling more in control of your life? Drop us a note on Facebook @eagertopleasepodcast or instagram @eagertopleasepodcast Can't wait to hear from you!

Change can be scary, but sometimes it's necessary, even essential, if you're just going through the motions, not enjoying what you're doing or how you're living life.   And when you've been living your life for everyone else but yourself, it can be confusing knowing where to start.  The first step in becoming whole again is getting to know what matters to you - what values drive you.  I invite you...

As humans, we innately crave connection, belonging and purpose. But when we base our self-worth on outside factors, like productivity, financial success or what others think of us, we quickly lose sight of what truly fulfills us. Join us on this episode as we chat with MaryBeth Hyland, a values-based mindfulness coach, who reminds us that values come from within; and if we are not in alignment wit...