Dragged N Divine

What happens when you’re blindsided by a layoff, on your way to get your nails done? Or when you remember that even though you were the “one of one” in your company, they can and will still cut your role without hesitation? That’s where me and my girl Tasha found ourselves not too long ago. One email/text message flipped our whole day upside down: “Sis, my role was impacted.” A few minutes later,...

Perfectionism can feel safe… until it starts choking your authenticity. In this conversation with my sister friend Keachia — licensed therapist, coach, and truth-teller — we unpack the ways shame, the need for validation, and the mother wound shape how we see ourselves… and how we can break free. This episode has divine timing written all over it (you’ll hear why mid-recording 👀). We talk about:...

Can I just be in my feelings? Do I have to understand the lesson?! lol!!!! This was me yesterday— fully avoiding the prayer closet, chile. Knowing damn well going in there always gets me together. And maybe that’s the point. I didn’t want to recognize the lesson or get clarity. I wanted to sulk, pout, shout, and cry. (Granted, I still did most of that in the prayer closet.) This Substack is reader...

Hey y’all. Happy Tuesday! Before we get into it—yes, I sound a little different today. I’m not fully sick, but I’ve been feeling the effects of a full-body purge these past two weeks since being laid off. It’s like my body is finally releasing what I’ve been holding onto in silence for too long. So I’m just clearing space. And that feels like a win. This week’s episode is a voice note. Not because...

What if the thing that saves you isn’t hustle, healing retreats, or a big break…but a $5 journal and the decision to keep waking up? In this soul-stirring conversation, I sit down with Valencia , Elite Neuro Encoding Specialist and founder of Ease Over Exhaustion . Her story? It begins with unbearable burnout and continues with the radical power of gratitude. This episode is tender, powerful, and...

Hey y’all. So this voice note... whew. It came out of a moment that really lit me up emotionally, spiritually, and energetically. Something happened earlier this week that stirred up some divine rage and reminded me just how important it is to protect your vision, especially in its early stages. I’m talking about what happens when you share your sacred work with people who are misaligned, disconne...

You’re Not Lazy, You’ve Just Never Been Asked What You Want Let that land. Then read it again. Let’s be real. Most of us have been in go-mode for so long that when things finally slow down, even just a little, we start questioning everything. Not because we don’t deserve rest. Not because we don’t have dreams. But because no one’s ever really asked us: “What do you want?” Not “what are you good at...

Dragged and Divine: I Got Laid Off. On the Capricorn Full Moon. And I Feel... Free. Like JT said, “I'on work jobs, bitch, I am a job.” 😂 I got laid off today, on my day off. During a Full Moon. In Capricorn. And I’m a Capricorn Sun in the 10th house of career. You really can’t script it better than that. I was just trying to rest, y’all. And instead, I got released. The timing? Impeccable. Divine...

There’s a particular ache that comes from realizing you’ve been more committed to being loved than being yourself . I’ve been there. Most of us have. You bend, you shrink, you rationalize, and before you know it, the reflection in the mirror looks like someone who gave up pieces of herself just to be “chosen.” This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider be...

This week’s Dragged and Divine Thought: "You ever try to force your way forward and end up stuck in the same spot, but more tired? Yeah. Me too." This week's episode of The Mediocre Black Woman wasn’t the one I planned, but it’s the one that we needed. I had three entire episode outlines prepped. But nothing was clicking. I kept rotating, rewriting, resisting and it turns out, that was the episode...

We’re deep in the Dragged & Divine series, bestie — and today’s episode? Whew. It’s for anybody who’s ever set a boundary and then immediately questioned everything. The Thought That Sparked It All: This episode was born from a thought I had while writing last week’s Sunday Soul Session. “Maybe the fear is about not being useful — because we equate usefulness with our value. And we’ve been require...

Welcome officially to the first episode in our new series. Dragged & Divine is a space for Black women to lay down what we were never meant to carry—and reclaim the wisdom in what we’ve already survived. This series is a reckoning with the roles we’ve inherited, the pressure we’ve normalized, and the truths we’ve been told to swallow. It’s part confession, part clarity, always in service of libera...

We’re almost at the finish line with our Draft Drops—and up next is the debut of our new series, Dragged and Divine . Until then, here’s one of our final posts from the Draft Drops collection. “We opened the door and let the devil inside…” — from The Fall of Ruby Franke So I was watching Devil in the Family: The Fall of Ruby Franke , and this one line from the husband jumped out at me. He said: “W...

Whew — it’s been a time , y’all. From family resets to spiritual work, from shows to actual apartment fires (yes, really 😭), this week reminded me that clarity doesn’t always come quietly. We’re heading into a full moon in Sagittarius, and you might already feel it building. Inside this voice note:✨ Why creation flows better when you actually live ✨ What I’ve been moving through lately✨ The mo...

Here’s another one from the vault. This was supposed to be voice note #3 when I first started doing these… and somehow it’s now #34 😩. I’ve got so much new stuff I’m hype to share, but I made a promise to myself to clear the vault first. And let me tell you—this has been way harder than I thought 😭. I miss connecting with y’all in real time. Okay, hard pivot into today’s post. I wrote a note on...

Hey y’all, Happy Tuesday! I’ve been a little quiet the last few weeks. Traveling, working, healing, and spending time with family. Not only have I been doing that, I’ve also been in super crazy creator mode—as I call it. Right now, we’re emptying the drafts of all the content I’ve been sitting on. And in the background? I’m prepping a juicy series for us. It’s unfolding in the most beautiful of wa...

As part of the Draft Drops, this is the first audio episode I’m finally letting out. To catch up on the written posts from last week’s Draft Drops, click here . You know, y’all, it’s so beautiful how much we can learn about ourselves just by being in community. I think a lot of us have been conditioned to believe that healing requires isolation—like we need to go off on our own, do the work, and c...

Hey y’all, happy Monday! Just popping in with a little update before we get things rolling tomorrow. We’re starting something and we’re finishing something. Yes, BOTH. Because it’s time. If you’ve been following me on Substack, you already know we just wrapped up the written version of our “Draft Drops”—a burst of nine or so posts that had been sitting in my drafts, patiently waiting to be born in...

Warning: we’re spoiling Severance Season 2 like it spoiled our expectations. If you haven’t finished it yet, hit pause and come back when you’re ready. 🧠 Episode Summary: This week on The Mediocre Black Woman , I am joined by Qubilah to debrief the chaos that was Severance Season 2. And listen… we had thoughts. From body rolls and marching bands to random plotlines and the sudden disappearance of...

Hey y’all — in today’s voice note, I’m speaking from that space that comes after the holiday energy settles. The space where grief, exhaustion, silence, or even confusion tend to rise up — especially after something like Mother’s Day. For those of us navigating loss, complicated family dynamics, emotional performance, or even numbness... this voice note is for you. In this episode, we explore: * T...

Happy Tuesday, y’all. If you’ve been around The Mediocre Black Woman for a while, you know I don’t talk politics too often here. And that’s intentional. Because truthfully? Just being born Black is political enough. I created this space as a soft landing spot—for us to breathe, to laugh, to stretch out, and just be without all the noise. So if your bandwidth is low today and you’re not up for a sh...

This week’s voice note is a reminder that you’re doing so much better than you think you are. We talked in Sunday Soul Sessions about how strategy isn’t always about what more you can do — sometimes it’s about what you need to stop doing. And one thing we have to stop doing is doubting the beauty of our own natural rhythm. I’m sharing some reflections on how letting go of “traditional” goal-settin...

Good morning and happy Tuesday y’all. This voice note is coming to you fresh—recorded just this morning at 4 AM while the veil was still thin and the house was still quiet. There’s something about those hours before the sun rises that makes clarity hit different. You know? I’ve been traveling, resting, dreaming—and somewhere in the stillness, a new download dropped right into my lap yesterday. Wha...

Happy Tuesday! Dropping a little voice note for y’all today because I’ve been sitting with a revelation that just keeps unfolding in layers. And I figured if it hit me, it might land for you too. For a long time, I tried to live, work, and show up like everybody else. But the truth is—I’m not built like everybody else. I’m rare. And so are you. Our souls came here with very specific blueprints. An...

I sat down with the intention to do a Sunday Soul Session collective message. And then I laughed… because all day I had already been saying, “I’m not doing soul sessions today.” The call just wasn’t there. Yesterday’s Libra full moon was gentle for me—peaceful, even. As someone with a Libra full moon in the 7th house, I expected more of a stir. But instead, it was soft. And soft doesn’t always wan...