Dr. Gary Bell's Absurd Psychology

In the contemporary culture of speed, how many of us have developed the sensory capacity to hear the world, or for that matter, to truly hear what others are saying to us? This show will cover all bases when it comes to learning how to and practice deep listening. The better we hear with all our senses the richer and more meaningful our life becomes. Tune in and learn how top harness deep listenin...

It is past time that we rethink what we mean by the words normal and abnormal as those words apply to the mental and emotional states and behaviors of human beings. Indeed, it is a real question as to whether those words can be sensibly used at all, given their tremendous baggage and built-in biases and the general confusion they create. This is not an idle question without real-world consequences...

What will make the most important difference in the lives of our children? One way of assessing the future impact of our efforts is to consider what people remember best about their childhood relationships with their parents. The most memorable childhood experiences reflect critical qualities of the relationship formed between child and parent. Relationships develop over time as products of the or...

It is certain that being insensitive is an undesirable trait, but does that mean that the opposite, 'being sensitive', is a desirable one? Apparently, in our Western society we cannot make up our minds: We consider either being insensitive or being sensitive to be unfavorable. Society demands that sensitive people develop thicker skin, and that insensitive people be more considerate. Tune in and l...

All of us will feel trapped at some point, whether that be in a job, house, neighborhood, financial circumstance, religion, family or relationship. Usually feeling trapped can be easily remedied by simply doing something new … but it's not always that easy. When feeling trapped becomes a persistent problem, one that makes you feel hopeless, then it's time to take a serious look at your life. Tune...

Regret is a negative cognitive/emotional state that involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome, feeling a sense of loss or sorrow at what might have been or wishing we could undo a previous choice that we made. For young people, regret, although painful to experience, can be a helpful emotion. The pain of regret can result in refocusing and taking corrective action or pursuing a new path. Howeve...

The age we live in has the fattest and greediest people ever. With too much stationary time sitting in front of phones, televisions and computers people eat and plot and scheme how to make more money. These are both survival rated and deep into our genetic make up. Are we human enough to take control of these impulses or will they drive our life? Tune in and learn how to channel our energies and g...

What is the purpose of life? Is there a God? What on Earth are we doing here? Among life's big questions, the one that has always interested me the most is: Who am I? I imagine that other people find this question to be very interesting and meaningful as well. Human beings are hyper-social creatures. We care a lot—at times, too much—about what other people think of us. As such, it seems natural th...

Why do people believe in God? For most people in the world, the answer seems obvious: Because it's self-evident that God exists. From the point of view of the believer, the really puzzling question is how anyone could not believe. There was once a time in the prehistory of our species when nobody believed in a god of any sort. Our evolutionary ancestors were all atheists, but somewhere along the w...

One of the greatest Human challenges we all face is ourselves. Lack of Self Control and moving that to Self Discipline makes our lives productive, memory filled and healthy. Anything hard makes our lives easier. This show is about change and grabbing those tools needed to make the unattainable attainable. Self love is learning how to say No to anything that will hurt you. Self control curbs our im...

Reading people in this day and age can be hard. Many of our relationships are now on-line, over the phone and rarely in person. However, our meta-communication (non-verbal) can give us answers to many things most would never admit. There are also verbal clues and word choices that can complicate and contradict what a person is saying with their words. By improving our ability to read people, we na...

Quality of life is a general term that simply infers stability, health and consistency. However, most of this world operates paycheck to paycheck, indebted up to our ears, owning little of value and rent. Some people have some of these areas covered, but the quality part is missing. We are going to take a deep dive into how to make better choices for our peace off mind and more stable mental healt...

When a baby comes into a couple's life, extra stress and strain is understandable. In a healthy relationship, the couple tends to pull together and is aware that any tension and discord are a result of adding new responsibilities and demands. In general, when it is "just" new baby stress, the situation tends to improve dramatically when the couple is able to get more sleep and spend time together...

Apathy is the opposite of love. People who pass around apathy as their go to emotion are extremely hard too deal with. Their biggest issue is that they think that protects them from being hurt. These folks are deeply insecure and apathy consumes them until they are in the presence of something they enjoy. This show is about how to deal with them and hopefully change them. Tune in and learn.

Metrosexual is a blend of metropolitan and heterosexual, coined in the 1990's describing a man (especially one living in an urban, post-industrial, capitalist culture) who is especially meticulous about his grooming and appearance, typically spending a significant amount of time and money on shopping as part of this. It is somewhat of a turn on what European men from France and Italy are character...

Financial issues (especially long term) are one of the top issues relationships and families break apart. When people live paycheck to paycheck they are vulnerable to any and every unpredicted event that requires finances to dig themselves out. Whether it is fixing their old Hoopty (car), credit card spending or losing their job. Life is hard as it is, but having your main means of survival to be...

At some point in our lives, many of us end up with neighbors from Hell. If it be noise, trash, smelly food, dog poop, party animals, fighting, drinking, etc...This causes enormous emotional and mental damage on anyone. It might even takes years off your life. This show is about how to deal with them and how to heal yourself. We will take the high road, road in-between and the low road as the ultim...

Parenting can be so challenging in the day and age where technology grows faster than our emotional development. Are are children are little marketing tools to be ideas with ideas, behaviors and values that they see on the internet, television or radio by any given program. In our fast, two parents (or worse one) busy lifestyle, keeping up with this can be overwhelming to the point of giving up. T...

A family is dysfunctional if they regularly experience conflict, misbehavior, or abuse in a way that causes some members of the family to accommodate such inappropriate actions. Dysfunctional families are often the result of one overtly abusive parent and one codependent parent who turns a blind eye to the misbehavior. Dysfunctional parents may learn their behavior from their own parents. Sometime...

Millennials are, arguably, the most reviled generation in recent history, and tons of consultants are working to decipher them. Called the Trophy Generation, notorious for receiving prizes simply for showing up, they are thought to be entitled, narcissistic, self-promotional, coddled, opinionated, whiny, and needy, especially at work (when they're not complaining about unemployment, that is). They...

A paraphilia is a condition in which a person's sexual arousal and gratification depend on fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme. A paraphilia can revolve around a particular object (children, animals, underwear) or around a particular act (inflicting pain, exposing oneself). Most paraphilias are far more common in men than in women. The focus of a paraphil...

Mind games are often subconscious patterns people use to get what they want. Most of these games are learned in childhood and often become assimilated as automatic defense mechanisms. In addition, people who are controlling often subconsciously seek out people who are most responsive to their mind games as a sense of attraction and friendship. This episode is about unpacking those games, learn how...

Depression and Anxiety can become you. Over 70% of people with Depression also suffer from Anxiety and vice versa. Both will stop you in your tracks and gradually (sometimes immediately) destroy your soul. They turn your decision making into emotional reactiveness. This lack of control puts you into an insecure state where you feel vulnerable and afraid. You are either Depressed because you are an...

The philosopher Richard Rorty talks about people's "final vocabulary" words and phrases we use when we're done wondering about something. Will, Faith and Trust can be the most influential thoughts, actions and beliefs a person can have. If the fundamental premise of all our thoughts came through these words on a consistent, if not automatic, process, then our lives would thrive. Dreams would come...

The unconscious is sometimes referred to as the "shadows of the mind," but it is not some black hole of unacceptable impulses waiting to trip you up. It can, however, be a source of hidden and often disturbing beliefs, fears, and attitudes that affect your everyday thinking and behavior. We may hold these thoughts down because they feel threatening, yet we know suppression isn't a long-term soluti...