Dr. Barbara Byers

We can change our mind by recognizing faulty thoughts and misbeliefs, and by choosing to live in renewed thought by through God's empowering Spirit.

Self-care is essential for our well-being, for preventing burnout, and for staying the course in the long-run.

Our soul is the land that belongs to us. By this last chapter I hope you are recognizing the interrelationships between each capacity of the soul. As we continue to increase in the Lord, growing in grace and maturity, our soul’s voice becomes stronger and surer. Since spiritual formation doesn’t happen by default, deliberately engaging in holy habits will help us press on to know the Lord. Our sou...

How do we find God’s will? Here are some things to consider along the way.

We experience real transformation as we become mature and complete in Christ. As we experience continued growth and transformation throughout our lifetime, Jesus is taking over more and more ground in our souls -- revealing, conquering and redeeming the depths and intricacies of our soul. When the Lord is working within, He recreates every capacity of our souls, omitting nothing. Our collaboration...

Pain is inevitable and life can be difficult but God’s grace is ours to lift us up and bring redemption to our story.

Pain is inevitable and life can be difficult but God’s grace is ours to lift us up and bring redemption to our story.

Introspection: What is it? A unhealthy habit of inward self-examination, thinking and rehashing. Exercise of looking inward to find truth, pre-occupied in our minds with the past or the future. Isolates us in a lonely monologue. Leads us to despair, shame, guilt, pride, uncertainty. Can be very seductive and dangerous, developing into a stronghold where the demonic hides. Self-examination through...

God is good and he wants us to know and be filled with his goodness.

God’s Image Gen. 1:27 So God created man in His own image. Vital part of our gender identity is our personhood in His image – with the strength and initiative of the masculine and the beauty and tenderness of the feminine. God’s design is to release His image into humanity, in both male and female. We can have severe gender confusion and confusion about our own masc-fem identity. Two attributes wi...

Worry is a habit of mind that creates unease and apprehension. But we can learn to “cast our cares” on the Lord.

What is a sense of being? To have a sense of being is to have a sense of fullness and richness as a person. It is the ability to truly say: “I am and my personhood is good.” It involves the deep security of knowing we are, we have a solid existence, and that: we have value and worth, it is well within us and can enjoy being alive, we have the ability to trust and be connected with others, we belon...

God calls us to know him in the secret place with him, a place of love and friendship, security and safety.

Prayer is about faith and intimacy as God invites us into conversation with him.

Desire is a well of energy within us, the great capacity to dream, hope, yearn and aspire to that for which we long. C. S. Lewis and Fr. John Gaynor Banks write of desire as a “radiant thing,” the “mighty force” that is “part of the atomic energy of the soul.” If desire is indeed beautiful, radiant, and explosively powerful why then do we not live alert and fully alive to our deep hearts’ desires?...

When we seem to be unseen or unrecognized, these times of hiddenness or times of restriction, often hold gifts for us.

The origin of the word emotion is from the Latin emovere which means to stir, to disturb, to move out or move through. So, to experience emotions is to have inner movement. (MacNutt lecture 2009). God designed us to express our emotions in healthy, reflective ways and to enjoy a full life of properly ordered and energized emotions. This is an essential and beautiful living energy of the soul, like...

Anger is an essential but often misunderstood emotion. How we express it reflects our maturity.

Anger is an essential but often misunderstood emotion. How we express it reflects our maturity.

Appetites are the connectors between the body and the soul. Appetites engage all of our bodily senses and are the energy of the body: hunger, thirst, rest, sexual drives, exercise and touch. Legitimate needs (interconnected with our thoughts and emotions and desires) that help us survive and thrive, enjoy life, connect with others, take care of ourselves in good ways. Appetites are like power supp...

The will is vital in our development and needs to be fully alive, healthy, strong, and active so the we can choose resolve and initiate. The will is the prime minister of the soul.

“Marriage is intended to be a way in which man and woman help each other to become what God meant each one to be, their deepest and truest selves.”

The conscience is a guardian of the gate into our soul. The voice of the conscience is: “I guard, or I watch.” As gatekeeper its function is to keep in righteous and worthy thought and choice while keeping the unrighteous and unworthy barred from entry. But if the wrong things have been allowed in, then the function of the conscience is to produce true guilt so that wrong can be faced and remedied...

Blurb: Regret can disable our future by locking us is the past. Learn how to leave regrets behind and move forward.

Self-acceptance is an attitude we develop. It is about our inner vision ... a healthy love, honor and regard for ourself.