Down To Earth with the Burucharas

Studies and debates have gone on for decades regarding this question: can members of the opposite gender be friends? Join us as we tackle this topic exploring the following question:- Why does it even matter?- Are there any differences between same-gender and opposite-gender friendships? Should there be?- What are some guiding principles? - What if your partner is not okay with your friend of the...

We’re so excited to introduce our first guest duo, Steven and Tamara Conway, a couple we admire with a wealth of experience and wisdom, as they share how baggage & dysfunction from our past reveals itself in our present relationships and how we can confront it individually along with our loved ones. We hit on many relevant topics including:- How marriage reveals hidden dysfunction- The importa...

Richard Carlson, the renowned psychologist, once said “Reflection is one of the most underused yet powerful tools for success.” Sometimes the pace of life, even during a pandemic, outpaces our ability to process it all; we can't believe it's already been a year of being married! So in today's episode, we take a step back to reflect on some lessons that our first year of marriage has taught us abou...

In today's episode, we share one of the most challenging parts of our relationship: dealing with anxiety. Callie is diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) — and it has impacted our relationship in some key ways. We explore how it's been for both of us, especially early on in our relationship and how we’ve worked through this reality over time. We also share important considerations and reco...

On this special 20th episode, we’re excited to welcome Charlene Coutet as she shares about her recently published book on relationships, My Child Wake Up. The book follows the journey of her romantic relationship mistakes and how a vivid dream led her to discover a powerful, logical, and practical remedy to her heartache and a way forward to better relationships. Some key themes we discuss are:The...

In today's episode, we share 3 qualities of safe people — the kind of people that help you, care for you, and are trustworthy. We also discuss how to interact with unsafe people — should we just avoid them at all costs? Aren't we all to some extent unsafe?--------------------------------We're eager to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Got any questions, topic suggestions, or just want to get in t...

In this episode, we dive into a topic we're asked about as soon as people meet us: intercultural relationships. We look differently, talk differently, and come from different continents. How has that affected our relationship? Specifically, we focus on the following questions:- When did it hit us that we were in an intercultural relationship?- What was it like as a recipient of societal pressures...

In today's episode, we're excited to welcome Anil Kanda. Anil is one of our favorite speakers and we love his energy and deep, provocative insights into life’s toughest problems. Today he walks us through a fascinating and practical discussion on chemistry and compatibility. With insight, personal stories, and honesty, we touch on:- What's the difference between chemistry and compatibility? - Whic...

In today's episode, we delve into the importance of honesty in a relationship. Sometimes we fall into two extremes: we're either so honest that we are better labeled as rude, or we keep more than we should to ourselves in the name of "kindness". What's the balance here? What kinds of things should we share with our significant other — and how? Are there ever times that we should keep secrets? Is i...

In today's episode, we share how we moved from an intentional friendship to officially dating/courting. We also explore that phase of a relationship that often defines this stage: the honeymoon phase. We got into some unplanned discussions about chemistry during the last portion of the episode, and we'd love to know your thoughts! Amidst Callie's weekly soapbox and a story about Indian curry stain...

In today's episode, we're grateful to have Israel Ramos, a long-time friend and mentor. We sought out him and his wife Judy to be part of our pre-marital counseling and are still benefiting from those meaningful discussions! In this interview, we discuss two radical perspectives on commitment and further explore different reasons people, particularly men, struggle with commitment in their relation...

FOMO is one of those millennial-esque terms; but we don't believe its experience is reserved for Millennials or even this decade. The fear of missing out can negatively impact our decisions and frames of mind, especially in the realm of relationships. In this episode, we dive into two kinds of FOMO, how it can impact even our closest relationships, and how to have a more balanced view of what we h...

In today's episode, we share about the stage of our relationship between confessing our feelings for each other and becoming official/starting to date. Instead of taking our mutual feelings as a guarantee we should be in a romantic relationship, we decided to begin an intentional friendship. Through our experience and insights we gleaned from others, we delve into:- How we confessed our feelings f...

In this episode, we welcome (Auntie) Ruth Matoya to share her wealth of meaningful experience helping others as a licensed counseling psychologist. Sometimes we think counseling is the place we go when we're on the way out — we only go to counseling as a last resort if nothing else works. Instead, Auntie Ruth demystifies both the purpose and the long-term effects of counseling. Join us as we explo...

Why do we sometimes tell people "yes" when we really want to say "no"? Why do we sometimes get mad at people for asking for our time? And who are these mythical people that seem to be so in control of their time, have no problem with telling people no, and yet are still kind about it? The answers to all of these questions center around boundaries. There are so many relational heartaches and obstac...

On this episode, we delve into that awkward space between friendship and something more: where you're starting to develop feelings, but aren't sure if the other person feels the same, or what you should do at that point, and the anxiety can be high! We share that phase of our relationship, how it came about, and how it felt for us at the time. We then focus on one of the biggest causes of heartach...

In today’s episode, we are excited to welcome Justin Kim, a colleague, friend, mentor, and Old Testament timeline aficionado (Callie insisted on putting that in). Justin shares how leaving a position at Harvard and drastically switching career trajectories impacted his relationship search during his 20s. Through both personal experience and learned principles, he also shares about:Being set up wit...

We all want to have healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful relationships — so why do sabotage them? It definitely takes two people to create a wonderful relationship, but sometimes its failure has little to do with the other person and a lot to do with us. Why is that? What are we so afraid of? And more importantly, how can we stop allowing these fears to sabotage our relationships? In this episode,...

One of the most common questions couples receive is…“So, how did you two meet?” We love answering this question, mostly because it’s not what people expect — it also depends on who they ask: David gives a great summary, and Callie excels in the details. On this episode, join us as we share more about our story, and as we discuss key questions such as:Were we soulmates? What defines a soulmate? Is...

In today's episode, we are excited to welcome Sikhu Daco, a good friend and theology buff. She shares about her years of marvelous contentedness as a single woman, while still being open and searching for a relationship; and accomplishing both while living out her purpose. Living in a romantic-relationship-centric society, we are often bombarded with the idea that our value and identity are determ...

If you've been on social media during the last few weeks (July 2020) you've likely heard about the six-year-old boy, Bridger Walker of Wyoming, who became an internet hero for jumping in front of a dog that was running to attack his little sister. He suffered 90 stitches to his face as a result of dog bites but his heroic sacrifice will awe the world for years to come. This had us thinking; while...

While we're certain that you'll find out much more about us as we explore different phases of our relationship in future episodes, we thought it fitting in today's episode to pull back the curtain on our individual lives before we met in 2014. In this more chill conversation, through laughs and reflections, we discover some similarities and differences between our upbringing and then transition in...

What's the difference between being interested in someone, liking them, and loving them? What exactly do these terms mean experientially? Do defining these terms matter? On this episode, Sebastien Braxton, a special friend, mentor, and our very first podcast guest, shares with us the simple yet insightful framework called The Relationship Continuum to help us define the different feelings and thou...

On the first episode of Down To Earth with the Burucharas, we'll briefly share what this podcast is about and why we decided to launch this project, before diving right into today's topic that we believe is relevant to everyone listening! With all that's going on in the world this year, it's likely that you've had, are having, and will continue to have tough, uncomfortable, and possibly emotionall...