DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Welcome to the show, Lair Torrent.  He is a marriage and family therapist and author of the book THE PRACTICE OF LOVE.  His superpower is uniting eastern-based mindfulness practices and western clinical models and creating a unique approach to healing.  It does get a little crazy and fun towards the end of the podcast, but it lends itself to the fact we are all human and a little laughter is good...

Wayne, a personal development coach and content creator, discusses his book 'Setback or Stepping Stones: It's Your Choice' and shares insights on overcoming setbacks and turning them into opportunities. This subject can really be applied to the divorce recovery space.  While emphasizing the importance of self-care, managing negative self-talk, and building self-confidence, he also highlights the r...

Possessing rich expertise in both education and martial arts training, Tim McCarthy has leveraged his background to create a straightforward framework for nurturing children's growth.  Tim holds a Master's Degree in Education and the elite distinction of Grandmaster in the martial arts.  By synthesizing insights garnered over many years as an instructor and administrator across public and private...

Episode 024 is a special one to me.  I think the coparenting realm is not discussed enough in divorce recovery.  I know there are wins and losses.  The losses are so devastating to dads.   Welcome Tracy Poizner to the show.  She is a mind/body wellness expert that focuses on counseling men dealing with child alienation during or after divorce.  So many questions - what is it, how does it happen, a...

Gabriel comes to us from the Superbowl city of Las Vegas.  Being a first time father, he has developed special skills to assist men and women in their battles and differences in co-parenting.  In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab podcast, Gabriel, a parenting coach and author, joins the host to discuss co-parenting and raising children after divorce. Gabriel shares his personal journey and m...

Dr. Tony is my first in-studio podcast guest.  It was refreshing not to deal with any technical problems for the first time!  We have been friends for over 30 years so getting him on the show is really special.  His wellness and healing background is immense.  It was like we didn’t leave any stones unturned in our discussion that couldn’t help men over 40 healing from the devastating effects of di...

Yannick Picard, a mindset and confidence coach, discusses various topics related to personal growth and recovery after divorce. He emphasizes the importance of self-love, overcoming self-doubt, and developing resilience and self-confidence. Exploring the concepts of perfectionism, fixed mindset vs growth mindset, and the role of transformative emotions, he encourages individuals to tap into their...

Emotions are one of the facets of men over 40 going through or in a post-divorce recovery state that can throw him for a loop.  It can be dealing with coparenting or just going through a divorce.  Most men have no clue how to handle the sometimes overwhelming nature of emotional turmoil.   I have found and interviewed The Emotions Doctor - Ed Daube, Ph. D.  Coming from sunny California, his missio...

The book ‘ I Just Want This Done’ by Raiford Palmer, J.D. helps smart, successful people get divorced without losing their kids, money and minds.  I was stoked to get him on the podcast and talk about his guide, his professional and personal take on divorce - especially from a man’s over 40 point of view.  Having gone through a divorce himself, Raiford’s experience is backed by him walking the wal...

Kashaun comes to us from the warm city of Atlanta, GA where he is a motivational speaker, exceptional author and founder of Champion Nation - an organization dedicated to transforming the lives of men, women and children everywhere.  It felt like two friends having coffee discussing all about the healing and wellness spaces.  After sharing his history from childhood on, Kashaun dives into some of...

Emotional embuffination - what is it?  David Enevoldsen comes to us from Phoenix with just that premise….  Get your emotions buff.  Being a former divorce attorney and being divorced himself, David witnessed first hand how emotions ran toxic during and after a divorce process.  With a psychology background, he developed a program and tactics to make people more suited to emotionally overcome confl...

Eli comes to us from a clinical social worker background in which he  transformed into a relationship coaching practice.  After working on himself, he found that he knew exactly what singles needed to find the right one - themselves.   Discussing healthy dating, Eli explained why ‘my friend’ stayed in relationships too long and put off the breakups so long.  I found that you don’t have to find the...

Welcome Seth Nelson, Esq. to the podcast.   While being a practicing family attorney in Tampa Bay, Florida he prides himself in getting the best and fairest settlement and/or result for his clients.  Seth has seen clients struggle and argue over the most unimportant issues in their divorce while the underlying reasoning for their position is still unresolved.  We discuss common misconceptions, key...

In this episode, I interview James Christensen, a licensed marriage therapist, about divorce recovery and relationship repair. James comes at divorce recovery from a totally different approach than I’ve ever seen before.  He states men need to locate the pain they are feeling from the devastation of the divorce in a precise location on the body and work on that area.  Sometimes the out-of-control...

How do I even write these show notes?  Michael and I crossed paths through Facebook years ago as he was just starting his podcast.  He has ‘blossomed’ into so many extensions of the men’s divorce recovery space.  With a podcast, website, coaching abilities and a host of other media to help men who are going through one of their most devastating moments in their lives, Michael keeps it fresh with n...

You would think that technical staffing and divorce recovery as so far apart like oil and vinegar.  But not so!  In my interview with Mark Aylward, who shares his experiences with divorce,  offers advice for men over 40 going through similar situations, Mark discusses his transition from a technical recruiter to a career as an executive coach, emphasizing the importance of passion and storytelling...

Luke Schillings, host of the After the Affair Podcast, shares his personal experience with betrayal and divorce and how it led him to become a relationship and infidelity recovery coach on the Divorce Recovery Men Over 40 Podcast.   He emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-trust in the healing process and discusses the stages of infidelity recovery while also introducing the self-coachin...

In this podcast episode, I introduce Rob Anthony who discusses the importance of listening and responding in conversations, particularly in heated discussions. Rob's new podcast 'Are We Done Yet?' explores the concept of being polarized in conversations. He reflects on his personal experiences in divorce and the lessons he has learned. While discussing the importance of disagreeing with kindness i...

In this podcast, Justin Glaser discusses his book 'Sweat: Uncovering Your Body's Hidden Superpower' and the importance of sweat for health and vitality. He explains the benefits of sweating for detoxification and the impact of toxins on our health. While exploring the history of sweating practices in different cultures and the use of sweat for mental health and resilience, he discusses the differe...

In this episode, George V. Gonzalez discusses his book 'Answer the Call: Life Lessons From Family Origins Through Invention and Struggle’  and how it relates to divorce recovery for men over 40. In sharing how he was called to write the book during the pandemic and how it focuses on reassessing goals and aspirations, he also talks about overcoming rock bottom, turning pain into positive energy, an...

In this conversation, J’Anmetra Waddell Shanaut, a transformation advocate, discusses the process of recovery and transformation after divorce, particularly for individuals over 40. I thought a woman's point of view would be interesting. She emphasizes the importance of giving oneself permission to change and be different, while also providing a support system to navigate the journey. The conversa...

In this episode, Rolland Sarver discusses the importance of recognizing and celebrating one’s value, especially in the context of divorce recovery.  While emphasizing the need for self-care, self-love and helping others, he explores the difference between ego and true value and getting out of one’s comfort zone for personal growth.  Rolland highlights the significance of being trauma-informed and...

Well men over 40. Wanna get a different podcast from all others?  Listen to this one from Dr. Orest Komarnyckyi.  He is an interviewer, podcaster and government-certified Old Guy.  Orest has embraced his later years and explains how they are some of his best yet and how you can get there too.  Funny, edgy and not predictable, I found Orest straight forward in his tips, tricks and methods to help m...

Twice divorced, Paul Zolman has experienced the plight of finding out what love actually is.  It can mitigate the pain of being rejected through divorce.  Even children can use this pain reliever.  Paul is a divorce recovery expert and the creator of the Love Language Cube.  He has a background in finance and accounting and has used his personal experiences to develop a unique approach to love and...

How can a man be strong during and/or after a divorce?  Elliott Katz’s theories dive into that reality.  He says the most important part of recovering from a divorce is to look at yourself and realize what you need to learn from it. Blaming the other person won’t get you down the healing path you need to be on. How should you have been different?  Getting back to the basics of the men being hunter...