Don't Cut Your Own Bangs

If the way we want to feel isn't alive somewhere inside us, then we're more likely to stay stuck in the mindset of our problems. While choosing joy in the midst of insanity might feel like a bold and radical choice, joy is the rocket fuel we need to get us where we want to go. In this episode, I discuss tactics that help us tap into the joy that can be lying dormant inside us. Window-shopping joy ...

Our desire to attract more loving relationships relies on our ability to be honest and loving toward ourselves. In this listener's favorite episode from January 2021, I revisit what this has looked like in my own life and explore the importance of finding acceptance and comfort in our authentic selves, which can set the stage for growth.      If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and s...

This episode comes in the wake of another horrific school shooting and many of the people I've encountered over the past week are struggling because of it. So, I'm compelled to use this time to address the concept of fear brought on by secondary trauma and how we can get stuck trying to process that fear. Through biologic evolution, our bodies have been hardwired with the classic fear responses: f...

In this Listener's Favorite from November 2020, I revisit compassion fatigue and empathy with Liesel Mertes. Liesel is a workplace empathy consultant and founder of Handle with Care Consulting .  In the wake of Covid, workplace empathy has taken on even greater importance, but so too has the need for compassion and empathy in every aspect of our lives today. For many of us, the lines between work...

Women have always known that building community with other women creates a powerful force for good. Leslie Bailey, the co-founder and CEO of Indy Maven, has transformed that knowledge into a lifestyle media company and community for women that epitomizes her spirit of collaboration, support, and inspiration. And now she is creating even more opportunities for the community by launching a new socia...

I'm excited to introduce you to Dr. Katye Tuyo, PT, DPT, an orthopedic and pelvic health physical therapist. In this episode we learn that everyone—regardless of gender—has a pelvic floor and its health plays a vital role in our overall health and wellbeing. I learned this firsthand as a patient, which is why I've asked Katye to share her expertise. This episode is not just for new parents. Katye...

When you're caught up in the details of everyday life, it can be easy to "forget" how remarkable our loved ones are because we're around them so much. By dedicating time for interruption-free discussion that might not happen organically over dinner, we can reconnect in important ways. So I thought it would be fun to "check in" with my husband, David Dellen, and share that discussion with you. Sinc...

Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion. And let's be honest, it doesn't feel that great when we experience it. ⁣ BUT, what does it look like if we approach our jealousy with a little compassionate curiosity? In my experience, jealousy is calling our attention to deeper desires that we may not be fully aware we have.  When we're riding the jealousy train, we might find ourselves falling into...

Doubt - What does it mean? Why do we feel it? What do we do about it? A preview to upcoming episodes, and what to expect from the podcast moving forward. Doubt - Why do we feel it? What does it mean? How does it affect our behavior? And, what the heck are we supposed to do when we feel it? I share a journal entry (in real time) as an example for when I last experienced doubt, how I felt, and share...

Being gaslit can feel like you're carrying a lunch tray and someone smacks it up in your face. It wasn't your doing, but somehow you're the one with chocolate pudding and pizza all over your clothes. It's messy, confusing, and often leaves you doubting yourself.  In this week's solo cast, I'm exploring gaslighting. What it means. What it sounds like. What it does to our relationships. And more imp...

Erica Ballard is joining me in this week's episode of Don't Cut Your Own Bangs. What's in the episode? BIG learning. & Whole-hearted belly laughs. We talk about adjusting to the curveballs of life, deep dive into all the ways we AREN'T alone, why connection matters, and why companies have to start doing more to support the mothers that work for them. Meet Erica Ballard.  A woman who jumped from jo...

Episode 100 of Don't Cut Your Bangs is here! What. In. The. World. How did this happen? What a wonderful wonderful (written 2x for emphasis) thing to write and say.  In this week's episode, I enlisted the help of a friend and coach, Juanita Molano Para . She's a former guest turned temporary host that took me down memory lane, and together we explored the following: What does celebration mean?  Wh...

Social media influencer, producer, and expert Kenzie Kittle and I take a deep dive into the underbelly of social media - Villains, Bullies & Trolls. What is it like to be trolled at scale? You're doing the right things, your platform is growing, AND so is your exposure to virtual bullies.  Is it possible to get "thick skin," "shrug it off," or "NOT worry about it"? Kenzie and I explore these quest...

What does it mean to trust the way you feel when people you trust, who love you, or leading experts disagree? Who actually knows what's best for us? Wanting the approval of others and wanting to reach consensus with important decisions in our lives can potentially keep us stuck in people pleasing, over committing and anxiety.  Opinions are not facts, and Google is not research. How can we approach...

  Jenna Streit, Director of Advancement for The Milk Bank of Indianapolis , and I talk about the history of the organization, the families they serve and how mothers supporting mothers are heroes in our community.  Jenna and I share stories of healing, connection, and why every mother deserves to support herself and her family in ANY way she chooses.  Jenna answers FAQs about donor milk, stigma, a...

There have been SO MANY moments when I'm in a session with a client where I think to myself, "Gah! I wish more people could hear this!" Enter - Session Reflections. These solocasts are my way of letting you be a fly on the wall for some of the most incredible insights that my psychotherapy clients experience. The details about who they are will be omitted to protect their privacy, as well as many...

Teresa and I talk about working with coaches and being in therapy, all of the beauty that can come from showing up consistently, and how when you do you're regularly asking for stress sweat.  We talk about my experience working with Teresa for 6 months as a coach, how she helped me build my first online courses, and why technology can feel like such a pain in the @ss sometimes! (Hint: bc it is) We...

Doubt - What does it mean? Why do we feel it? What do we do about it? A preview to upcoming episodes, and what to expect from the podcast moving forward. Doubt - Why do we feel it? What does it mean? How does it affect our behavior? And, what the heck are we supposed to do when we feel it? I share a journal entry (in real time) as an example for when I last experienced doubt, how I felt, and share...

Meet Gary Noesner - author, instructor, investigator, and FBI negotiator.  Gary served as the lead hostage negotiator during the first 25 days of the 51-day siege in Waco TX. His book Stalling for Time, My life as an FBI Hostage Negotiator became the framework with the Netflix mini-series WACO .  In his words, "I've talked about WACO more in the past couple of months than in my entire career, but...

Meet Carey Anderson, a former Broadway performer turned therapist. Carey and I sit down to talk about what it looks like to put yourself out there and get rejected - over and over and over again. What we both learned from our time in the performing arts, and what led to making the career leap to psychotherapy.  What I love about this episode is how well it demonstrates that though the details of o...

Does this sound like you? You're busy trying to live and work perfectly. The need to get it ALL leads to you feeling anxious and confused. This can lead to us doubting our choices and feeling overwhelmed, and before we know it - we're burnt out. And just when it feels like we can't add one more thing you hear, "Take a self-care day!" or "Take a break!," but what does that even mean??? If this feel...

Today, I want to talk about taking a step back and listening to your emotions, but what does it mean exactly?  Examples would look like: Feeling irritable or overly tired  Having some form of difficulty in your everyday routine Unclear on why you are feeling a certain way  More often than not, we can determine what is contributing to our changes in mood. However, there are times when it's hard to...

Welcome back!!! It feels so good to be back in front of the microphone and talking with you all again. Many of you know that I have been on maternity leave for the last few months. Once a week, maybe even more than that, I started thinking about making the transition and getting back into work and coming off of maternity leave, which is crazy because maternity leave suggests that I was not working...

We're Back For An All-New Season Coming October 4th!!!   This episode covers ALL bases - boundaries, loss, leaps of faith, making dreams come true, and laughing 'til you cry. Teresa Sabatine wants to help you build a meaningful life. Certified coach, founder of The Jump Network, Teresa currently oversees Film Indy, as the first Film Commissioner for the city of Indianapolis. Film Indy is focused o...

This stage, I lovingly call - > Embrace the suck. ⁣ ⁣ The truth is, change is hard. Even when we know it's good for us and ESPECIALLY when it's something we really really want. ⁣ ⁣ The greater our desire:⁣ ✔️The higher the stakes⁣ ✔️The more we have to lose⁣ ✔️The more vulnerable we feel if it doesn't work out⁣ ⁣ "Embracing the suck" doesn't mean that every step along the way will be a painful one...