Do You Take This Man?

As talented as gay men are, we can't make babies without a little help from our female friends. Even if you aced your high school sex ed class, there's still something to learn about the egg donors, surrogates, and case workers that make it possible for men to have biological children. Bryan and Chris walk us step by step through their surrogacy journey. Become a Patron of Do You Take This Man pod...

Husbands Marcelino & Edwin tell us about how their proposal didn't go as originally planned, but in the end was really sweet. Hear how they planned a cheer routine with their enormous wedding party. The guys tell us how they legally changed their last name by combining their family names into one. We talk about introducing your gay boyfriend to your family for the first time and do a chapter from...

Trailblazers and Broadway stars Bret & Stephen have been married since 2011. Sam seizes the opportunity to make a closet confession about his Broadway dreams. Hear us talk about the importance of authenticity in your relationship with yourself and your significant other. We talk about Les Mis, sobriety, and high school PE class.  Check out the Broadway Husbands Podcast & Blog: https://www.broadway...

Hear about the wedding of John & David and when they realized they were in trouble with debt. Sam asks about their wedding bands and how they chose them. John & David admit what it's like to feel the pressure to act like you have more money that you do, and tell us how they help people get control of their spending. In any relationship, communication is key, so we talk about talking about money. H...

Zac kicks things off telling us about his creative idea for an anniversary gift. We hear how the couple met at San Diego Pride while Jordan was representing the United States Marine Corps in the Military Contingent. Sam is curious to hear how they prepared for a destination proposal. Jordan and Zac include all the messy details about the proposal, which makes it all the more special. We talk about...

Eduardo Braniff is the Editor in Chief and co-founder of Men’s Vows. He’s been a guest at over 150 weddings and tells us about the most memorable ones he’s experienced. Listen to him talk about ginormous Mexican weddings, the number one piece of advice for giving toasts, and what it means to have an indulgent wedding. Sam tests Eduardo’s knowledge of Men’s Vows with a series of trivia questions. W...

Jason is the author of Getting Groomed: The Ultimate Wedding Planner for Gay Grooms and was named one of Brides Magazine's Best Planners. Having witnessed as many weddings as he has, he brings a unique perspective to the meaning of marriage. Listen to Jason and Sam discuss the difficult questions of when to begin—or end—a marriage. Jason tells us about some of the most touching moments he’s observ...

Carson is an advocate, coach, and public speaker in New York City. Hear how he coaches people to understand the narrative they write for themselves—and how to rewrite that narrative. Sam learns the meaning of the word ontology and wonders if he is outsourcing his self worth. Carson tells us about how he and his boyfriend didn’t allow the lack of accessibility for wheelchair users in New York City...

Lawrence and Alex dive back in for Part Two. We start by hearing about the book that they read together. Listen to the couple talk about how they met each others’ families and an interesting idea about the commonalities between a man from the American South and a man from the United Kingdom. Lawrence and Alex share some of the questions they get asked at couples therapy. Lawrence opens up about wh...

The conversation is off to a rocky start as Sam’s younger brother Lawrence tries taking over the hosting of the show. While the brothers catch a case of the giggles, Lawrence’s boyfriend Alex tells us about how they met. Hear Alex’s advice for first dates and why he reminded Lawrence of Indiana Jones. Sam and Lawrence talk about growing up together, dealing with gay stereotypes as kids, and their...

Husbands Jack & Greg recently celebrated their 36th anniversary as a couple, but were together for 30 years before they married. They were the first couple to be married in the state of Colorado using the Episcopalian wedding ceremony written for same-sex couples—a ceremony that Jack helped to write. Hear how they organized forums for LGBTQ people to tell their stories, and how it felt listening t...

Jonathan and Thomas of @daddyandpapa tell us how they became dads. We hear what parenting is like with two dads having daughters. One sibling’s kitchen misadventure ensues when Daddy and Papa come home with a new baby. They tell us what it feels like when people assume they aren’t the dads to their kids. Hear how they built their partnership while Thomas served in the military and Jonathan support...

You know Chris and Ian. They’re the funniest couple on social media. They were an overnight sensation and now have literally millions of fans, called “Bloomers.” Hear how they managed a bi-coastal relationship before moving in during quarantine. They explain each other’s generational idiosyncrasies in texting, play a word association game, and discuss Ian’s unique shower curtain situation. Listen...

Get to know fiancés Andrew and Ross, friends of Sam, as we chat over a few glasses of Aldi rosé. Hear how they managed a long distance relationship for several years before getting engaged and moving in together. Once again, another novel idea for a new dating app emerges. We learn why watching Netflix together isn’t in the cards for these two and hear how they set expectations for visiting one an...

Carlos is an entrepreneur and activist in New York City, but sits with Sam during his visit Denver to explore the Rocky Mountains. We bond over mutual love of the outdoors and disconnecting from busy lifestyles. Carlos tells us what it was like growing up in a Catholic community in Spain. Sam does his best to flatter Carlos with compliments on his own podcast, Dear Queer People. We talk about non-...

Luke and Sam talk dating strategies, including knowing when and how to cut things off. Sam gets a tour of Luke’s New York City apartment. Luke tells us how his last relationship ended and how the new one began. We wonder if there’s such thing as “alphas” and “betas” in most relationships. Despite being in an older generation, Sam tries (and fails) to associate himself with Luke’s youth as we discu...

Michael and Matt tell Sam he isn’t allowed to ask them about themselves, but Sam does it anyway. They tell us about sharing their lives on social media and how they met via their coming out videos on YouTube. Creativity abounds as we think of new ideas for dating apps. Sam is fooled by exceptional Photoshop skills during one of Matt and Michael’s travel stories. We find out what Frodo Baggins, Ron...

Husbands Richard and Steve tell us about what made their Santa Fe wedding special for them and their guests. Hear how they (unintentionally) upstaged Beyoncé’s sister in the New York Times and managed a wedding ceremony without chairs. We talk about the keys to a successful marriage, the importance of the word ‘husband,’ and laugh at Richard’s alleged drawer of secrets. Steve tells us how he, as a...

Ever since marriage equality was legalized in the United States, the popular blog Men's Vows has been celebrating the stories of men who marry. Now, the creative team behind Men's Vows is pulling back the curtain on what happens after you say "I do." In this series you'll hear stories of gay relationships from men who are doing their best to find—and keep—their significant other. --- Support this...