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Episode 6-441: Are You Approachable? Let’s Talk About Approachability and Feedforward Welcoming Feedforward is important, because is allows us to be more self-aware of how we may be unintentionally impacting people.  Sometimes people don’t think the information will be received constructively because of interactions they have already had or things that have been said. When we make statements like,...

Episode 6-440: To Conform, or Not To Conform Let’s Talk About Conformity Conformity is an interesting thing to think about because sometimes it is harmful and sometimes it is helpful.  Sometimes not confirming means applying experience to assess a situation and rendering a unique solution. We conform to the rules of the road, or the rules of a game.  Conformity, in this case, helps to drive order...

Episode 6-439: Comparison Let’s Talk About Comparison Comparison is something people tend to do on a regular basis, however it can be problematic. That is because sometimes we think we are comparing the same things and we are not.  Sometimes people attempt to compare outcomes in a attempt to defend their position, but fail to take into account the variances that may have impacted the outcome. Some...

Episode 6 - 438: Don’t Take It Personally Let's Talk about Not Taking Things Personally Many times things can be taken personally and cause us to lose focus on making progress.  It’s important to keep things in perspective and avoid taking things personally or allowing our focus to be diverted to something that doesn’t help to benefit us or those around us. When we learn how to avoid taking th...

Episode 6 - 437: No Do Overs in Life Let's Talk about “Do-Overs” Today I want to talk to you about past, present, and future because In life the reality is that there are no doovers. We can’t go back in time. Our experiences change us and propel us into the future. And that’s a good thing! So, think about how you can live fully in the present moment. There are no real doovers, in life, but we...

Episode 6-436: Introspection Let's Talk Abut Looking Within Introspection an help us make sense of our actions and it can help positively impact future behaviors. The Five Words Exercise: Imagine you can pick any 5 words to describe yourself Cross out 2 of your 5 words and now you have 3 words left Cross out one more word, leaving you with 2 words Now circle the one word that best describes yo...

Episode 6-435 Bringing Out The Best Let's Talk about Brining Out the Best I want you to ask yourself, in all your interactions are you focused on bringing out the best in people?  Do you create havoc or damage along the way in an attempt to move things forward? When we lose focus of trying to bring out the best in those around us, we can sometimes take actions or say something that becomes par...

Episode 6-434 Seeing Others Today I want to talk about the importance of making others feel seen because helping people realize they matter can help to uncover potential and can have a positive ripple effect. When our presence is acknowledged with positive regard it provides some sense of belonging.  And when we feel we belong, we likely feel that we have an expectation to engage on some level. Wh...

Episode 6-433 Thinking Today I want to talk about importance of Thinking, because when we give ourselves time to think, we can make better decisions. It is important to consider that Thinking about existing solutions and processes may be very beneficial. Sometimes there are solutions in place that are in need of change to remain relevant or to have greater positive impact. When we fail to allow ou...

Episode 6-432 Forgiveness Today I want to talk to you about Forgiveness, because it is a powerful tool for you and for those you extend forgiveness to. In our personal and professional lives, situations will occur where forgiveness is an option.  While we may forgive, we may be on alert to ensure we do not become subject to a similar happening. When we forgive, we give ourselves permission to move...

Episode 6-431 Taking Advantage Let's Talk about Taking Advantage Today I want to talk about Taking Advantage of Your Opportunities because it may expand your reach and positive influence.  Working hard is honorable, so is recognizing when you are in a unique position to advance positive influence and positive impact. We must change our perspective to accept our circumstances and the opportunit...

Episode 6-430 Dig Deeper Let's Talk about Digging Deep Today I want to talk about digging deeper, because I believe when we dig deep we tap into our greatest potential. When we dig deeper we identify our unique talents and the strengths we can develop. Like the process of excavation, things may be revealed in greater detail when we dig expectantly. Keep digging deep to explore just what makes...

Episode 6-429: Better Not Bitter Let's Talk about Being Better I learned early in life that there would be injustices, things that don’t seem fair or equitable.  There will be circumstances out of our control that negatively impact us. However, within the circumstances of injustices or when life seems to be unfair, we have a choice to become bitter or better.    I remember years ago hearing th...

Episode 6-428: Displacement   Let's Talk about Displacement Sometimes we can inadvertently displace our emotions onto people around us…and others can do the same to us.  It’s important to recognize displacement so that we can try to avoid that behavior, and so that we can recognize when others may be doing.  So what are some of the things we can do to recognize displacement? ·       Ask oursel...

Episode 6-427: Be Present Let's Talk about Present to Win Life can move at a pretty fast pace. While we want to keep up and may need to keep up, it is important to be present.  It seems today that we make plans for the future, and many times when we get there, we are preoccupied with more plans for the future.  When we are present we give ourselves - the ability to connect - the gift of focus....

Episode 6-425: Choose to Engage Let's Talk about engaging Have you ever been in a setting where you didn’t know anyone?  How did it feel when someone said hello, welcomed you, and engaged in conversation?  How does it feel to enter and leave a setting without engaging? I want to encourage you to prepare yourself in advance to choose how you might engage, or maybe just being open to engage, to...

Episode 6-426: The End Goal Let's Talk about perspective In life, it’s important to put things into to keep the end goal in mind.  Having an end goal perspective can help us to take appropriate action, to use the appropriate tools for forward progress, and to avoid dwelling on things in the past that are no longer relevant. So, let me encourage you to keep things in perspective, keep the end g...

Episode 6-424: Impressions - Let's Talk About Impressions Not being aware of the stronghold of stereotyping and bias can lead to bad decisions on our part.  As a person in a position of power or authority, it is important to identify ways we can help ensure the most objectivity in our evaluations, processes, and actions. It’s important to find a way to realize the talent of those who look to u...

Episode 423:  Reward without Responsibility Let's Talk About Experience Sometimes people want the reward without the responsibility, they want to have the growth without the growth experience. The problems, (that can be small, big, complex,) come with experience that prepare us for additional responsibility.    It's the stuff noone wants to go through, that are often the experiences that b...

Episode 422: Rules, Fog, and Freedom Let's Talk About Freedom   There always seems to be differing perspectives regarding rules and guidance.  Some people are looking for rules to ensure they stay inside the lines, and move forward in a predictive manner.  Others want to understand the guidance as a basis from which to expand. In our lives we will have rules and guidance, think creatively and...

Episode 6-421: Get to Know You Let's Talk about Knowing Yourself Three things to get to know yourself better: a.      Check-in with others to ensure you are hitting the target with your desired communication and intended outcome b.      What’s obvious to you may not be obvious to others, and people can tolerate even negative obvious obstacles c.      Knowledge invites change – especially if th...

Episode 420: Courage, Resilience, and Compassion - Let's Talk about Remembering 9/11 22 years ago on September 11th, 2001, the United States and the World experienced unthinkable violence and incredible loss. The tragedy that is known as September 11th, was a terrible time that was became a venue for great displays of courage, resilience, and compassion. Courage: Many risked their lives and ga...

Episode 6-419: Complain or Create Change Let's Talk about Intentional Impact It's easy to complain about things to see what is wrong or not going the way we think they should go from our perspective. However, maybe our challenge when things aren't going exactly the way that we want them to go is to see them as an opportunity for improvement – for us to contribute to or even lead that i...

Episode 6-418 Assume The Best Let's Talk about Seeing the Best What if we assumed the best? I bet we’d find a lot more good.  Now, this is not to say we won’t find things that could benefit from improvement, but it’s really about our filter and perspective that give way to our interpretation of matters and interactions. We can try to reflect the very behavior or circumstances we despise, or we...

Episode 6-417 Second Hand Information Let's Talk about Speaking with Integrity Have you played a game where a message is relayed from one person to another and in the end the message is distorted from it’s original version?  There are some important takeaways in that experience. - good intentions can still result in unwanted circumstances, - our experience impacts the interpretation of informa...