Divorce Coaches Academy

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) When clients punt responsibility for their divorce decisions to others, it's a recipe for regret and resentment. In today's episode, Tracy and Debra discuss why this happens, what the repercussions are for the client, and what you can do to help. We get it. Clients beginning the divorce process are scared. There's so much they don...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Let's just sum up this episode by saying that self-reflection can be a bitch. As divorce coaches, we frequently ask clients to examine their own unproductive behaviors or thought patterns, consider alternative perspectives, or take actions that feel difficult or scary. This process of pushing clients outside of their comfort zone...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We have a treat for you this week. Tracy is joined by fellow Divorce Coach Michelle Browning who also happens to be a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. They discuss the physical experience of divorce and how Michelle's practices help clients come into alignment with their nervous systems. Michelle says "we're not logical, we're b...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) So, we did a thing.  After 2 years of offering continuing education for divorce coaches who are already certified, we've made a decision to launch our very own certification training. Tracy and Debra talk about the reasons why they chose to design and develop their own curriculum and why they believe this program is revolutionary...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Attorney-client relationships are complicated in divorce. And we're guessing that you hear the same common complaints that we do - clients are frustrated that they aren't able to communicate with their attorney in a way that feels effective. This week we're talking about some of the issues that contribute to this dynamic and what...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Today we're preaching about the much overlooked topic of the divorce budget. That means talking with your client early on in your coaching relationship about the amount of money they'd like to spend on their divorce. Why is that so important? Because they can't get a Lamborghini divorce on a Kia budget. Cultural norms tell people...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) It's gonna be OK. You're going to get through this just fine. You'll be so glad when it's over.  Focus on the good. In today's episode, we unpack why we believe these kinds of statements aren't just ineffective from a coaching standpoint, but can actually harm clients.  Toxic positivity is defined as the act of avoiding, suppressi...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We're thinking (not overthinking) about our upcoming book club on Jan 25 and our read this month is "Soundtracks" by Jon Acuff. The author tells us that "when we don't control our thoughts, our thoughts control us. If our days are full of broken soundtracks, thoughts are our worst enemy, holding us back from the things we really w...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We're so excited we're about to bust at the seams. Because we've been invited to present at the ABA (yes, that's the American Bar Association) Dispute Resolution Spring Conference in Las Vegas in May. Advocating for the profession of divorce coaching is one of our core values and we're thrilled to be able to raise awareness about...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Do you secretly struggle with imposter syndrome? Maybe you don't recognize it as that, but it can show up in sneaky ways that prevent coaches from stepping into their full potential. In today's episode, we talk about the many ways we see imposter syndrome present in new coaches and what you can do to see it and challenge it. We wo...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) In this week's episode, Debra is joined by recent DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coaching graduates Dori Braddell and Sue Horwitz to talk about their experience in the training and how they've been able to put their new skills to use. Dori and Sue were gracious enough to take time out of their busy schedules to discuss how they had been st...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Today on the podcast we're doing some myth busting. If you think you're bad at math or have been afraid to dive into divorce financial matters with your clients, then keep listening. We're going to give you the confidence to jump into the deep end. Of course financial professionals provide a ton of value in divorce and they serve...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Did you know that, at least in the US, the first business day in January is known as "National Divorce Day"? That's because historically that's the day that family law attorneys get the most inquiries from people thinking about starting the divorce process. There are many reasons January is the heaviest month for divorce filings....

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) You had your own divorce experience and felt called to become a professional divorce coach to support others through the process so they could have what you needed. We applaud you for wanting to make divorce different for others. But in this week's episode, we are telling a cautionary tale  to remind everyone of the importance of...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Being a solopreneur as a divorce coach is hard. but we don't want you to feel like you have to do it alone. In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra talk about why they believe every coach should have a community. According to an ICF (International Coaching Federation) study, 4 out of 5 coaches fail. We find that shocking and are c...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Bring on the haters, but we're gonna say it. We don't recommend attorneys or other divorce professionals to clients. And we think it's risky business for coaches to do it. In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra chat about the reasons they don't share lists of recommended professionals with clients. Aside from the fact that both o...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Last week we talked in some detail about the importance of having a signed coaching agreement in place with clients. This week we expand upon that by diving into the topic of professional boundaries - those necessary limits we must set to protect ourselves, our businesses, and our mental health. Let's begin with the whole idea of...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Are you tempted to skip the paperwork and start working with a client before you have a signed coaching agreement in place? In today's episode, Tracy and Debra discuss the importance of those coaching agreements for your practice and your protection. First things first. Professionals require agreements or contracts before they com...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Catchy title, huh? This week we're not discussing the pros and cons of whether you and your clients use colorful language in session, we are talking about being mindful of the language we use and the impact it can have on the coaching experience for clients. One of the main goals of coaching is to help your client self-discover th...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) One of the hardest parts of divorce for any parent is the idea of losing time with their children.  In this episode, we discuss how divorce coaches can help clients process some of the obstacles that get in the way of crafting parenting plans that focus on the needs of the children instead of the needs of the parents to maintain t...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Marketing isn't just about getting your name out there in front of potential clients. You also need to make some big decisions about what products you're selling and for how much. In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra talk through some of the factors to consider when you are putting together your programs, packages, and pricing....

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We know the best way to help children in divorce is to insure an ongoing, stable, loving relationship with both parents. But in reality, that's not always easy for our clients. Co-parenting can be a nightmare. Today, we discuss how, as divorce coaches, we can support our clients shift in mindset to be able to communicate effective...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Are you a relatively new divorce coach and wondering when the money going to start coming in? How long does it really take to start making a living at this? In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra give you the unvarnished truth about what (and how long) it really takes to get a successful divorce coaching practice up and going. As...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) According to social media, just about everyone is divorcing a narcissist. And you may be hearing this from your clients. In this week's episode, we talk about why it's important to work with clients to drop the label and focus on strategy. NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) is fairly rare, but if we look at the diagnostic cri...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) This week we want to encourage you to talk money with your clients. Financial professionals (like CDFA's, CPA's, and forensic accountants) certainly play a role in divorce, but as a divorce coach, we don't want you to be afraid to dive into the topic too.  It doesn't matter if calculators make you nervous or you failed high school...