Divorce Coaches Academy

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) When clients don’t feel good about their attorney, it makes a difficult process even harder and more complicated. So today, we thought it might be helpful to dive into when and how to go about hiring a legal professional so folks can find the right help and the right fit. Much to our dismay, it still seems that most people believe...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Our featured guest today, Heather Cary, is a trusted member of the DCA team and is an experienced Divorce and Co-Parenting Coach and Mediator who is dually certified as a DCA® Certified ADR Divorce Coach and a CDC® Certified Divorce Coach. She holds a Masters of Education, is certified as a New Ways For Families Co-Parent Coach, i...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Positivity and possibility are two distinct approaches in personal development, divorce coaching, and conflict resolution, each with its own strengths and weaknesses. While positivity focuses on maintaining a positive outlook and minimizing negative emotions, possibility emphasizes exploring new opportunities and potential for gro...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Two things the coaches in our community tell us they are thirsty for is more clients and more credibility. Today we want to talk about how using coach-y language creates a barrier to working with you for both potential clients and other divorce professionals.  Divorce coaching is still a relatively new profession and is often mis-...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Have you seen this viral question going around the internet where people are asking women if they would rather be stuck in the woods with a bear or a man? It was intended to spark discussion about violence against women and the responses have been both overwhelming and insightful.  This whole conversation has made us wonder how pe...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Ever hear the expression "Expectations are just planned resentments”? When our expectations aren't met, we feel like what we got less than we deserved, which leads to disappointment and builds to resentment which increases cost, conflict, and stress in divorce. Whether the source is tv and movies, social media, or family and frien...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) It’s well known that divorce can be one of the most stressful life events our clients will experience. And we’ve talked extensively about how fear escalates cost and conflict. But there’s a secret ingredient that can make the process even more difficult and more expensive … and that’s trauma. Today we are going to give you some in...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Couples facing challenges or difficulties in their marriage have traditionally turned to couples counseling or marriage therapy for help. And we often hear from clients who are now deciding whether to stay or go that they found the experience of couples counseling to be quite frustrating with lots of blame and finger pointing and...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Financial worries are at the top of most everyone’s list when it comes to divorce and one common concern we hear from clients is how much it’s going to cost to get divorced. So in this episode we’re diving into not just how much divorce costs, but the factors that can influence it and how we can work with clients to keep their cos...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) There's a big difference between being a victim (having been harmed) and adopting a victim mentality. And the difference relates to how an individual responds to adversity. In this episode Tracy and Debra explore the 6 ways a  victim mentality can impact how individuals perceive and respond to conflicts.  So, why is it so importan...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Co-parent communication can be one of the biggest challenges both during and after divorce. Co-parenting apps are a lifesaver for many partners who have difficulty in communicating about or making decisions regarding their children. This week we had the pleasure of hosting Stephen Nixon, the Founder of TalkingParents, on the podca...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We can’t believe it’s finally time to share this news. We’ve been working behind the scenes for months to get ready to present this incredible event and now we get to announce it to the world. Registration is now open for the Free Save Your Sanity Divorce Summit   - the first ever online event featuring 27 professional certified d...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) In past episodes we’ve talked about strategies you can use with clients to improve their chances of success in mediation. But today we dig into the importance of choosing the right mediator and what to do if your mediator or your client’s mediator seems to be the one complicating the process. We review the role of a mediator and s...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Just because we have the word “divorce” in our job title doesn’t mean that we encourage divorce . As a matter of fact, you might be surprised to learn that we sometimes help save marriages.  It’s true. In fact, our favorite time to work with clients is when they are still trying to make that difficult decision of whether they shou...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We're excited for you to meet Nada Hariri, the DCA Director of Learning and Development for the Arabian Gulf. Nada is the first certified divorce coach in the region and has worked with hundreds of Arab clients all over the gulf area. She is an experienced coach, group facilitator, workshop leader, author and is currently pursuing...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Nowhere is planning more important than when we are trying to communicate in the midst of big emotions or conflict. And today, we dig into the idea of using scripts or planning what you want to say and how you want to say it. As ADR specialists, we’ve seen hundreds of conversations and negotiations go off the rails because one par...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) When it comes to divorce, co-parenting and conflict, understanding the “why” behind someone's ugly behavior doesn’t provide the tools or strategies clients need to navigate dealing with these individuals. Instead, it can create mindsets that keep them stuck or even complicate the process. They get caught in the trap of spending mo...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Today we're shining a light on two of the biggest struggles faced by those of us running our businesses solo. And we can tell you from years of experience working with and training certified divorce coaches, the majority of us are independent practitioners. From juggling multiple hats to navigating the sometimes lonely path of ent...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We're thrilled to be joined this week by Jackie Pilossoph, founder of Divorced Girl Smiling .  Jackie says that Divorced Girl Smiling (DGS) is like going to Starbucks with your friend to talk about your divorce and your love life. DGS is about community — the community is those facing divorce and those who have dedicated their car...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Money fears are pretty common in divorce. Clients may be afraid they don’t know enough about money, won’t get enough money or they’ll have to give up too much money. Or they might have concerns that their partner will be difficult and they’ll have to fight to get what’s “fair”. By the way, most of us call “fair” the 4-letter F wor...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) No one likes feeling hopeless and most clients who choose mediation are desperate to avoid the cost and stress of a trial, but how can we help when they feel like it's not going well and they're running out of options? Today we’re going to give you and your client some proven strategies to try when they’re feeling hopeless in thei...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) This week we had a great networking event where we discussed the popular TED Talk, "How to avoid catching prickly emotions from other people". Did you know there's a cactus nicknamed the "jumping cholla" for it's tendency to seemingly shoot cactus spines into unsuspecting passersby?  The same thing can happen when we get too close...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) No doubt we've have all seen some pretty shady characters pull some pretty shady tricks in divorce and co-parenting. There are people in this world that get off on hurting others - the more you hurt, the happier they are. It’s sad to think that people like this exist, but wishing and hoping they were different doesn’t solve the pr...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) This week, we're thrilled for you to meet Nikki Bould. Nikki is a highly skilled ADR specialist in New Zealand and she's joining the DCA leadership team to deliver culturally and legally specific curriculum to aspiring New Zealand divorce coaches. Not only does New Zealand have it's own unique laws and processes when it comes to d...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) What's the best and fastest way to ramp up conflict in divorce and co-parenting? Certainly derailing language is near the top of the list. Those phrases that automatically trigger defensiveness or an emotional response - things like "you always", "you never", "you're overreacting", or Tracy's personal favorite, "calm down". This w...