Divorce Coaches Academy

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Conflict is a topic that impacts every one of us at some point in our lives. A couple of weeks ago we talked about an important tip to reduce conflict in divorce and that was to stop expecting something different and accept that your partner will continue to show up with the same core personality traits they’ve always had.  As we...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) If you want to get more clients, you don't need to make more Instagram reels or write a ton of blog posts.  You need to clean up your language. In this episode Tracy and Debra reveal the truth bomb that successful divorce coaches aren’t selling divorce coaching. They sell a goal plus a result. The #1 mistake we see new coaches mak...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) In this episode we explore the "Big Five" - those core personality traits that tend to be consistent over time and circumstance. PLUS, we share a secret mantra that just may help you and your clients experience less stress when dealing with the difficult people in their lives. We consistently hear clients express disappointment, f...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) In this episode, Tracy and our DCA Director for Australia, Anne-Marie Cade, are diving into an essential yet often overlooked topic: self-care during challenging times. As divorce professionals dealing with heavy emotional topics, it’s crucial that we care for ourselves so we can continue to care for others. As we kick off a new y...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) When it comes to buying real estate, the saying is location, location, location. When it comes to negotiating a divorce settlement or parenting plan, we say strategy, strategy, strategy. And whether you’re negotiating at the kitchen table, participating in mediation, or working through attorneys, the same principles apply. In Gett...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Who among us wouldn’t like to be a better problem solver? Well, that’s the topic of our conversation today. We discuss the 4 general types of problems most of us face, offer some help for identifying the type of solution that’s right for each, and apply these tips to divorce and co-parenting.   When it comes to solving problems an...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) These days we seem to be living in a society defined by us versus them, black and white thinking, intolerance, fixed mindsets, and lack of curiosity. Not only is conflict remaining unresolved, but our interactions (especially online) seem to pour more gasoline on the fire rather than cooling it off. We see conflict spiraling and e...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) In this episode, we dive into the significant, but often unrecognized role of ego in divorce conflict. In William Ury’s book "Possible", he identifies how ego plays a significant role in escalating conflicts. But this really shouldn’t come as much of a surprise. When we focus on being "right" or protecting our pride, we may very w...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Tracy and Debra are taking the week off to enjoy holiday time with family so we’re taking this opportunity to share an episode from the back catalog about the importance of working on a divorce exit strategy. Since many people begin thinking about divorce during the holiday season but wait util January to take any action, we thoug...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) November and December are historically slower months for divorce professionals. Even though they’ve made the decision to divorce, many people choose to wait until after the holidays to take any action. They worry about starting something that could instigate conflict during what should be the happiest time of the year for their ki...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) At DCA, we share a vision that couples would have the ability to rearrange and restructure their relationships and their families in a way that leads to wholeness and happiness. Divorce is often seen as an end—an ending to a marriage, an ending to a chapter of life. But what if it didn’t have to be a painful, adversarial process?...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We’re taking a detour from our planned topic today because we think it's time critical to talk about the implications of eliminating no-fault divorce. Based on this week's election results, as divorce professionals we need to be thinking about, discussing, and preparing for another potential shift in the landscape of divorce. No-f...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We've talked previously about the problem cycle (see episode #69), but recently learned about the 3 poisons in Buddhism and they seem particularly applicable to some of the issues we see in divorce and co-parenting.  In his early teachings, the Buddha identified “three poisons” or three negative qualities of the mind that cause mo...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) One of the most emotional and difficult parts of divorce can be negotiating parenting plans - especially for co-parents who are experiencing a high degree of conflict. We shared a statistic last week that 80% of the family court calendar is taken up by custody matters and frankly that breaks our hearts. Because we know that parent...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We consistently say that all divorce involves conflict. Even in the most amicable divorce, couples aren’t likely to agree on everything. But one area that seems to spur the most conflict is co-parenting. We recently read that 80% of the court’s time is taken up by custody matters which tells us that co-parenting and making decisio...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) When we talk with prospective students and new students, we get a lot of questions about what’s it’s really like to start a career as a professional divorce coach. So today, Christina Stone is going to give us all a behind the scenes look at what that journey is really like. Christina is a Certified ADR Divorce coach and if that n...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Being a solopreneur is hard. Being a solopreneur in a new industry is even harder. It takes a lot of focus, intention, and community support to build a successful practice as a new divorce coach. We say it every week in the podcast intro because we mean it. We are committed to the success of our DCA trained divorce coaches and we...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) One thing that seems to be certain in divorce is that no one gets everything they want. Most walk away feeling like they had to give up more than their share in order to get to a final agreement.  Rarely do we hear a client say they thought the settlement was 100% fair and equitable. Most everyone feels like they got the short end...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Divorce is hard enough with all the emotional turmoil, big challenges, and important decisions. It's even more difficult when your partner is intentionally working against you. But even more troublesome is when clients are working against themselves, so in this episode we're talking about self-sabotage.  We discuss how to recogniz...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences. In this episode, we discuss when and how it i...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) In this week's episode, we're exploring why empathy is so challenging in the context of divorce, why it's a key factor in conflict resolution and negotiation, and what can be done to foster it. One of the primary reasons empathy is so challenging during divorce and co-parenting is the intensity of emotions involved. Big feelings l...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We're launching customized curriculum for Canada next month! And we're excited for you to get to know our Canadian Director, Dori Braddell.  Dori is a highly successful divorce coach who specializes in conflicted and complicated divorce and co-parenting situations. She originally received her certification through the CDC and has...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) DCA is constantly growing to serve you better. In this episode, we highlight a few recent changes that offer even more ways to connect with each other. Check out your DCA student dashboard for more information. Student Community Each cohort in the process of studying to become certified ADR divorce coaches is being given access to...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) When it comes to attorney-client relationships, we hear a lot of complaints. We understand there are a few bad apples out there, but most attorneys we know are really trying to do the best job they can. So what’s gone wrong? Why are clients not satisfied with the service their attorney is providing and what can they (and we as the...

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We like to think that we actively have our fingers on the pulse of the divorce industry and the application of divorce coaching nationally and around the world. But recently, we have been hearing some noise about the need for divorce coaches to have training in areas such as trauma and post separation abuse. Yet, at the same time,...