Divine Union™

Join Nicola as she discusses how you can create the conditions to feel your partner’s desire and hunger for you. Whether you are a man or a woman, it doesn’t matter, this episode will give you the tools and perspective to set yourself up for success to have more passion and spice in the relationship.  Get comfortable, sit back, and enjoy the show. We can’t wait to hear what you think. 3:15 Buildin...

In this Episode Nicola shares about a Tantric practice of removing the goal in sex. She discusses some different “goals” we have in sex and some not-so-conscious expectations we place on both men and women in bed, as well as what to do when your body doesn’t always act in line with your mind. 0:00 Intro 2:45 How the Goal Mentality Impacts Sex 4:20 How Removing the Goal Ties to Tantra 5:55 The Impa...

Today on Divine Union, Episode 4 of the four-part series on Passion and Polarity.  Listen to this episode if you want to know how to have fiery passion in a relationship. Polarity creates passion, and understanding how polarity works in relationship will help you build a foundation for creating passion that stands the test of time. In this episode, Nicola discusses a helpful methodology to underst...

Today on Divine Union, as part three of her four-part series on Passion and Polarity, Nicola discusses feminine energy.  She speaks to the energies as they're essential to understanding polarity, which is needed to create passion in relationship.  Nicola speaks to how societal influences have shaped the Feminine to behave in a way that is unhealthy. She contrasts this wounded feminine with Di...

Today’s episode of Divine Union is part two of a four-part series to help you understand polarity, masculine and feminine energies as an essential component to polarity, and what key ingredients are needed to have passion polarity in a relationship. Nicola discusses, Capitalism’s Effect on the Wounded Masculine and the different aspects of that energy for you to gain a clear understanding of what...

Today’s episode on polarity is part one of a four-part series to help you understand polarity, masculine and feminine energies, and what key components are needed to have polarity in a relationship. Today, Nicola discusses what polarity is, and how it manifests in life and relationships. When you understand polarity and what it means to truly have it, you have the tools to keep the fiery passion g...

Today’s episode is a deeply personal one. I discuss one of the most potent moments of my life during a solo medicine journey that was tremendously impactful, as it helped me realize where a lot of my fear, judgment, and hate towards men were rooted. I candidly discuss my process, the key learnings, and why working with your masculine energy will radically transform how you relate to your feminine,...

In this episode, I discuss 4 essential keys to creating the conditions to have deep passion, polarity, and intimacy within relationship. You will learn about common misconceptions about polarity and passion, and what it really means to have it in a way that is empowering, healthy, and feels enlivening.  You will understand why it is so challenging for many couples to maintain passion and polarity...

Today I sit down with dear sister and Women's Sex and Libido Coach Sofie Lousie to talk all about how you can free yourself from societal conditioning of fear, shame, or guilt to be fully sexually expressed, and proud, in however you choose to express. Sofie vulnerably shares about her own journey with her sexuality and experiences of slut shaming that I am sure will resonate with many of you...

Today I discuss the shadow. This is a topic sparked by many inquiries I’ve gotten lately around understanding what it is and how to work with it.  So today, I discuss what the shadow is, where it comes from, as well as how to identify your shadows if you’re unsure. I provide examples of how shadows can manifest to deepen your understanding of the topic and share some interesting bodies of work tha...

On today’s episode of Divine Union, I have the pleasure of sitting down with Luci Lampe to talk all about the different stages relationships can go through, and what you can expect, so you can navigate them with ease and grace. Luci is a mom of 4, trauma-informed sex & relationship coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, a commercial actress & print model, and 3X author. Not to mention...

On today’s episode of Divine Union Podcast, I have the honor of sitting down with Goddess Michelle. I’ve been following her on Instagram for some time now, and her work is truly inspiring and her messages are deep and thought-provoking. And so, I am so thrilled for you to hear this conversation. We discuss attachment in life, how it manifests, and what is necessary in order to transform and ascend...

Today I discuss two of my favorite qualities in life, curiosity, and play.  I share one of my most memorable and beautiful s*xual moments in life. One of the first times I really brought that element into the bedroom with, we shall call him, Mr. X, and I speak to how transformative it was.  I cover the wounded masculine and how that has impacted our views on curiosity and ways we can shift the beh...

Today Nicola sits down with Tiffany Mertens to discuss all things Archetypes. Tiffany is a Sensual Activist, International Performer, Somatic Healer, and the owner of Mystic Mentorship, a place where the spiritual and sensual intersect for potent healing around body image, sexuality, and expression.  In this episode, they discuss why Archetypes are so powerful to bring in greater play, fun, and ex...

Today on Divine Union, I have the pleasure of discussing all things Human Design with Human Design Analyst, Stephanie Sandoval. We tackle many areas of this complex topic as she discusses how our energetic types, authority (the way we make decisions), and the conscious (and unconscious) gifts that accompany them, impact our way of being in the world and how we relate within the relationship. It&ap...

Boundaries. A favorite topic of mine. Why? Because life is one big game of communication and relating. A dance of communication, asserting our boundaries, or honoring another's, and then rinse and repeat. Today I talk all about the boundaries and the 7 key different areas with some juicy examples of how another can violate our boundaries. I also discuss how boundaries relate to masculine ener...

Today I discuss how our lives go in cycles in all areas of life: career, creativity, relationship, sexual desire, bodily processes, and many more. I align these cycles of life to the different cycles and processes in nature, as well as how these cycles align with masculine and feminine energies, and how our current patriarchal society has impacted our view of time and cycles.  I share specific exa...

I've always been a curious person. Ever since I was a little girl. The most used word in my vocabulary was "why".  And currently, it's gotten me to have some pretty profound realizations in my life. Today on Divine Union, I talk all about triggers and the mirrors and medicine within them. They have such potential to transform our way of being. To fuel our fire to create beautif...

I have always been fascinated with the subconscious mind, and how our early experiences and programming impact our beliefs about ourselves, others, and how we relate to the world at large.  And so today, I have the honor to sit down with Echo Giesel Widmer, Founder of Our Echo Yoga School, DJ, Facilitator, and writer, to discuss how these stories are formed from our cultural conditioning and early...

I find safety such a fascinating topic, as it's such an important area to master in your life if you want to be fully expressed, and connected to yourself, to others, and to the world. And so today I chat with dear sister, and Embodied Love & Relationship Coach, Rike John to explore how to cultivate safety within oneself, when relating with others, and why it is so crucial for intimacy an...

Today I discuss The Wild Woman archetype. The Wild Woman represents a balance of masculine and feminine energy. And I use this framework for which to unpack why she is so magnetic. Many don’t fully understand how essential the balance and embodiment of these energies is, to achieving true Wild Woman magnetism, so they end up just doing activities to try to connect to her, yet aren’t able to fully...

Today I discuss the mothering effect and how and why it extinguishes passion in relationship.  I cover two ways it can manifest in a relationship, as well as some underlying forces and beliefs at play that can drive these behaviors.  I talk about control and the wounded masculine and how that shapes the mothering effect.  And lastly, I share some healthier ways to relate should you be experiencing...

Today I will discuss why expressing your kink will lead to deeper intimacy. Before discussing kink, we must get alignment on the term.  And with that, I will briefly discuss some historical influences on the term kink and how that’s impacted current narratives.  Then we will look at a more accurate and appropriate way to talk about kink that's neutral and doesn’t carry judgment or shame. I wi...

Today I will talk to you all about the importance of desire and how we can use desire to fuel our inner fire and passion for life.  We will also cover why desire is essential for manifestation in the physical world, and how to balance our desire with our ability to flow and be open to life.  I will also speak to the differences between healthy relating with your desires and when it can lead to unh...

Today I will discuss why it's so essential for women to be connected to their desire for freedom and sex, in order to achieve full aliveness.  I’ll share my own experience with freedom and desire this past couple of years which was the impetus for this episode.   Additionally, I will cover how cultural and societal conditioning has impacted female gender roles, to provide a foundation for und...