Detached

Hello, and welcome back! In today's episode we talk about denial. What denial means, examples of denial in our lives, and most importantly, how powerful it can be. Email us with any comments, questions, or for resources at detachedpod@gmail.com. If you liked this episode, please send it to someone who might need to hear it!

This week we talk about all things holidays! Whether it be from the pressure to meet everyone's expectations and participate in everything or the strong emphasis on all things drinking, the holidays can be anxiety-inducing for everyone. Listen in this week as Sierra dives into her previous experiences navigating the holidays in early sobriety and as Hannajane gives real life examples of how to...

Hello and welcome back! In today's episode we start off by discussing the goals we've recently attained and how anticlimactic the accomplishments have felt. As we discussed, we realized that maybe it's the journey that matters more than the destination and reflecting on our mental and spiritual growth along the way towards the goal should be celebrated too and be considered micro-joys!...

Welcome back! This week we answer a few questions submitted by some listeners. We talk about our experiences in early recovery as the recovering alcoholic and as the loved ones of those in early recovery. We share some anecdotal examples of what boundaries can look like with our loved ones whether they're actively using or early in their recovery. This episode contains a lot of reflection on o...

TW: Please note that there are conversations around eating disorders in this episode. Please welcome back Gayla. K! She was previously a guest on the episode "Shedding the Shame of Trauma through Authentic Connection: An Interview with Gayla. K". In true Detached fashion, the conversation flows to topics such as our relationship to identity, self-worth, and so much more. Email us with an...

WOW! What an incredible episode this week!  *TW we do talk about sexual abuse and assault on this episode* Ann is a grad school student studying to become a school counselor. She is a Cross Fit coach and has experience coaching at The Phoenix, which is a sober active community. She shares with us her childhood trauma, her experience with loved ones in her life who are alcoholics and the effects it...

Aaaand she's back by popular demand! Sierra's mom joins us again this week and talks about what she's learned through the forgiveness of other people and herself. Forgiveness opens a space to have compassion and empathy for other people. She reminds us that anyone who causes someone pain, is usually in pain themselves and it's our choice whether we want to move forward or not.    E...

Today we're talking about the 12 Steps! We discuss the differences between how the 12 Steps are interpreted and worked in AA vs. in Al-Anon. We talk about our own experiences working the 12 Steps and what we've learned so far. We discuss how the 12 Steps are a design for living and help us be better people in every aspect of our lives. We reference the  Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous  an...

Hello and welcome back! This week we discuss what it looks and feels like when we are spiritually and emotionally in alignment. We talk about the importance of listening to others and having love and tolerance, especially for those we may not agree with. We realize we can only control how we react and respond to situations or people, not the situation itself. When we have a strong reaction to some...

This week Sierra and Hannajane dive into a conversation about self-love, and how difficult it can be. We do have conversations about body dysmorphia and eating disorders just as a warning to our listeners. We know these can be uncomfortable and sometimes hard conversations, so if this episode isn't for you, we will see you in two week! Email us with any comments, questions, or for resources at...

This week we're back recording in-person! On this episode we talk about the importance of checking in with ourselves physically and emotionally when around certain people and being in certain situations to see whether or not those things are serving us. We talk about the importance of protecting our energy and being selfish with who we put time and energy into, rather than doing things because...

This week Hannajane had the pleasure interviewing a special guest, Katie, her mom! They talk about being grateful members of al-anon, detaching with love, our relationships to perfectionism, staying in touch with our playful inner-child and so much more.   Email us with any comments, questions, or for resources at detachedpod@gmail.com. If you liked this episode, please send it to someone who migh...

This week we talk about what it feels like to try to control situations that are out of our control, and realizing that our Higher Powers are bigger than the issue we're trying to fix. Hannajane discusses the impact that the words she uses to describe challenging situations has on her. When having a thought or opinion about a situation you're in, are you using limiting language or does it...

This week we discuss why is it so hard to ask for help?? We discover the things that can hold us back from asking for help can be feeling guilty, the fear of being a burden to others, the need to be hyper-independent or people pleasing. We also talk about how challenging it is once you ask for help, to then receive the help.  We hope everyone has a beautiful Memorial Day/long weekend and thank you...

Happy Mother's Day to all the incredible and resilient moms out there! This week we had the pleasure of interviewing Sierra's mom. She reflects on what it was like being a mom of an active alcoholic and everything she learned throughout the years. Michelle and Sierra discuss the way their relationship has evolved over the years since Sierra got sober into less of a parent-child relationshi...

On this weeks episode, Sierra and Hannajane talk about people pleasing, care-taking and everything in-between. As two people in recovery programs, it is a topic we are quite familiar with! We are both taking steps to identify the people pleasing aspects of ourselves but as you can tell from our conversation it is something we are both actively working on. In other news, we will be switching to epi...

This week we discuss romantic relationships! We dive into the process of healing past relationships and not bringing unhealthy patterns into new ones. We talk about our own relationships and how there is a learning curve for both of us around embracing a healthy relationship because it feels so unfamiliar. We discuss the importance of communication in a relationship, and how it will always be some...

On this weeks episode, Hannajane interviews Gayla K, a lifelong friend who speaks about life growing up with a hoarder parent. Gayla talks about the emotional work she has done, and continues to do, in order to move through the emotional trauma tied to growing up with a hoarder parent.   Email us with any comments, questions, or for resources at  detachedpod@gmail.com . If you liked this episode,...

In this weeks episode, Sierra and Hannajane talk about mental health crises and perfectionism. As two women who are navigating this crazy world its important to do life a little bit messy and remind ourselves that its ok to stumble along the way. Perfection is an impossible standard so all we can do is chase imperfection and learn from the beautiful mistakes we make along the way. Email us with an...

This week Sierra spends time talking to a friend from AA. She tells her story of what it was like and what it's like now in sobriety. She is such a lovely human being and has so much wisdom to offer, you're going to want to hear this! It was a fun conversation and we ended up going back and forth interviewing each other.   Link to the 12-steps of AA:  https://www.aa.org/the-twelve-steps Em...

This week we discuss creativity. Hannajane dives into her art background and we both realize we haven't been allowing creativity to flow. Sierra realizes she has never been someone to color outside the lines. Creativity brings so much freedom and it's so easy to fall into that place of control which blocks all creative ideas. We talk about how we compose the different parts of our identiti...

This week we discuss the concept of one day at a time and how challenging it can be to be present. Sierra reflects on when her reality used to be constant anxiety about the past and fear of the future and the gratitude she has now that she's able to be more present. We talk about how overwhelming it can feel when you're wanting to implement all of these "self-help" tools and taki...

This week is all about relationships! We discuss how each of us are making decisions to say yes or say no to things in life based on what we need in the present moment. We talk about how "missing out" on the little things in early sobriety gives you the ability to participate in the big things later on. We reflect on the importance of healing from past relationships before jumping into new relatio...

Hello! If you didn't see our disclaimer on IG, please be aware the production of this episode is not where we'd like it to be. The audio didn't record right and our exiting statement got cut off. So please laugh along with us because this is one of the best episodes yet! This week's topic is fear. Fear shows up in so many aspects of our lives and can be the driving force behind our decisions. Sier...

This week it's Hannajane's turn to share her story! She tells her journey of getting into the 12-step program of Al-Anon and what recovery means to her. We've had some feedback on the podcast wondering whether Hannajane is sober or not so this episode dives into all that! Recovery is not exclusive to people in sobriety. Sometimes there is a misconception that recovery is only for addicts and alcoh...