Deep Penetration | Gay and Bisexual Dating Advice with Daniel Morales

Vulnerability is the willingness to be emotionally open, honest, and transparent. It is the act of sharing your thoughts, feelings, and fears with another person without fearing judgment or rejection. Vulnerability is often associated with weakness, but in reality, it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to expose your innermost self to others, especially when you have been hurt in the past.  ...

What is Detachment?   Detachment is the ability to distance yourself emotionally from a situation or person in order to gain perspective, maintain boundaries, and protect yourself. This can be especially important in relationships where boundaries have been crossed, emotional wounds have been inflicted, or the relationship has become toxic. Detachment is not the same as disconnection, it is simply...

People who are TRULY narcissists are focuses on maintaining control at whatever cost. They will break you down emotionally and mentally over time and will manipulate every situation so that you come to believe YOU are at fault and they are the victims. So, how to you identify a narcissist? It can be very hard in the beginning because their controlling behavior might appear as self-confidence or ge...

Infatuation is characterized by an intense attraction to another person, often based on physical appearance or other superficial qualities. Infatuation can be intoxicating, exhilarating, and it feels like you're getting hit by a million different emotions all at once. It's the 0-100 approach of dating and is usually pretty short lived. Most relationships that are infatuation last anywhere between...

While hookup culture may be enticing or exciting to some of you, it can negatively impact your ability to find a long-term, fulfilling relationship.   We've all been there, at least I have and I believe I speak for a majority of men that identify as queer: hookup culture is almost a right of passage. Even if you are someone who initially is not into hookup culture, a lot of people approach dating...

As a love and self-esteem coach, I have seen many men fall for the "bad boy" stereotype in relationships. The allure of the bad boy can be strong, but it often leads to heartbreak and disappointment. I work with clients who REALLY struggle with picking the "healthy" guy because they are "boring or too predictable." I understand this in the sense of wanting excitement and adventure in your relation...

Often, because many of us have been ousted by family we create a family of our own… a chosen family. What does that mean? We are more protective of the family we have chosen because of our negative experiences coming out… we become more "defensive" or "protective" of that chosen family. We also cant deny that as queer men, we're a little more sassy and sarcastic. That’s not the case for everyone,...

Unfortunately, fake profiles comes with the territory of online dating… it's unavoidable. The important thing to keep in mind is personal safety. If at any point you do not feel comfortable or safe, do what you need to do to prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health.   So, what do you do if your date doesn’t look like his profile photo? Here are 3 things to keep in mind:   1. Don't Re...

Often, there is a fear when meeting your partners parents due to the desire to be accepted. As someone who identifies as queer, you are probably all too familiar with rejection, invalidation, discrimination, stereotyping, and overall judgment. I have found that a lot of that comes from "authority figures" or "peers" which contributes to negative self-image and the desire to win the respect and adm...

If you've found yourself on the merry-go-round of dating and just want to get the FUCK off of it, its important that you ask yourself 3 VERY important questions: Who am I? So often, I found that when things aren't working out for people in their dating life, they look outward. What do I mean? Here are some examples of what I hear: Everyone is just looking for a hookup. The men out there are all sh...

Boundaries are incredibly important in any healthy relationship! If you struggle to set boundaries or to understand what they are, here are 3 that should be implemented in yours! 1. Physical Boundaries Physical boundaries are essential in any relationship, whether it is a romantic or platonic one. In the queer community, particularly amongst gay and bisexual men, the sexual boundaries are constant...

So what are the 3 perfect date ideas? Lust:  This date should be one where you attempt to trigger the lust hormones. Lust is an incredibly powerful feeling that is driven by the desire for sexual gratification. From an evolutionary standpoint, it is rooted in our need to procreate. Now, get two men who have that primal urge and are attracted to one another and what to you get? Hookup culture.  I w...

Differentiating between red flags and pet peeves is VERY important. For me, a red flag is a behavior, character trait, or belief that does not align with your core values or realistic expectations and therefore, would result in a toxic dynamic.    Here are the TOP 4 Red Flags that I look out for in a relationship:   1. Lack of Communication Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationsh...

Here are the top 5 ways to become more secure with yourself, intern, becoming more secure in your relationship! 1. Practice Vulnerability Here is a good exercise to start practicing vulnerability: share your thoughts and feelings with your partner in small ways. For example, you might express your gratitude for something they did or share a personal story from your childhood. As you become more co...

The "perfect person," does not exist. I know this sounds harsh, but it is the reality. So often, I hear this, "the perfect person is out there somewhere!" or "you haven't allowed your perfect match to find you because your wasting your time with these losers." Again, this is a false narrative that you have allowed yourself to believe. Granted, there are a lot of people out there who will waste you...

Are you sick and tired of feeling like you aren't matching with anyone who has the same visions of a relationship as you do? Dating in the modern world can be VERY disappointing if you are not utilizing the proper channels, resources, or techniques. In this episode, I will go over dating apps, dating culture, and offer some tips and tricks to help you on your dating journey! Let's have a chat!

As a love and self-esteem coach, I have worked with many people who have experienced infidelity. In my experience, the focus and emphasis is on the person you was cheated on, however, cheating is a symptom of the disease... not the disease itself. Therefore, it is likely there were issues within the relationship that lead to the infidelity and it is important to unpack it from BOTH sides. The epis...

Getting to the root of infidelity requires very open, honest, and candid conversation with your partner and yourself. Whether you are trying to heal and move on or reconcile the relationship, understand that it will be hard. There will be days that are harder than others but over time, the tough days will become less & less. I wanted to provide you with some resources and tools to help you on...

Navigating infidelity in your relationship is incredibly difficult. As a love & self-esteem coach that works with the LGBTQ+ community, I have seen infidelity plague countless relationships. It is your decision whether you want to walk away from the relationship and allow yourself to heal or if you want to stay and fight. Either way, the decision is yours and it will require some guidance and...

As a self-esteem and love coach, I have come across many couples that have STRUGGLED to communicate in their relationship. The problem is, communication isn't the sexiest topic, therefore, most people don't prioritize learning how to do it the RIGHT way. The reality is, most relationships fail because of communication issues. If you are currently experiencing communication issues or have experienc...

Fetishes can be taboo sometimes, but it's important to embrace your sexuality and not be judged for expressing yourself! As a self-esteem & love coach, I have worked with many individuals and couples who were scared to share their kinks or fetishes with their partner for the fear of judgment, criticism, or even worse yet... disgust. The key to any healthy relationship is the ability to be auth...

Being Bisexual can be a challenge within the queer community. Unfortunately, a lot of us that identify as bisexual have experienced identity invalidation, discrimination, criticism, etc. The most common remarks I hear and my clients have heard are: 1. You're gay, you just aren't comfortable fully coming out yet. 2. You're just seeking attention. 3. You're selfish. You can't have both. 4. You're no...

It can be incredibly difficult to be in a relationship with someone who is not "out of the closet" yet. Often, you feel like their dirty little secret which can lead to a lot of issues within the relationship and internal conflict within yourself. As a self-esteem and relationship coach, I often find that this results in heightened insecurities, self-doubt, and a breakdown of self-confidence. Ther...

We hear the words needy & clingy being thrown around all the time, but have you ever stopped to really understand what that means? Have you ever wondered if you display any of those behaviors and if it has resulted in failed dates or relationships? As a love & self-esteem coach, I have worked with many clients that were unaware of their behaviors that contributed to the breakdown of their...

Unfortunately, I work with a lot of people that have experienced ghosting. I myself have experienced ghosting when I was dating. For me, ghosting is indicative of someone who is insecure, lacks self-esteem, or has confidence issues. Often, you try to understand what happened and you can get into the pattern of blaming yourself. It's not you! Even if they weren't attracted to you or didn't feel a c...