Dear Shandy

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is bonafide Bachelor royalty: Ben Higgins and his stunning fiancée, Jess Clarke! These two join us from their house in Denver, which they are currently renovating, to talk the ins and outs of their sweet relationship. We learn their first impressions of one another, the ways they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Sh...

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Maya, may be in a happy, healthy relationship, but she's at a crossroads. If you've ever been in a longterm relationship and felt marriage should be a given, you just may relate to Maya's (all too common) situation. Just how long is *too* long to wait for a partner's certainty? This just might be our most heated caller conversation to date. Thanks to our sponsor - MANS...

Have you ever wondered what dating and relationships are like when you're a celebrity? How do famous folks meet these days, and when they do, what's different? Do they behave differently in dating than the rest of us, and do "civilians" stand a real chance with them? Our resident celeb is comedian, famed roaster, and podcast host Nikki Glaser! She is brutally honest in her assessment of dating at...

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 If you have a crush on someone in their workplace, is it OK to ask them out? And if so, what are Andy's tried-and-true tips for making a move? Should you put off dating until you have your ducks in a row professionally? Just how much do straight men really care about a woman's occupation and professional success? And if you've bee...

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Sydney Lotuaco (who you may remember from Colton's season of The Bachelor) and her sweet boyfriend, Nick Wehby. These two have a particularly unique meeting story that just might renew your faith in pandemic dating. Sydney and Nick share how the pandemic played a role in getting to truly know one another, how they complement each other, and of course,...

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Kate, has a unique predicament that veers into discussions about mismatched Love Languages and our cultural expectations surrounding proposals. How much does a formal "Will you marry me" *really* matter, and does a man's reticence to deliver on this gender role tradition speak to a deeper problem? Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on...

Have you ever watched a reality TV dating show and wondered what that poker-faced host is REALLY thinking? As Temptation Island fans and general admirers of its host Mark L Walberg's piercing commentary, we're thrilled he agreed to join us for a Confessions episode! Temptation Island brings on four straight real-life couples who are at crossroads in their relationships, separates them for a month,...

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How normal are growing pains when you and your partner first live together, and is it too harsh to deem your partner's living habits unattractive? If you think you're falling for your soon-to-be-roommate—who also happens to be 6 years younger than you—should you explore this or let it go? If you're "cloaked" by someone on a dating...

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is downright iconic in Bachelor Nation: Desiree and Chris Siegfried! We recorded this after they were able to put their boys to bed on the West Coast, which resulted in a very late night and thus very delirious/loopy/giggly chat. Truthfully, this couple exceeded every (already high) expectation: they're refreshingly real and down-to-earth, and simply fu...

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Elise, has a predicament that might resonate if you've ever lusted after a close friend. If you found yourself in love with your close friend-turned-roommate, what would you do? What if said roommate had a longterm girlfriend, yet simultaneously seemed to reciprocate your affections? Today's call went in a different direction than originally expected, which really show...

Today we're joined by licensed family and marriage therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw! There's something for everyone in this episode: If you're either single or in a happy relationship, but you're simply curious what a LFMT encounters in her office, the first half (our "Confessions" segment) is for you! If you have concerns about your own partnership (or your in-laws!) and want to hear a professional'...

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it really a MUST that you and your partner live together before getting married? Just how important is a shared sense of humor in a forever relationship? Which famed statement is more true: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", or "Out of sight, out of mind"? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! If you have a r...

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple requires no introduction: Kaitlyn Bristowe and Jason Tartick! We had high expectations for this "double date" and Jaitlyn did not disappoint. They share their first impressions of each other (and how those have changed), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Ga...

It's Caller Day! Our first caller, Mel, was dumped for not being vulnerable enough. Is there a "vulnerability" timeline? Our second caller, Kate, is in a happy relationship but is perturbed by how little she misses for her partner when they're apart. Could this be a clue to a deeper relationship concern?  Thanks to our sponsor - POSTMATES! Download the Postmates App and use the code: DEARSHANDY fo...

We brought the big guns to tackle your sex and intimacy questions: Sex Therapist Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy! There's something for everyone in this episode: If your sex life is great but you've always been curious about the things a sex therapist has heard and seen, the first half is for you. If your sex life is something of a work in progress, the second half is for you. This episode also includes on...

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it wise to stay connected with your ex via Instagram? Is it a dealbreaker if a guy flakes on your first date at the last minute? Is opening up a 10-year relationship too risky to consider? And if you and your ex broke up due to his lack of relationship experience, is it acceptable to circle back one day, to see if he's changed/...

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Bachelor Nation's happiest (and most iconic!) couples, Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon! These two got married in 2019 and have been very generous with sharing their relationship with the world, but we promise you'll still learn ins and outs about their marriage you didn't know before. Today they share how they think they defied the odds in end...

It's Caller Day! If you've been in a relationship throughout this pandemic, our first caller's predicament just might resonate: How do you reason with a partner who just doesn't see eye to eye with you on COVID safety? Is this potential dealbreaker material? Our second caller's issue is on the other end of the spectrum: If you were dating someone exclusively (to your knowledge), what would you do...

Jealousy is a beast of a topic, so we thought long and hard about who to help us tackle it. Shandy brought the big guns: who better to talk jealousy than the woman who quite literally WROTE THE BOOK on open relationships? We're thrilled to welcome Janet W. Hardy, the co-author of The Ethical Slut, the iconic guide to polyamory that was first published in 1997 and is now on its 3rd edition. As some...

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 What are Shandy's tips to help to keep the spark alive in long term relationships? How soon should you know if the person you're with is "The One", and how much do age and experience play a role in "Knowing"? If you're unhappily married, and if divorce is Door #1 and a life of unhappiness is Door #...

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by newly engaged lovebirds Derek Peth and Saffron Vadher! These two are on the private side, so we're thrilled they agreed to come on and share their relationship with us in true double date fashion. Derek and Saff can usually be found in NYC, but today, they join us from their house in Iowa. They share the serendipitous story of how they met (spoiler ale...

It's Caller Day! If you were at dinner and your date left abruptly, claiming illness, would you read into it? At what point is showing concern too generous? And, is there such a thing as being too young to consider marriage? Does wanting a big wedding—one you'd need to save up for—mean your marital priorities are all wrong? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Sub...

We wanted to do something a little different to celebrate New Year's Eve (and the end of 2020!). So today, inspired by Episode 1 (How We Met), we're doing another throwback: we're going back in time to 2014, to what happened after Shandy met, and how (and when) Andy eventually proposed. Watch on to hear his thought process, how he chose the ring (and whether or not Sharleen liked it!), and Andy's...

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How necessary is compromise in relationships, and where's the line between loving yourself and being too set in your ways? Is it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn't seem to take your biological clock seriously? And is it possible to salvage a new relationship if you had sex "too soon", and at wha...

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by married lovebirds Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo! These two met and got engaged on Rachel's season of The Bachelorette (Season 13) and married in 2019. They are currently bicoastal as Rachel has recently moved to LA for her job as an Extra correspondent, while Bryan remains in their home in Miami, where he maintains his chiropractic practice. They jo...