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Dr Gilbert Caluya: Bravery is Overrated Today we are joined by academic and author Dr Gilbert Caluya. Gilbert is trained in Critical Thinking Theory; or what we call here at Dear Nelly, Ripping Up the Script. Gilbert talks to me about his shame, pride and how the scripts of "bravery" can be damaging. Gilbert is a Gay, Asian man and we talk about the racism he has experienced in dating, his early d...

Dr Debra Campbell: don't date your therapist! Deb Campbell is an author and psychologist. I talk to Deb today about her relationships history, her divorce, her remarriage and her experience of DATING HER FORMER THERAPIST (hot tip: don't do that). We take some wonderful listener calls and do the usual memes and other stuff. A cracker ep from an actual expert. Deb's website: HERE (buy her book LOVEL...

SPECIAL EPISODE WITH SHITTING WITH THE DOOR OPEN PODCAST : FRIENDS AS SOUL-MATES We are joined today by two of my favourite people, Wade Duffin and Harley Breen. In a Dear Nelly Special I am joined by TWO guests to talk about a different kind of love - the love of friends. Wade and Harley are LOOSE UNITS and this episode is filled with laughter and dick jokes. We get into the importance of friends...

GERALDINE HICKEY IS BACK FOR SLOPPY SECONDS Gezza is back! She asks me what it's like to tackle "Divorce Admin" (hint: it's diabolical). We briefly chat about The Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix and how to handle rejection. We take some great listener calls on how to support a friend in a concerning relationship and, how to respectfully navigate a relationship with a trans woman. We also do a let...

Bev Killick: married after ONE DATE This may be our funniest episode yet. I laughed so much a little bit of wee came out. Comedian Bev Killick talks us through her first marriage to a man she'd known for ONE NIGHT. We take a beautiful listener call on getting your mojo back and do the memes and all the stuff. Get your Tena Lady ready - this one is a wild ride. Bev's facebook: HERE BONUS EPISODES:...

SPECIAL EPISODE 2: THROW AN ELBOW EARLY While Nelly is having a short, well-earned break we present to you the first of the series - Best Of Dear Nelly. We'll be back in two weeks but until then enjoy the funniest bits from the first 21 eps, some memes, a Culture Share about "Queen Charlotte" and some new listener calls. BONUS EPISODES: Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a...

SPECIAL EPISODE: ALL THE FUNNY BITS While Nelly is having a short, well-earned break we present to you the first of the series - Best Of Dear Nelly. We'll be back in two weeks but until then enjoy the funniest bits from the first 20 eps, some bloopers and some new listener calls! You also get Nelly's take on the Kardashians and some other stuff. BONUS EPISODES: Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support...

THERE IS NO "WE" IN "ME" Today we’re back for another Sloppy Seconds with the one and only Genevieve Morris. Gen asks me how I see my long-term relationship now that I’m a couple of years out of it. We talk about the healing power of cashiers, why we love Freddie Mercury and we take a brilliant listener letter on dating a widower and how to handle the feelings that come with the presence of “anoth...

SPECIAL LIVE RECORDING WITH REUBEN KAYE! Today we have an exciting episode – a recording of the sold-out Live Show I did recently with comedy, camp, cabaret superstar Reuben Kaye! This episode is unlike others. It was recorded in front of a live audience, with a man under the age of 40 and it totally went off the rails. It was a special for IDAHOBIT day – the international day against homophobia,...

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH EMMA RACE Today we have the one and only Emma Race back. Emma and I talk the joys of perimenopause. We turn the tables and Emma gets to ask me a question – she asks what it’s like to be a newly single parent and if I miss those shared parenting moments. (Spoiler alert: yes and no). We talk about how you know when it’s’ time to leave a long-term relationship and, what it’s like...

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH JO STANLEY Today we have our second return co-host - the one and only Jo Stanley. Jo joined us for episode 10 on 23rd March and talked us through her late start to dating, her early(ish) marriage and making it work through the trials and tribulations of life, love, alcohol, date nights and kids. In this episode Jo asks me about how to support friends through divorce and separat...

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH SCOTT BRENNAN Today we have a special episode. It’s our first return co-host - the one and only Scott Brennan. Scotty Brennan joined us on 23rd Feb and talked us through his journey of recovering from being cheated on by a long term partner. Because we’ve already covered that story in his first ep, today Nelly gives Scotty the chance to turn the tables and ask HER the questions...

Welcome to Episode 15 of Dear Nelly with co-host Psychiatrist, Author and Broadcaster Dr Steve Ellen. Steve and I met when I was working on ABC radio and I instantly adored him – he’s open, honest, humble and vulnerable in a way that many professionals at that level seem to struggle to be. Steve was married young, has one child and was divorced in middle age. He took time to recover and then...

Today we are joined by Cath Davis. Unlike many of my guests, Cath is not in showbiz. She’s a proper bone fide civilian with a normal job. Cath is a professional middle aged woman with a background in policy, unionism and education. She’s long-term single, has a bunch of mates, loves her family and career and is not interested in a relationship unless it value-adds. Bravo to her. Cath and I talk ab...

Welcome to this episode of Dear Nelly with co-host Jane Montgomery Griffiths : Actor, writer, classicist and Head of School of Performing Arts, Collarts, Melbourne. Nelly and Jane talk about experiencing first blinding love, sexuality and our relationship with our bodies as we age and, whether or not there's "A ONE" for everyone. Jane is a brilliant, thoughtful and erudite woman and any schol...

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GENEVIEVE MORRIS Welcome to this episode of Dear Nelly with Genevieve Morris - she’s a comedian, actress and check-out chick and her local IGA (that is not a metaphor). You probably know Gen from various TV roles but most notably Comedy Inc and weirdly, from that ANZ ad where she played Barbara the arsehole Bank Manager ( Barbara lives in Bank World ). Gen is one of the most honest, open and raw g...

APRIL 1ST DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW 2023 INFO AND TICKETS HERE - DON'T MISS OUT! INFO AND TICKETS TO ALL OF KIRTY'S SHOWS HERE We're joined today by comedian Kirsty Webeck. We talk about how Kirsty found herself dating the same person over and over again (hint: not good matches) and then, through therapy, changed her mindset and dating choices. We take listener calls on how to pace relationships and ho...

INFO AND TICKETS FOR THE DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HERE Today's co-host is radio and TV personality Jo Stanley. Jo and Nelly discuss the highs and lows of her long-term marriage - including a frank and fearless that it almost ended because of alcoholism - and take some listener calls on lingerie and the amount of free time men seem to have. BONUS EPISODES: Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcas...

TO BOOK TICKETS TO OUR LIVE SHOW ON APRIL 1ST 2023, CLICK HERE Today we are joined by the one and only Wes Snelling. Wes is LTS (long term single) and hasn't been in a long-term, romantic relationship for 23 years. We discuss the highs and lows of that and how much Wes LOVES living alone. We take a listener call on getting back into sex with new people after a long-term relationship ended (not alw...

Welcome to this episode of Dear Nelly with co-host Helen Thorn: comedian, author and co-host of the wildly successful Scummy Mummies podcast. Helen and Nelly talk about her massive Covid blindside, recovering from the end of her marriage and getting back into dating in her forties (hot tip: she's very good at it). Helen's divorce hasn't been one of those neat "we're still friends" divorces, it's r...

For messages, live show and other info see Nelly's website HERE (www.nellythomas.com) FAKING ORGASMS WITH EMMA RACE Today we are joined by married lady and mum of 3, Emma Race. Emma Race is the Co creator and producer of the award winning Outer Sanctum Podcast and the co-principal of Making the Call - a pathway program for women in sports broadcasting. Emma had a series of tricky relationships in...

YOUR MESSAGES MAKE THE PODCAST! Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question, comment or story. Welcome to Episode 5 of Dear Nelly with co-host Scott Brennan. Nelly and Scott talk about recovering from cheating, why love-bombing is such a huge red flag and those bloody fish photos in straight guys' online dating profiles (Scott's analysis will surprise you). They also get into Scott's d...

Nelly's co-host for this week is comedian Meshel Laurie . They discuss what's like being a single-single-proper-single-mum, what dating is like in your 40's and why you should let your kids have a say in your boyfriends. Meshel also gives some top tips on pick-up confidence - girl has some game. BONUS EPISODES: Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. &nb...

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY - HERE'S A GIFT TO YOU! Here's a a free Bonus Episode from me, to you, for Valentine's Day! You'll get this episode today and your normal one on Thursday - 2 in one week, BONUS! Today's episode is special. It features listener calls about Valentine's Day, some thoughts from my very own kids and my Lovely Lauren calls in. You get a sneak peak from other Bonus eps and some rese...