Dear Katie: Survivor Stories

Inheriting a familial military legacy, Rachel joined the CIA after working a career in male-dominated spaces such as startups and as a military contractor. Discussing her experiences as a military family member, to living through a war in service, she shares a rare perspective on military life, culture, and survivorship. Rachel Cuda made history as the first-ever CIA officer to approach Congress a...

Pursuing her dreams of becoming an actress, Kaila takes many auditions that expose her to the dark exploitation of Hollywood. Unsure of what's normal and living a double life, she's pushed beyond the point of comfort and videotaped in a vulnerable position. Kaila spends years feeling like damaged goods, breaking through the shame with therapy and finding a path to healing. Kaila Yu is an author ba...

Pursuing her dreams of becoming an actress, Kaila takes many auditions that expose her to the dark exploitation of Hollywood. Unsure of what's normal and living a double life, she's pushed beyond the point of comfort and videotaped in a vulnerable position. Kaila spends years feeling like damaged goods, breaking through the shame with therapy and finding a path to healing. Kaila Yu is an author ba...

"My grandfather had abused 13 of the 14 kids [...] you see a lot of repeated cycles." Forced to lie for her family at 14, Priscilla spends her adolescent years living in turmoil and terror. Clawing her way toward forgiveness through faith, she draws on lessons from her own story to fight for justice and healing for both victims and perpetrators. Priscilla Bordayo is a Michigan-based sexual abuse a...

"My grandfather had abused 13 of the 14 kids [...] you see a lot of repeated cycles." Forced to lie for her family at 14, Priscilla spends her adolescent years living in turmoil and terror. Clawing her way toward forgiveness through faith, she draws on lessons from her own story to fight for justice and healing for both victims and perpetrators. Priscilla Bordayo is a Michigan-based sexual abuse a...

"'I don't think you should be around him, he seems very forceful.' ... I didn't listen, of course." Navigating visceral physical reactions, self-blame, and denial in the wake of extreme violation, Amy becomes a ghost of her former self, pushing through stories circling about her experience. Supported by her family, she reports her assaulter to the police, and he disappears. After years of numbing...

"'I don't think you should be around him, he seems very forceful.' ... I didn't listen, of course." Navigating visceral physical reactions, self-blame, and denial in the wake of extreme violation, Amy becomes a ghost of her former self, pushing through stories circling about her experience. Supported by her family, she reports her assaulter to the police, and he disappears. After years of numbing...

Desensitized to sexualization, young Marina is dazzled by Jeffrey Epstein's collection of Victoria's Secret Bottles and models for him, topless. Later testifying as Minor Victim #1 in the case against him, she shares a journey of exploitation, survival, escape, and ultimately, healing.  Marina is a girl from Brazil who survived abuse and is now determined to make a change. She uses her voice to he...

Desensitized to sexualization, young Marina is dazzled by Jeffrey Epstein's collection of Victoria's Secret Bottles and models for him, topless. Later testifying as Minor Victim #1 in the case against him, she shares a journey of exploitation, survival, escape, and ultimately, healing.  Marina is a girl from Brazil who survived abuse and is now determined to make a change. She uses her voice to he...

Find new insights from our incredible guest, Rachael Denhollander.  "How much is a little girl worth?" Guided by a strong sense of justice since she was young, Rachael decided at ten that she wanted to be an attorney. However, her experience reporting abuse in her church comes with a terrible lesson: don't report unless you can prove it. Taking this to heart, when her gymnastics coach Larry Nassar...

Living amongst a backdrop of great racial upheaval in South Africa, Nonku is brutally attacked in the backseat of a taxi and left for dead. Sharing lessons about survivorship and joy, she brings laughter and light into a story of overcoming violence and triumphing against all odds.  Nonku Shuping is an author and the founder of The Love Centre and Radiant Community nonprofit organizations. Beyond...

Living amongst a backdrop of great racial upheaval in South Africa, Nonku is brutally attacked in the backseat of a taxi and left for dead. Sharing lessons about survivorship and joy, she brings laughter and light into a story of overcoming violence and triumphing against all odds.  Nonku Shuping is an author and the founder of The Love Centre and Radiant Community nonprofit organizations. Beyond...

Dr. Winnie M Li is an author, activist, and educator. A former filmmaker, Winnie’s life and career trajectory were severely disrupted at the age of 29, when she became the victim of a violent stranger rape in Belfast, Northern Ireland. Her debut novel Dark Chapter (2017) is a fictional re-imagining of that assault and its aftermath, from the perspectives of both victim and perpetrator. Her subsequ...

Dr. Winnie M Li is an author, activist, and educator. A former filmmaker, Winnie’s life and career trajectory were severely disrupted at the age of 29, when she became the victim of a violent stranger rape in Belfast, Northern Ireland. Her debut novel Dark Chapter (2017) is a fictional re-imagining of that assault and its aftermath, from the perspectives of both victim and perpetrator. Her subsequ...

'There are people who want to create change, and there are people who don't want to create change.' This week, we are joined by the incredible Scott Berkowitz for an engaging and timely conversation on sexual violence advocacy. Listen in as Scott and Katie discuss the formative moments of over 30 years of activism, current resources available to survivors, and visions for hope.  Scott Berkowitz is...

'There are people who want to create change, and there are people who don't want to create change.' This week, we are joined by the incredible Scott Berkowitz for an engaging and timely conversation on sexual violence advocacy. Listen in as Scott and Katie discuss the formative moments of over 30 years of activism, current resources available to survivors, and visions for hope.  Scott Berkowitz is...

Thordis Elva is a writer, speaker, and activist from Iceland who specializes in violence prevention and has shaped national and international policy on digital rights and gender equality. In 2017, she gained worldwide recognition for her book South of Forgiveness, a memoir about her sexual assault and subsequent journey to healing in which Thordis collaborated with her perpetrator, making her the...

Thordis Elva is a writer, speaker, and activist from Iceland who specializes in violence prevention and has shaped national and international policy on digital rights and gender equality. In 2017, she gained worldwide recognition for her book South of Forgiveness, a memoir about her sexual assault and subsequent journey to healing in which Thordis collaborated with her perpetrator, making her the...

This week, we sit down with three more incredible activists from across the country, who share their experiences and expertise in advocacy.  Gia Lanteri is a recent graduate of Fordham University, where she studied Communications and Culture with a minor in Creative Writing. At Fordham, she served as the President of The Women’s Network, leading initiatives on professional development, equality, a...

This week, we sit down with three more incredible activists from across the country, who share their experiences and expertise in advocacy.  Gia Lanteri is a recent graduate of Fordham University, where she studied Communications and Culture with a minor in Creative Writing. At Fordham, she served as the President of The Women’s Network, leading initiatives on professional development, equality, a...

Kristina Haight is a passionate advocate, healer, and mother who brings deep compassion and authenticity to her work. Her life was forever changed after surviving a random act of violence, a home invasion in which a stranger broke in and committed a robbery and sexual assault. That traumatic event marked the beginning of a long and courageous healing journey, ultimately leading her to become a hos...

"How do you forgive without an apology?"  Vulnerable due to neglected parenting, Becky is targeted by bullies and abusers. Falling victim to a powerful school superintendent, her journey seeking safety and connection takes her through trials and tribulations. She finally finds healing through a technique called brainspotting; hear more about her story and her healing in her book Anger, Alcohol, an...

Faced with sexual violence at 10, Farhan used personal reflection and healing to push past societal stigmas and cultural barriers to break his silence, consciously committing to living bravely and authentically. Today, Farhan Manjiyani is a compassionate, relentless, brave leader living his vision of ending sexual assault in the world by being the permission slip for others to begin their own heal...

For Donna Besel, words are her life. A dynamic writer, storyteller, and educator, she shares incredible insights from a lifetime of survivorship and reckoning, and how her truth rocked her small hometown. Donna's best-selling memoir, The Unravelling: Incest and the Destruction of a Family, provides an honest glimpse into the tolls of sexual violence on survivors and communities.  Host: Katie Koest...

Leaving a successful football career for a new calling, Don McPherson has spent the last few decades challenging classic notions of masculinity. Giving us the ins and outs of 'locker room talk' and male-only spaces, he shares insights from years of lived experience and activism.  Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang