Dear Abbey

Trigger warning: Topics of self harm 00:22:00 - 00:29:00 Todayyy we talk about my recent bachelorette weekend trip, my recent thoughts on holding myself accountable when I stop therapy, and all about taking up space after you have lived with shame for a long time! We also talk about a recent dear abbey submission and topics of self harm. If you or someone you know is struggling, please seek help f...

Todayyy we talk about false memory OCD and how that can build up resentment, anger, and distrust. How to flip the mental script when you only focus on the bad or wrong things people do. We can sometimes miss the sweetness of being an imperfect human!! We also have a dear abbey listener question about dealing with OCD and difficult people. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leav...

Todayyy we talk about cute things humans do, some weird (non-OCD) fears, and then for the "meat" of today's episode we talk about getting married after a divorce and all the feelings that go into it. I share my experience of jealousy, relationship anxiety, trust issues, and just some of the work it took to become more "securely" attached. AND THAT IT IS ALL WORTH IT. We also answer a listener subm...

Todayyy we talk about my recent OCD theme switch and the obsessions with movies/music/TV AND all about how frustrating it can feel when OCD changes up on you. We also talk about why validation is so important for yourself and relationships and what that even means (according to me - a NON PROFESSIONAL). We then have a Dear Abbey listener submission about religious OCD and things to help with it! C...

Todayyy I talk about my recent trip to visit my family and my new years resolutions which are 1. trying to stop always looking to blame and 2. coming back to just being myself!! being yourself is your superpower!! I also answer a listener submission asking how to be more comfortable with yourself after dealing with mental illness for so long! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or...

Todayyy we talk about my Christmas surprise, my REAL engagement ring!! I explain recent feelings of overwhelm and how to set boundaries with people that are not mutually respectful, as well as the difficulty of dealing with people who disrespect things you hold close to your heart. I also dive into how I use my want to understand or intellectualize emotions to bypass actually feeling them and taki...

Todayyy we talk about some wedding updates and my past week in Vegas, etc I also talk about why we as humans tend to judge others and why we need to point that finger right back to ourselves. I list some reasons for this and talk about some possible things to help that I have done. We also answer a Dear Abbey question about when someone flirts with your boyfriend right in front of you....

Todayyy we talk about some of my recent life updates and some dubs and L's such as facing some hard exposures and starting to fall in love with cooking. I dive in to the idea of letting yourself feel happy before your life is perfect or before you have everything "figured out". I speak on why life is more simple than we make it sometimes and we are allowed and capable to be present and change our...

Todayyy we talk about my favorite affordable gift ideas and some fun DIY gifts! I share some of my favorite influencers, brands, and accounts!! I also speak about the most recent trip to Colorado with my Fiancés family and how my ex "in laws" made it hard for me to open up again. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking for advice!! Love you guy...

Todayyy we celebrate 100 episodes of Dear Abbey!! I am so grateful for our little community and I talk about the evolution of this podcast! I talk about my favorite episodes and read some reviews and comments that mean a lot to me! THANKS AGAIN FOR EVERYTHING, LOVE YOU GUYS! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking for advice!! Love you guys!

Todayyy we talk about when starting something new or starting over gets frustrating. When we feel our efforts are amounting to nothing it can get discouraging :( but believe in good things to come!! We also talk briefly about when you put people in a box and how that is doing an injustice to others and yourself. We answer a listener question about how to deal with a Compulsive liar!!! Call 909-817...

Todayyy is a short one due to being sick and almost no energy (or sanity). I talk about my engagement shoot and some other life updates! We talk about when you wish you were the person you used to be or when you want to go back in time. We answer a listener question about getting over a boy after a recent breakup! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question...

Todayyy we talk about how OCD can latch to ANYTHING including politics. During an election period my OCD spikes so I speak on this weird obession and some other random obessions I have had that aren't too sticky but do pop up from time to time. I also speak on my recent breakthrough with my body image. I have not experienced the devastation of an eating disorder or body dysmorphia, so I do not spe...

Todayyy we talk about when you have a lot of shame and guilt that stops you from acknowledging the positive traits you have.  OCD especially can make you think you are just that,  ONLY YOUR OCD and only scared etc., when you have so many positive traits!!! We also talk about my recent week with snorkeling, murder mysteries, and dubs and L’s.  We answer a dear abbey question about qu...

Todayyy we talk about how to push through when you are feeling apathetic towards a better tomorrow and towards life in general. We talk about how devastating and sneaky OCD can be when it changes themes without you realizing it was OCD. We alsoo answer a listeners question about getting past the "small talk" phase of a friendship. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text...

Todayyy I was feeling very freshly emo because I had an emotional rollercoaster of a day. I speak through these feelings in the moment and I speak on the feeling of loneliness when you grew up chronically misunderstood. There is a very sad pain that comes from being misunderstood and told "you shouldn't feel that way". I talk about being sensitive and why we build up this guard when we grew up wit...

Todayyy we talk about how I found my wedding dress!!! I also speak about when you are struggling to feel safe in your own head and when you refuse to be alone in fear of facing those thoughts/feelings. I also speak on panic attacks and riding the sensation wave. We answer a dear abbey question about reflecting and moving on after a break up! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or l...

Todayyy we talk about my depressive (Bipolar II) episode this past week and how I coped and the progress I made on managing it. I talk about loosening the grip on your identity being your mental health or illness. We then talk about saying you're sorry rather than being defensive when someone brings something up that they saw as hurtful. Sometimes we defend and try to prove we are always "good" wh...

Todayyyy we first talk about my dubs and L's for the week then we dive into the main subject RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY. I suffered with this and still do from time to time. I speak about a couple ways it showed up for me and what I learned about myself and how to reframe my mindset when it came to relationships. I talk about how irrational and exhausting OCD can be and how much it lies to you (even if...

Todayy I talk about those times in your life where you are struggling with your sleep. Whether it's because of worry or OCD or anything else. I talk about when your OCD obsessions get really loud and scary in your sleep and dreams. I share some ways to help fall asleep and have less crazy OCD dreams. I also speak on how trying to get "perfect" sleep all the time can be compulsive and EXHAUSTING. I...

Todayyyy I talk about the reality of having to surrender and go through things we are just intellectualizing. I talk about my recent career interest into doula work, and about having an abundance mindset with all aspects of life. I also answer a dear abbey question about how to handle explaining OCD to your partner and figuring out ways they can support you! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbe...

TODAYYY we talk about how choosing positivity and belief helped with my anxiety and OCD and just my life!! I share a turning point in my life where I decided to throw away my cynicism and start to soften my heart again. I talk about how you never have to stay a cynic. AND we answer a listener question about toxic mother in law's Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text w...

I GOT ENGAGED!!! Todayy I talk about my shocking and amazing birthday weekend and my proposal story! I give a life update since I’ve got a lot going on! I talk about wedding planning and my feelings on engagement. I also answer a listener voicemail about ways to help with anxiety!! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking for advice!! Love you g...

Todayyy I talk about getting stuck in the past in OCD recovery and just in everyday life!! We talk about mentally reviewing the past and double checking memories. I also talk about my recent accomplishment of changing my attitude despite feeling overwhelmed with emotion!! I also answer a listener question about not feeling valued as a friend.. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or...

Todayy I talk about my recent shocking experience while grocery shopping, and a short life update!! But then we talk all about rumination and why stopping this was so KEY to recovering from OCD and just enjoying life more. I talk about what it was for me and how I have been helping myself recover from this. We also talk about how to deal with triggers while in a new healthy relationship!! Call 909...