Dear Abbey

Todayyy we talk about gratitude and trying to feel it with depression or just if you're down in the dumps. Always be gentle with yourself, this is your first time living life!! I also share my crazy (workaholic) tendencies during this time of the year, and how I need to set boundaries for myself to prevent burnout (or just crying all the time). HAPPY THANKSGIVING!! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “De...

Todayyy we talk about my recent life updates and thoughts around introverts/extroverts, social anxiety, and the many lies our brainds can tell us. One lie being we are boring and our life is over lol. Another lie being that we have no "future". So I squash these lies and also take a second to remind myself how important checking in mentally and emotionally going into the holiday season. We then en...

Todayyy we talk about not taking things personally as much (even though I am VERY sensitive) lol. But then we jump into talking about why we hold onto things that hurt us. Why it can be so hard to let things go, whether that be mindsets, compulsions, behaviors. We then end the episode answering a listener submission about navigating a diagnoses and how involved to get your family. Call 909-817-174...

Todayyy we talk about isolating yourself and how much heartache mental illness can create around feelings of loneliness. I share some encouragement around finding somebody to talk to and trust with your mental health. I also talk about you can support somebody with mental health in conversation. I end the episode with a listener submission asking about how faith has played a role with my mental il...

Todayyy we talk about getting good rest. Physical but mostly mental rest! I share some tips to getting good mental rest and reset to help you feel more capable of taking on this life. It can be hard to give yourself proper rest and not ruin with "shoulding" on ourselves. We then end the episode talking about the fear of losing attraction for your partner when experiencing relationship OCD. Call 90...

Todayyy we talk all about relationship anxiety. I share some of the less than healthy behaviors that keep us stuck and could be compulsive. I share some tips on how to feel more connected and how to handle the OCD breakup urges. I also share my dubs and L's for this week and my latest nerdy endeavors lol. We end the episode with a listener submission about getting back together with an ex!!?? Call...

Todayyy we talk about how OCD or mental illness can make you feel like the exception. It can rip away any comfort or peace that is offered unless you really work on recovery. I talk about ways I have gotten out of creative or mental slumps. Then I answer a listener submission about magical thinking OCD! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking f...

Todayyy I talk about forgiving yourself. I talk about how to do this, and also how easy it can be to slowly let your walls build up over time. I also talk about my new favorite game lol Then I end the episode with a dear abbey submission asking about picking a theme for your wedding. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking for advice!! Love you...

Todayyy I share some dubs and L's from my past week! Then I jump into the main topic which is how focusing on the small things will help make those big changes. It can feel overwhelming to start something new or to even keep going when you lose motivation, but just start small then things will start to feel possible. I end the episode with a Dear Abbey submission on how to stop rumination when you...

Todayy I talk all about the high sensitive person!! I share a little bit about what it means and the history of it. Then I talk about the top 3 main stigmas or misunderstandings people may have around HSP's. I am not the expert on this subject, but you can research all of Dr. Elain Aron's work, including her book "The Highly Sensitive Person". The three stigmas are 1. They are attention seekers 2....

Todayy I share a quick life update, then we jump right on into the topic of self compassion. I share one of my favorite ways to show myself this. I also talk about how damaging comparison really is to yourself and some habits most of us have. I end the episode answering a listener submission about existential anxiety and depersonalization! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or lea...

Todayy we talk about some more difficult things as well as how to handle grief in others. We talk about the recent scary news and how sometimes we are not sure what to do with that information. This episode is one of those episodes that I truly brain vomit. We then end the episode with a dear abbey about the difference between OCD and Anxiety. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or...

Todayy we talk about my birthday weekend at Disney and my ever-growing craft closet. We then talk all about body image being magnified by OCD. We talk about how to maybe quit feeding the fire by only loving specific pictures or angles and how to learn to love your reflection by seeing yourself through the eyes of people who love you. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a t...

Todayy we talk all about imposter syndrome...why it comes and how to help manage it or unmask it. But first we talk about how my D&D game went, my bday gifts, and how hard it is to Dungeon Master. We then talk about imposter syndrome and end the episode with a dear abbey submission about medication and therapy with OCD!! Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with...

Todayy we talk about some dubs and L's, my L being that I am impulsive sometimes lol. We then talk about being honest with yourself on how fast do you give up on things or yourself? your dreams? Being honest with yourself can be such a freeing experience and open your eye to ways you can really become something better. We end the episode answering a Dear Abbey Submission about how to make friends...

Todayy I kinda just hop right into it and talk about when our monkey brain tells us we need everything right now or its not worth it. WHICH IS NOT TRUE!!! The best things in life take time. I then talk about the dubs and L's from my week, one being finishing The Hobbit movies!! We end the episode with a dear abbey submission about relationship OCD and wanting to give up. Call 909-817-1742 to leave...

Todayyy we talk about my recent crafty hobbies, and my birthday Dungeons and Dragons party I am planning. It will be my first time DMing!! Then we talk about ways to reconnect with yourself outside of your OCD or any mental illness. You are still you, even if OCD says you are a bunch of other things! We then end the episode with a listener submission about how to not let OCD/anxiety steal the happ...

Todayyy we talk about relationship anxiety and the urge to leave EVEN IF you don't want to. We dive into why this theme can be so hard and painful to the one experiencing it and to the significant other. I share my early experiences with ROCD and how it morphed feelings I had for my now husband. I end the episode with a listener update from a recent episode!! Our first update!! yay!! Call 909-817-...

Todayyy we talk about my recent Saturday morning adventures of running and swimming and the effect that’s had on my health. I share a letter I wrote to remind me to check in with myself and keep fighting in recovery. I talk about the benefits of support groups and my experience with them. Then I end the episode with a listener submission about setting boundaries in situations you know will be a bi...

Todayyy we talk about how I've been managing burn out and setting boundaries from work. I also talk about how no one is going to improve your life for you. Even if they wanted to, only you can change and improve your life. I speak on why getting out of a victim mentality is SO FREEING. Then we end the episode with a Dear Abbey submission about finding the right medication and how to mentally prep...

Todayyy we talk about what if thoughts and how to combat them. I talk about how anxiety/OCD steals your peace. I talk about how the thoughts are not the problem, its your reaction to them. I also talk about not wasting time ruminating or researching things you will never be able to solve. We end the episode answering a Dear Abbey Submission about tips for going through divorce. Call 909-817-1742 t...

Todayy I jump right on in (kinda rude of me) and talk about when brain rot goes too far and about taking your power back from wasting lots of time doom scrolling. I then talk about 3 things your OCD brain can and will use against you to stay in control, (from my personal experience). Those three things are your knowledge, desire to do good, and the desire to be loved/to love. We end the episode wi...

Todayy I have a special guest! Chelsey Curtis is on the podcast (from the What We Said Podcast) and we talk about a looot but we focus on her story with her mental health. She talks about how reading helped her with anxiety, existential worries, and learning some tools how to sooth a growing anxiety attack. We also ended the episode on a lighter note with a "most likely to" sister edition.... Call...

Todayy we talk about the fear of losing your compassion or sensitivity with OCD recovery. Which is basically just that it can be a misunderstanding that OCD recovery will make you heartless or not "care as much" but this is not true. Your care just changes and matures, but it is still there. We talk about feeling all the feels and how to stay in touch with our emotions through recovery and through...

Todayy we talked about having grit is a key to OCD recovery. Grit is a God-given gift and can help us recover. OCD is so persistent so we need to be just as persistent in our response to it. We also talk about my Dubs and L's for the week. One of the L's being my tendency to give an accidental silent treatment bc I sometimes don't know what to say or what I even feel. We end the episode answering...