Dating Intentionally

You know you want to be with your partner for a long time, but how do you know when to move in? Today I'm sharing everything I've learned about moving in with a partner, from knowing when you're ready to navigating daily life together. I cover the emotional and practical signs you're ready to cohabitate, the red flags that you're not, and why you need to talk about your relationship timeline first...

Author and educator Laura Danger ( @thatdarnchat ) brought weaponized incompetence and the nag paradox into the mainstream, and today she's here to talk about how these dynamics can show up way before you're married with kids. We get into the early warning signs of domestic inequity you can spot while dating, the green flags that actually matter for a long-term partnership, and what a truly collab...

Feeling uneasy about your partner's friendship with someone of the opposite sex? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what that jealousy actually means, when it's a you problem vs. a real red flag, and how to navigate it without sabotaging your relationship. I'm sharing my own experience working through this with Johnny and the one boundary we set that made all the difference. Plus...

Sabrina Bendory , author of Detached: How to Let Go, Heal and Become Irresistible , joins me to break down what detached dating actually means (hint: it's not about not caring). We get into why you keep ending up in situationships, the difference between limerence and real connection, and two tools to manage dating anxiety that you probably never heard of before. Plus, we tackle a dating dilemma a...

I'm answering four real dating dilemmas from listeners stuck on whether to stay or leave a relationship. I get into how to end a medium-term relationship, what to do when you've been on the fence for months, the difference between accepting imperfections and settling, and what to actually look for when you give someone a deadline to change. If you're in a relationship that feels "fine" but you're...

I'm chatting with Travis Ambrose , an attachment-focused coach who specializes in helping people on the avoidant end of the spectrum heal and build healthier relationships. We're discussing everything from signs of avoidant attachment to the common mistakes anxious daters make that push avoidants away. Travis also shares his framework for knowing when a relationship is workable versus when it's ti...

Let's get ready for a first date! I'm sharing a pep talk for your next first date, plus my best quick tips for flirting, so you can actually create a romantic connection instead of just a friendly one. I'm covering how to lower the stakes and stop putting so much pressure on yourself, what your real mission is on a first date, and what to do if you're nervous. Then I get into the basics of flirtin...

I'm chatting with Amy Nobile Messing , a holistic dating coach who "turbo dated" her way through NYC after leaving a 20-year marriage in her 40. She's now remarried and helping clients of all ages find love with intention. We're discussing everything from how to bring up your divorce on a first date to her four pillars for filtering someone out by date four. Amy also shares the trick question she...

I’m breaking down the real signs someone is actually ready for a relationship beyond what they say on a dating app or how excited they seem early on. I’m also covering what doesn’t mean much on its own (like good morning texts or initial excitement), how long it should realistically take to see these signs, and what you’ll never see from someone who’s truly ready. Along the way, I share personal e...

In this episode, I'm chatting with Allora Dannon , who went on her first date ever at 32. She's now engaged, and we're discussing everything from how to bring up your lack of experience on a date to navigating physical intimacy when it's all brand new to grieving the timeline you thought you'd have while still moving forward. Whether you're a late bloomer yourself or you want to better support som...

In this episode, I'm breaking down 8 things that seem like red flags but are actually just part of being with someone for a while, like feeling bored sometimes, not being "in love" every single day, having doubts, disagreeing about money, and yes, occasionally thinking about an ex. I'm sharing where the line is between normal and actually problematic, plus what Johnny and I have experienced along...

In this episode, I’m joined by dating coach Erika Ettin again to break down the mindset shifts that make dating feel calmer, clearer, and more intentional. We talk about dating NATO (not attached to outcome), avoiding pen-pal dynamics, reading texting patterns, and how to stay open without over-investing too early. At the end, we dive into a text support question from a listener about a promising...

Starting fresh in dating can feel exciting and overwhelming at the same time. In this episode, I'm sharing my top 10 tips for dating intentionally in 2026, from building confidence and resilience to utilizing phone calls to combat flakiness to finding an in-person approach that actually fits your life and getting crystal clear on your core needs. This episode is packed with the direction and posit...

Being single is treated like something to escape, like something's wrong with you. But what if we stopped thinking of it that way? In this episode, I'm sharing the exact exercise I did after leaving my 6-year relationship that completely changed how I approached dating. I'm sharing the reflection questions I used to build my own security while actively dating, so you can do the same. This episode...

Are you overthinking your dating situations, or are people showing you exactly who they are? In this episode, I break down four real dating dilemmas, which will help you trust your gut, set firmer boundaries, and date with more confidence and ease. Dilemma 1) dating someone who isn’t truly available, Dilemma 2) dealing with inconsistency and repeated cancellations, Dilemma 3) knowing when to...

Breakups aren’t fun, but they don’t have to break you. In this episode, I’m joined by breakup coach Cole Zesiger to talk about why we ruminate, how to stop comparing new dates to an ex, and when you are actually ready to date again. We also get into his divorce story, real healing strategies, and at the end we get into a dating dilemma about staying in touch with exes. Connect with Cole Zesiger: I...

Getting to date three is hard and getting past it can feel impossible. In this episode, I’m breaking down why connections so often fizzle by date three, how to tell if you’re subconsciously pushing people away, and what actually helps build momentum early on. I share practical tips around texting, planning dates, pacing, and confidence. At the end, I get into a dating dilemma about a concert invit...

In this episode, I chat with Drea Renee , host of Hey Babe Can We Talk, to break down long-distance dating, vetting men from the apps, and the subtle red flags we often talk ourselves out of. Drea shares how she unexpectedly met someone abroad who challenges her patterns in the best ways. We dive into red flags, long-distance dynamics, and the inner work that real connection demands. At the end, w...

In this episode, I break down why we crave being chosen in dating and how shifting into being the chooser transforms your confidence, clarity, and relationships. I unpack the media messages, attachment patterns, and personal experiences that keep us chasing validation, and I walk you through how to date from a place of self-worth, clarity, and mutual choosing. At the end, I dive into a dating dile...

In this episode, I sit down with therapist and emotional maturity expert Julia Kristina to break down what emotional maturity actually looks like in dating. We cover the signs of an emotionally mature partner, how to build a deeper connection, and how to handle conflict with confidence instead of fear. At the end, I get into a dating dilemma about how to manage your emotions when someone pulls bac...

Ever feel anxious even when a new connection is going well? In this episode, I break down why that happens, how to tell the difference between intuition & overthinking, & what to do when your attachment system gets loud. I share my own story, practical tools to calm anxiety, and how to navigate dating someone who feels this way too. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma from a woman w...

This throwback episode (originally aired June 14, 2024) features Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, hosts of Dateable Podcast, who've been sharing dating advice for 8 years. We cover practical tips for better date conversations, how to screen matches effectively, and the mindset shifts that help you stay curious and less attached to outcomes. We also discuss what successful daters have in common: wanting...

Ever wonder if you’re actually making progress in dating, even when it doesn’t feel like it? I’m diving into how to tell you’re truly on the right track, even if you’re still single after A LOT of dating. I share six clear signs of growth , what not to measure, and how to stay grounded through rejection, dry spells, and frustration. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about the honeymoon phase....

If you’re craving real talk and practical tools for lasting love, this episode is for you. I sit down with my trainer, Tara LaFerrera , for a deep, honest conversation about keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships. We get real about connection after 11 years together, how to communicate with more ease, navigate tough seasons, stay emotionally aligned, build supportive routines, and crea...

Spot the dating red flags you’re missing. In this episode, I break down 4 real dating dilemmas: mismatched intentions, situationships, messy family dynamics, and exes who want the perks without the commitment. If you’ve ever ignored your gut or hoped someone would change, this episode will help you see the patterns clearly and choose healthier connections. We’ll talk about early warning signs, emo...