Dating Déjà vu

Are they gaslighting you or are you just misusing the term? In this episode, Christina breaks down two of the most misunderstood (and overused) buzzwords in modern dating: gaslighting and narcissism. With compassion and clarity, she explains how labeling every ex or situationship with these terms can be damaging. Not just to them, but to your own healing. Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call wit...

In this episode, Christina dives deep into the complex world of hookup culture, exposing the emotional toll behind the promise of "no strings attached" encounters. Episode highlights:🩵 Why casual sex might be leaving you feeling emptier than empowered🩵 How early exposure to sex can distort your relationship expectations🩵 The critical difference between being desired and being truly seen Let's c...

What really keeps a relationship strong? Spoiler: It’s not vacations, proposals, or grand romantic gestures. In this episode, Christina reveals the one thing that research shows sustains love in the long run: bids for connection. Listen now to learn what it means and how to recognize and respond to these small but powerful interactions that build lasting intimacy—and how ignoring them might be qui...

Let's dive deep into the subtle yet powerful ways conditional love shows up in modern dating and how it may be sabotaging your relationships without you even knowing it. From “perfect girl” syndrome to confusing anxiety with chemistry, she breaks down how many of us learned early on that love must be earned, and how that belief plays out on Bumble, in our DMs, and even in long-term partnership...

Have you ever been in a relationship that looked great on the outside—but felt empty on the inside? In this episode, Christina dives into the quiet emotional detachment that happens long before a breakup. She explores why people start withholding sex, affection, or even updates about their lives—not as a form of punishment, but as a protective response when emotional needs are repeatedly unmet. Us...

Let's dive into the psychology and spirituality of manifestation. But this isn’t your typical “script it and sip your green juice” advice. Christina blends therapeutic insight with real-life strategies for healing your nervous system, rewiring your beliefs, and becoming emotionally available to yourself first. Whether you're tired of breadcrumbing, ghosting, or repeating dating patterns, t...

Ever been praised for being “the total package”— beautiful, successful, easygoing—only to be ghosted the moment you show emotion or vulnerability? In this powerful episode, Christina Hathaway, marriage and family therapist and dating expert, breaks down the Dream Girl Wound— the pattern where high-achieving women are idolized for being perfect but abandoned when they act human. If you’ve felt like...

Before you redownload dating apps or—worse—text your ex, ask yourself the question most people skip: "Am I truly ready to date again?" In this episode, we're going to talk about the often-ignored signs you're not ready to date—and what real readiness actually looks like. This isn't about blaming or shaming. It's about protecting your peace, rebuilding your foundation, and...

In this no-fluff, truth-bomb-packed episode, Christina dives into why some women keep attracting emotionally unavailable men and what it actually means to be a high-value woman. If you’ve ever been ghosted, breadcrumbed, or left wondering why he won’t commit, this one’s for you. Christina unpacks the difference between the “pick me” mindset and the self-rooted, magnetic energy of a whole-value wom...

Is “perfect compatibility” keeping you single? In this episode, Christina dives into the myth of the "perfect partner" and why chasing a fantasy version of love may be sabotaging your chances of real connection. Christina shares personal stories, client examples, and professional insight to help you shift your mindset from unrealistic expectations to meaningful compatibility. Whether you're hyperc...

Let's talk about the unconscious patterns that might be sabotaging your relationships in today's episode. It’s not about shame, it’s about ownership. From unspoken expectations to emotional hijacking and trauma-driven “gut feelings,” Christina walks you through the real reasons love might keep slipping through your fingers, and how to finally break the cycle. If you’ve ever said “they just...

Have you ever found yourself mid-fight about something small like the dishes, the thermostat, or a passing tone... wondering, how did we even get here? In this raw and revealing episode of Dating Déjà Vu, Christina breaks down the REAL reason you keep looping through the same arguments. Spoiler: it’s not about the damn dishes. We’re talking: Why your emotional cup is already full and what’s really...

In today’s episode, we’re flipping the script, we’re not talking about red flags. We’re talking GREEN FLAGS! The subtle, powerful signs of emotional safety, regulation, and genuine connection that most people overlook in favor of sparkly chaos. (Yes, chaos and chemistry are not the same thing.) This episode will have you rethinking every “boring” date you ever ghosted. Because real love isn’t abou...

You’ve heard the clichés: “Once a cheater, always a cheater” or “They just wanted sex.” But what if that’s not the full story? In this episode, Christina goes deep into the real reasons people cheat—from unresolved trauma and emotional neglect to ego crises, conflict avoidance, and unmet needs. Whether you’ve been betrayed, have cheated, or simply want to understand infidelity through a more human...

You say you have high standards. But is it really self-respect or self-sabotage in disguise? In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference between standards that protect your peace and walls that block your connection. Christina dives into the origin of emotional walls, how hyper-independence masks emotional wounds, and how to open up to love without losing yourself. If you're constantl...

Are you falling for potential instead of choosing a partner who’s ready to show up for love today? In this episode, Christina breaks down the hidden truth behind dating "fixer uppers." From childhood caretaking roles to modern-day overfunctioning, she reveals why some of us feel most alive in relationships where we are needed... but not necessarily valued. You’ll learn: ✨ Why chemistry...

If you're addicted to Love Is Blind and love dissecting dating dynamics through a therapist’s lens, this episode is for you. Christina Hathaway, licensed marriage and family therapist, is diving deep into the Minnesota edition of Love Is Blind Season 8—unpacking emotional red flags, toxic family ties, communication breakdowns, and the difference between compatibility and true connection. From Sara...

If you’re tired of ghosting, breadcrumbing, or wasting your weekends on lackluster dates, this episode is your wake-up call! Dating and relationship expert, Christina Hathaway, shares the exact boundary-setting strategy (the viral “3x3x3x3 Rule”) to help you date smarter, stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, and protect your time, energy, and heart. In this episode, you'll learn h...

Do you find yourself pushing people away just when things start to feel real? Do you pick fights, ghost, or suddenly lose interest? If so, you might be caught in the cycle of self-sabotage when it comes to love. In this episode, Christina breaks down why we sabotage relationships, from fear of abandonment to hyper-independence, low self-worth, and even addiction to the chase. She helps you recogni...

Saying "I love you" is easy, but does it truly land? In this episode, Christina explores how love is communicated through words and actions, shares her personal experience of waiting a year to hear those three little words from her now-husband, and offers insight into recognizing love even when it’s not spoken aloud. She breaks down the importance of love languages, how to know if someone truly lo...

In this DeJa View episode, we're diving into the relationship dynamics of your favorite reality TV couples. From Shep and Sienna (Southern Charm) to Joe Bradley and Maddi Reese (Southern Hospitality) and Jesse Solomon and Lexi (Summer House), we're breaking down the love addict/love avoidant cycles, boundary issues, and the patterns that keep people stuck in unhealthy relationships. Ever f...

Let's talk about the outdated dating rules we need to leave behind! From “the guy should always text first” to “playing hard to get actually works,” Christina unpacks where these tropes come from, why they’re problematic, and whether they deserve a spot in modern dating. Are opposites really the key to lasting love? Does jealousy mean someone actually cares? Christina challenges these old-scho...

Why is it so hard to move on from a toxic ex?! From emotional addiction and trauma bonding to the justifications we tell ourselves, Christina unpacks the hidden forces keeping you stuck and gives you actionable strategies to break free. If you're ready to stop the emotional yo-yo and attract the love you truly deserve, this episode is for you! Let's connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/da...

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of relationships—one person craving closeness, the other pulling away? It’s not just bad luck—it’s a cycle. In this episode, I’m breaking down the Love Addict & Love Avoidant cycle—a dynamic that explains why some people chase love while others run from it. Based on Pia Mellody’s post-induction therapy model, this framework will bl...

Welcome to the very first Dating DejaVIEW episode! In this series, host Christina Hathaway dives into the relationship dynamics of reality TV couples—analyzing attachment styles, emotional patterns, and the psychology behind love, heartbreak, and everything in between. In this episode, Christina takes a deep dive into: ✨ Mauricio and Kyle’s separation—what went wrong? ✨ Lindsay and Carl’s whirlw...