Dads And Daddies

Brian recounts his first week of recovery from his lower eyelid surgery and hears Judson’s perspective on their trip to Sephora with Brian’s kids. Judson shares a lovely Daddy/Son experience and talks about how he navigates some of the challenges of a corporate job. The two then talk kissing–from their first kisses to practicing on their pillows to what makes a good kisser to how much more there i...

Brian’s nine year-old asks the big question. Judson spreads the word about the Instagram purchase that has changed his life. The two chat about some of the latest TV they’re obsessing over. Judson and Brian then dive deep into an exploration of intimacy–with their husbands, with their friends and with their hookups. This week’s episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question that asks our Dad and Dad...

Brian celebrates his first rave review on The Blowers, and Judson details his experience of the “Solid Gold” exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum. The two then welcome to the podcast the inimitable JIMBO the Drag Clown, winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race All-Stars Season 8 and current star of Drag the Musical off-Broadway. JIMBO talks about his journey from behind-the-scenes artisan to realizing his dream of...

Happy Birthday to Judson! After a mini birthday party for everyone’s favorite Daddy, Judson and Brian also celebrate the 13th anniversary of Brian’s first date with his now-husband and the first anniversary of the text exchange between Judson and Brian that resulted in this podcast. The two compare notes on their New Year’s Day polar plunge experiences and share their personal growth goals that th...

Judson laments having missed an opportunity to have a chance encounter with Luigi Mangione. Brian reflects on the past year and how it has changed him and his relationship. The two are then joined by adult content creator Guy Woof. Guy talks to Judson and Brian about his crush on John Oliver, his transition from locksmith to porn performer, the business behind having sex on camera, and finding suc...

Judson tells Brian about the night he invited a hookup to stay for dinner, and how it evolved into a beautiful sharing of grief. Brian shares a story about a hookup that went against most of his own rules, in what he views as a culmination of a year of learnings from Judson. They are then joined by award-winning porn actor and social media star Jonah Wheeler. Jonah talks about the “enthusiastic an...

Recorded on December 13, it’s Brian’s birthday! Brian describes his plans to celebrate, which exhausts Judson just by hearing them listed out. Judson shares a glowing review for Ricardo Tavares’ bathhouse-based “Morning Glory” sex party, which led to one of Judson’s top 3 hookups of 2024. The two compare stories of “setting traps” on the apps. They then welcome comedian Sam Morrison to the podcast...

Judson and Brian commiserate over sudden end-of-year demands at work and compare notes on the time they will spend with family over the holidays, including how they each set (or try to set) the necessary boundaries. Judson then educates Brian on the concept of “fraysexuality” before welcoming writer, performer, curator and creator/host of the podcast “Giants in the Sky,” Ben Rimalower, to the show...

Judson and Brian catch up on the Thanksgiving preparations in Brian’s home, compare family rules to keep Sondheim out of Sundays and show tunes away from the dinner table, and recap their experiences recording their first live show.  They then discuss the various iterations of family in their lives - the biological families they grew up with, their nuclear families now, and their chosen, or logica...

It’s Judson and Brian’s first live show! Recorded at The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio’s Redeye NY, a towel-clad Judson and Brian chat about Judson’s 7th anniversary off crystal meth, Brian’s elder daughter’s 9th birthday party, and reviews of Anora, Wicked, and the Broadway musical version of Death Becomes Her before welcoming one of the most influential forces in queer culture, David Lau...

Judson and Brian alternately celebrate and lament the actual arrival of fall as Brian prepares for the coming season of birthdays and holidays in his household, including a fashion show-themed slumber party for his 9-year-old, and Judson prepares for his father’s celebration of life. They then dive deep into an exploration of the ins, outs, highs, and lows of hooking up with men who are not their...

Judson and Brian recap their initial reactions to the election results, including Brian’s escape to the new Broadway musical Maybe Happy Ending and the new movie A Real Pain. Judson shares the music, TV show, and book getting him through the week. They then move into a deeper exploration of Self-Care. They discuss what Self-Care means and looks like for each of them, from finding pursuits that ful...

Recorded this past March (don’t worry, Judson is back on the apps by now), Judson and Brian chat about taking fashion cues from younger generations, making sex efficient, parents’ influence over their kids’ tastes, and go deep into the myth that gay men with money are entirely self made. They explore how each approaches financial responsibilities as married gay men, the relationship between gay id...

Judson shares some very personal news before moving into a recap of his recent trip to Las Vegas. Judson and Brian are then joined by award-winning playwright, author and performer Isaac Oliver. Isaac gives the two a sneak peek into his exciting projects–the upcoming Broadway musical ‘Just In Time’ starring Jonathan Groff, for which he’s co-writing the book, and the upcoming TV series, ‘Etoile,’ A...

Judson and Brian compare their pop diva icons and share their review of the super fun DRAG: The Musical. Judson prepares to be best man at his brother’s Las Vegas wedding and Brian may have met his match when it comes to prioritizing kissing.  The two then go deep into the subject of group sex – the logistics of making it happen, how to make sure each person involved receives appropriate attention...

Inspired by the change of seasons and the approach of the winter holidays, Judson and Brian chat about Jewish Christmas Envy and Judson’s penchant for making matzo balls.  They then celebrate Judson’s wedding anniversary and National Coming Out Day by sharing their stories about how they each came out to their parents. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who asks what to do...

Judson celebrates his patriotism and then elaborates on three curious text messages he sent Brian over the course of the week.  Brian tells Judson about taking his family to Council Bluffs, Iowa, to see Chappell Roan in concert. The two are then joined by the amazing Molly Roden Winter, New York Times bestselling author of More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. Judson, Brian and Molly go deep into discu...

Judson counsels Brian on his continuing saga of the hookup that just won’t happen. The two are then joined by Dr. Israel Martinez, author of the new book, “Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex.” Israel talks to Judson and Brian about shame and validation, the concept of Responsive Arousal, his own Daddy issue around the pressure to have kid...

Judson analyzes his recent ambivalence about sex and reveals he’s having a “Bottom Autumn.” Brian shares his daughter’s follow-up questions on the sex talk and comes clean about why he may have sounded so jealous on the recent Jealousy episode. The two then compare how they each answer the age-old question asked on the apps, “Into?,” and dive into an exploration of kinks.  They end by offering adv...

Judson receives some unwanted attention.  Brian has “the talk” with his 8 year-old.  Then, Bob Levine, celebrating 69 years as both drag icon Rose Levine and as a denizen of Cherry Grove, sits down with Judson and Brian at the Belvedere Guest House for Men as he prepares for Rose's Green Room 42 debut next month. Subject of the documentary “Roseland: The Ballad of Bob Levine,” Bob lets Judson and...

Brian shares his review of “Beetlejuice Beetlejuice.” Judson recounts how an Instagram ad for mushrooms led to getting his ears pierced. The two then compare notes on their experiences of jealousy and envy in their open marriages. They close by counseling a listener who confesses that neither he nor his partner are all that comfortable initiating sex. Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad...

This week’s episode begins with a celebration of Judson’s home state of Ohio and a post-mortem on Brian’s most recent visit to a sex party.  The two then dive into an exploration of sex while traveling – from the sampling of the sex on offer at various destinations across the globe to how our sexual behaviors, interests and tastes may change while on vacation.  They close with a travel-related Go...

After a chat about exchanging X-rated pics and a shared need for privacy screens, treating children like adults in day-to-day life, and treating adults like children at work, Judson and Brian explore safety concerns and self-preservation regarding hookups. Judson recounts a recent experience when he asked a hookup to leave his home, and things turned ugly. The two then discuss hookups' physical an...

Dads and Daddies goes to Fire Island! Broadcasting from the historic Belvedere Guest House for Men in Cherry Grove, Judson and Brian first compare thoughts on their experiences of Fire Island before welcoming legendary gay nightlife impresario Daniel Nardicio to the podcast. Daniel discusses his life producing and promoting some of the community’s favorite sex-positive parties, bringing stars rang...

Judson reports the exciting news that one of his longest-standing fantasies could be realized very soon. Brian somehow evolves the conversation into discussing his frustration about being left off a text chain with other families planning an outing to the Botanic Garden. The two then enter into an examination of sex parties – how the current state of sex parties came to be, the different categorie...