Dads And Daddies

Brian celebrates a number of firsts when it comes to hooking up, and encourages listeners to lean into new experiences. Judson bemoans hooking up in winter but looks forward to a trip to Steamworks in Toronto. Dads and Daddies stirs up jealous feelings that inspire a listener to try cuckold play with his partner in the Hookup of the Week. Brian and Judson are then joined by Daddy Kylex, one of New...

Judson prepares to celebrate his birthday. Brian attends his daughter’s first fashion show as a designer. Judson clarifies what he means when he uses the term “Duck Toast” to describe a man’s physique. Brian provides an update on the effect Lexapro is having on his sexual performance. The Hookup of the Week follows the international adventures of a listener who has opened his marriage after more t...

Brian reflects on the past year and shares his wishes for the year ahead. Holiday brain leads Judson down a rabbit hole reminiscing about the tabloid news of the 1990s. The Hookup of the Week features a validating public massage experience that opens up conversation between the listener and his husband. Brian and Judson are then joined by TikTok’s favorite anti-ICE activist and immigration attorne...

Judson and his husband host an engagement/tree-trimming/Shabbat celebration with a Halloween theme. Brian and Judson’s husband have a clandestine meeting without them. Brian thinks he may have come out to his mother about his open marriage. A listener provides some important context around the use of SSRIs. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener sharing a favorite memory of some public group...

Judson enjoys a hookup that goes past the typical twenty minutes and returns to his favorite gay event at his local bathhouse. Brian spends an evening with the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and tries to entice Judson to check out the show. The Hookup of the Week is a twofer from a Daddy who enjoys public sex. The two are then joined by rising Broadway star Jimin Moon, and returning guest Will...

Judson attends the Christmas Spectacular starring the Radio City Rockettes for his first time. Brian is asked to define some key sexual vocabulary terms by his daughter. The two celebrate being named a 2025 Marathon Show, Talked About Show and Most Shared Show by Spotify. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who has found his role helping people explore their versatility. After the break,...

Judson is riding high from a health rebound and a proud week at work. Brian’s daughters surprise him by saying and doing a number of things that speak both to their maturity and to their being raised by gay dads. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener at the start of opening his marriage, who shares a fun night out with his husband and others during their anniversary trip to Puerto Vallarta....

It is a momentous occasion when Judson wears an entirely black outfit. Brian takes his family to the fantastic new revival of The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee off-Broadway, where his daughter joins the cast for the afternoon. Judson crowdsources an internship for a new friend he met by chance over ramen. The Hookup of the Week comes from a sub who finds a deeper connection with one of hi...

Brian celebrates his first successful afternoon on the apps in six weeks, applying a lesson from a recent episode and proving a point he's made in others. Judson shares recommendations for Anthony Amiewalan’s novel Eddie & Alan , Michael Finkel’s biography of Stéphane Breitwieser, The Art Thief , Kaveh Akbar’s novel, Martyr! , and Nicholas Colia’s film, Griffin in Summer . Both hosts are tickl...

Brian and Judson celebrate the victory of mayor-elect Zohran Mamdani and the fact that friend-of-the-podcast Brandon Kyle Goodman has extended their run in HEAUX CHURCH off-Broadway at Ars Nova through November 21. Brian raves about the Broadway play Liberation by Bess Wohl. Judson's trick is a treat on Halloween. Brian prepares for a sex party by listening back to his own advice on a previous epi...

It’s Dads and Daddies’ 75th episode! On it, Judson enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor and accompanies him to see comedian and artist Max Wittert perform. Brian looks forward to ending his hookup drought by attending his first sex party in months. Judson and Brian both reiterate their encouragement to all Dads and Daddies listeners to watch Netflix’s Boots, particularly after the Pentagon put o...

Judson and his husband celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, while Brian and his family discover a free gallery show featuring original works by Basquiat, Haring, Koons, Mapplethorpe, Sherman, Warhol, and more. The two hosts each go without physical release for longer than usual and expound on the joys of refraining. Brian then experiences a moment of undeniable div...

Judson’s return from a trip to Southern California inspires a comparison of Los Angelenos and New Yorkers, and a conversation about how both Judson and Brian’s husband Toby are able to convince most who meet them that they are chill, when their husbands know otherwise. Brian observes Yom Kippur with Judson’s husband, and learns some words of wisdom that help him gain some perspective on how to exi...

Brian tests whether or not he can make a hookup happen in the limited time available to him while his daughter is at an appointment. Judson crosses state lines for a hookup and receives a cultural education. Brian’s family enjoys a week of the arts–a Chappell Roan concert, the Mamma Mia revival on Broadway, and the Gabby’s Dollhouse movie–and he provides his thoughts on each. Judson feels the “Hoo...

Judson recounts a weekend trip upstate and forgets an unforgettable hookup. Brian envies his husband’s incredibly successful week of hookups, one so plentiful it allowed him to forget one, too. The two then commiserate about the preparation required for bottoming. Brian discusses his tenth trip to see ”Oh, Mary!” and his fifth Mary, Jinkx Monsoon. Judson explains why he chose a trip to Arkansas to...

Judson accepts a job offer and feels deep appreciation for all the support he received over his past few weeks of unemployment. Brian has found a new love in a sandwich he’s discovered near his office. Brian and Judson express their love for the trans community and ask how they can be best of service in these times of incredible oppression. The super-hot Hookup of the Week comes from a listener wh...

Judson gets his first tattoo and shares his feelings about hooking up with dog owners. Brian experiences a near-perfect hookup minutes before enduring a far-from-perfect parenting moment. They listen to a short-and-sweet Hookup of the Week that, while quick, was a year in the making. The two are then joined by psychotherapist and musician Darrell Martin. Darrell’s journey takes him from New York’s...

Judson enjoys a restorative night to himself. Brian bemoans his recent difficulties making hookups happen. The two share thoughts about keeping sex with their husbands steamy after more than a decade of marriage. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener flying some particularly friendly skies. Brian and Judson are then joined by Vanity Fair culture writer Chris Murphy, making his return to the podc...

Judson meets a possible long-lost relative during his very own Hookup of the Week. Brian gushes over Morgan Bassichis’ one-man show, ”Can I Be Frank?” and finally scores his seventh review on The Blowers. The two learn that elementary age kids have caught onto the fact that ‘Daddy’ has sexual connotations. Both are turned on by the voice that delivers this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the W...

Judson shares a significant life update with both pain and optimism while Brian goes on a perfect date. A listener submits a Hookup of the Week in which he experiences Judson’s definition of Daddyness. They are then joined by actor, writer, comedian and star of his own off-Broadway solo show, ‘Ta-Da!,’ Josh Sharp. Josh talks about how fun it can and should be to live outside the norm as queer peop...

Judson and Brian celebrate the return of their husband and daughter (respectively) after three weeks apart. Judson feels his age taking in the fashions at a Bushwick dance party, while Brian feels his age due to the constant medical upkeep his body suddenly requires. The two are touched by a Hookup of the Week, submitted by a listener who credits the podcast for its inspiration. They are then join...

Brian gleefully becomes a Provincetown convert and extols the virtues of Family Week. Judson shares two recent learnings about language. Together they follow a listener’s incredible adventures while traveling on the ”Hookup of the Week.” The two are then joined by Rabbi Jason Klein, senior rabbi at the largest LGBTQ synagogue in the world, Congregation Beit Simchat Torah in New York City (not to m...

Judson and Brian beat the heat by hunkering down in the basement to answer another set of Go Ask Your Dad questions from our listeners! But first, Brian and Judson each negotiate rules with their husbands for running “sexy errands” during their respective trips to Provincetown. One listener educates Brian and Judson on gay car enthusiast culture, while another educates them on the proper terminolo...

Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new...

Judson is taken out by a stomach bug for a couple of days. Brian attends the sex party he expressed nerves about in last week’s episode. Together, they enjoy a listener-submitted  “Hookup of the Week” with a twist. Brian and Judson are then joined by DJ James Anthony. Known as host of the weekly “Get Into The Groove” on SiriusXM’s Studio 54 channel, and for his monthly Saturday residency at the ic...