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Can a man truly grow in holiness without growing in friendship? Kaleb challenges the individualistic mindset many Christian men carry—and shows how friendship is not just helpful, but essential for spiritual maturity. Drawing from John 15, the life of Jesus, and examples like Augustine, he unpacks the truth that holiness and friendship are inseparably linked. If you’ve felt isolated, self-reliant,...

In this episode Kaleb narrates how anxiety, looping thoughts, and self-condemnation can pull us away from the moments that matter most. While watching his son overcome fear at a waterpark, Kaleb found himself mentally stuck—replaying frustrations, doubts, and failures. Through John 14:27, he reflects on the kind of peace Jesus gives: not escape from life’s storms, but presence within them—a peace...

Many wrestle with the image of God in the Old Testament—how can the same God who loves and weeps in the New Testament also command war and destruction? In this episode, Chris Hilkin tackles one of the hardest questions in the Bible: is the God of the Old Testament morally good? Chris walks through five biblical and historical reasons why the conquest narratives aren’t what modern readers often ass...

What has God entrusted to you—and are you stewarding it well? In today’s episode we unpack a powerful biblical theme woven throughout the New Testament: stewardship. From Jesus’ parable of the faithful servant to the Apostle Paul's letters to Timothy, we’re reminded that God is watching how we handle the things He’s put in our hands—especially our homes, marriages, and children. Plus, we share a w...

Many Christians—and critics—wrestle with this difficult question: does the Bible support slavery?  Chris Hilkin discusses the  most misunderstood and controversial aspects of the Old Testament. He confronts the assumption that God condones slavery by unpacking what the Bible actually says about servitude, justice, and human dignity. Through historical context, Hebrew language insights, and careful...

Many christians  feel unequipped to handle the hard questions—especially when it comes to the Old Testament. Why does God seem so angry? Did He really command entire crowds  to be destroyed? In this episode, Chris Hilkin opens a new teaching series by offering simple, powerful tools for reading Scripture faithfully. He walks through how to understand difficult passages, avoid common interpretation...

How do you lead your family with faith and conviction in a culture that no longer shares your values? In this conversation, Patrick Miller discusses the message of his new book Joyful Outsiders. Joyful Outsiders —a guide for Christian men learning to follow Jesus in a world that feels disorienting, even hostile. He explains why being an outsider isn’t something to avoid, but a biblical identity to...

A new year often brings the desire to reset—not just with goals and routines, but in how we lead, parent, and connect with God. In this episode, Kaleb Allen reflects on the emotional and spiritual weight many men carry coming out of the holidays: feeling off-rhythm, spiritually dry, or unsure how to re-engage. In reference to James 5:17 and Elijah’s prayer life, he calls Christian husbands, father...

What do you do when life falls apart—and you're still expected to lead, provide, and hold it all together? In this episode, Pastor John Onwuchekwa shares his story of unexpected loss, spiritual exhaustion, and the slow, grace-filled process of healing. Through raw moments of grief, relational strain, and a sabbatical that reshaped him, John shows why grief isn’t something to get over—but something...

 In this episode, Peter Ostapko shares how God called him out of banking and into a creative, countercultural ministry: Kinsman Journal. Built around the themes of faith, fatherhood, and work, the journal combines original photography, timeless essays, and deep storytelling to speak to the heart of Christian men. Peter also explains how Kinsman has grown beyond print into live gatherings like Kins...

Most Christian men want to be more consistent—more prayerful, more disciplined, more engaged. But what if the struggle isn’t really about discipline at all? In this episode, Kaleb Allen looks at the life of Daniel to show that lasting spiritual habits flow from conviction, not willpower. It’s not about trying harder—it’s about believing deeper. If you’re tired of starting strong and fading out, th...

What happens when one man devotes his whole life to prayer? In this  episode, Kaleb Allen shares the  story of John Hyde—known as “Praying Hyde”—a missionary to India whose hidden life with God shook nations. Hyde’s devotion wasn’t loud or public, but it was deep, consistent, and marked by sacrificial love. Kaleb weaves Hyde’s story with Scripture, church history, and a connection to Joseph of Ari...

What does it really look like to seek God in the secret place as a way of life? Bob Sorge shares how decades of vocal injury and physical suffering drew him deeper into intimacy with Jesus. Rather than walking away from his calling, Bob chose to lean in—learning to meet God in silence.  Bob and Kaleb explore how the secret place forms men into spiritual leaders, how a father’s hunger for God can s...

In this episode, Jerrad Lopes shares that he is stepping away from ministry. He talks honestly about hidden sin, personal pain, and the need to heal. He talks  about choosing to face what has been ignored. Jerrad explains what led to this point and why rest, confession, and care are necessary. He speaks as a husband, father, and follower of Christ who wants to be whole. If you are carrying quiet s...

In this episode, Kaleb Allen talks about the danger of mixed motives in the Christian life. He looks back at his own early years in ministry and how pride, competition, and selfish ambition tried to shape his devotion. Kaleb reminds us that spiritual disciplines should lead to deeper friendship with God, not performance or status. You’ll learn: • Why some people pursue revival for the wrong reason...

Kaleb Allen opens up about his battle with fatigue, motivation, and what happens when productivity starts to replace devotion. In this episode, he invites men to re-center their hearts and ask honest questions about what they’re really living for. You’ll learn: • Why even good things can distract us from God • What it means to “will one thing” and live with single focus • How the early church mode...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with Laura Wifler, co-founder of Risen Motherhood, about what it really means to parent through the lens of the gospel. They discuss marriages, emotional labor, disability, and what it looks like to lead your home with grace and intentionality. You’ll learn:  • Why unseen tasks in the home matter so much to your wife  • How gospel-centered parenting changes your tone...

In this episode, Jerrad and Chris Hilken answer listener-submitted questions on birth control, vasectomies, salvation before Jesus, masturbation, and how to talk to your kids about sex. They offer  biblical support for dads who want to lead with wisdom today. What You’ll Hear:  A biblical framework for birth control and family planning  Why delaying kids can sometimes lead to spiritual drift  How...

In this episode, Kaleb Allen and Seth Baumgartner  talk about what it means to follow Jesus through  difficult seasons. They reflect on the life and journal of missionary David Brainerd—a man who deeply struggled with sickness, depression, and loneliness, yet remained faithful to the end.  What You’ll hear: • Why Brainerd is considered a model of gospel perseverance • What it means to be honest wi...

Jerrad talks with David Pollack, former NFL linebacker, ESPN analyst, and host of the Family Goals podcast. They discuss what it means to raise kids in a culture focused on performance. David shares how his career-ending injury shaped his faith, how he leads at home, and why his kids don’t have to earn his approval. You’ll hear: • What David learned about identity after football • Why performance-...

In this episode, Jerrad and Chris continue their Q&A series by answering more real questions from listeners. In this episode, they talk  about addiction, divorce, friendships, and how to interpret parts of the Bible.  They discuss how to take sin seriously without falling into shame, and how to lead your family with clarity and conviction. What You’ll hear: • Can you lose your salvation if you...

Kaleb Allen continues the wilderness series by reflecting on how God meets us in our most restless and uncertain seasons. He looks at Moses’ burning bush moment and the prison writings of Dietrich Bonhoeffer to show how clarity often begins with surrender.  What You’ll hear: • What Bonhoeffer’s poem “Who Am I?” teaches about identity • Why God tells Moses who He is before saying who Moses is • Wha...

In this episode, Jerrad continues the conversation about emotional health, spiritual lies, and what it means to lead your family when life feels heavy. He shares how a difficult week brought up insecurity, discouragement, and a sense of weariness.  Jarred, encourages you  to slow down, examine your heart, and be honest about the lies you’ve been believing. What You’ll hear: • How to recognize when...

Jerrad and Chris continue the Q&A series by answering real questions from listeners about sexuality, salvation, communion, and what happens after we die. Chris Hilkin gives pastoral and biblical answers to  these  issues with truth, and compassion. What You’ll hear: • How to forgive yourself when you still feel ashamed • What the Bible says about being gay and going to heaven • Why identity ma...

 Kaleb Allen continues the wilderness series by looking at the moment Elijah hit his limit. After calling down fire from heaven, Elijah finds himself in the desert, exhausted and ready to quit. Kaleb shares what it looks like when men hit that same place and how God responds with rest, care, and quiet direction.    What You’ll hear: • Why Elijah collapsed under a broom tree after his biggest victo...