Curious Conversations About Sex

Today, we’ve got the second part of a conversation with Lee Harrington and Euphemia Rustle about all sorts of things to do with gender.  And in particular, how we can all get along more, regardless of how long we’ve been immersed in gender-diverse thinking.  We’re pretty much just going to drop you in in the […]

…From there, this conversation rolls into topics relating to trans and queer identities, how we as individuals cope with a world that doesn’t always understand our identities, and how much things have evolved. All this, without creating the illusion that there’s one simple answer to these questions, that we all agree on. Because there’s not. […]

Today, we’ve got the third of a three-part conversation about safer sex.  Issiah McKimmie and I continue chatting about the detailed pragmatics, as well as the broader communication and psychological issues.  We start with dental dams, move onto safer sex strategies for kinky play, and finish on the role of shame in STI conversations. Isiah […]

Wow.  What could possibly go wrong with this sweet, simple little question? This conversation takes in everything from the mundane (such as giving yourself three days after writing an email before clicking ‘send’) through to the profound (such as how the question inspires an existential crisis and pleas to Buddha). Getting sometimes confused and humble, […]

In this episode (the final in a three-part series), Aerie (from Blue Velvet Arts) and Rog (from Curious Creatures) go through the questions on the Curious Creatures Consent Cards in detail.  New and old players alike will find plenty in the way of juicy perspectives and personal stories about lessons learned the hard way. The […]

In this episode (second in three-part series), Aerie(from Blue Velvet Arts) and Rog (from Curious Creatures) go through the questions on the Curious Creatures Consent Cards in detail.  New and old players alike will find plenty in the way of juicy perspectives and personal stories about lessons learned the hard way. The questions, are: How […]

In this episode, Aerie (from Blue Velvet Arts) and Rog (from Curious Creatures) go through the questions on the Curious Creatures Consent Cards in detail.  New and old players alike will find plenty in the way of juicy perspectives and personal stories about lessons learned the hard way. The questions, are: How are we doing? […]

Discuss: Consent is not ‘sexy’; consent is a human right. You either have it, or you don’t, and saying it’s sexy confuses the issues. To discuss this topic, Rog (from Curious Creatures) is joined by: Dossie Easton – author of The Ethical Slut (and various other progressive sexuality books), and counselor and relationships coach based […]

Want to hear some really good, genuine, down-to-earth players talk about what they think makes for a good dominant?  …Tune in to this one folks, for some of the most smoothly delivered and honest appraisals of what power-play is all about. Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Aerie, from Blue Velvet Arts, who runs […]

What’s your number one sex move?  Is it a little wriggle with your finger at the right time?  Something you do with your tongue?  Or something entirely psychological? To answer this question, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Cath Carter:  Renowned sex therapist, counselor, and couples and singles coach.  Cath has been in the […]

Getting deep into the subtleties of polyamory (and open-relationships and non-monogamy, generally), tune in to get the combined wisdom of 70 years of combined experience! This conversation goes into the subtle ways we sometimes use agreements to control one another, or avoid facing what  we don’t want to see within ourselves.  It also includes information […]

In a conversation including consent (for a change!), safety, techniques, and the psychology of the way different people learn, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Aerie, from Blue Velvet Arts, who runs accessible and fun workshops on kink and communication in Melbourne, Australia. Beejay, from Eagle Leather (in Abbotsford, Melbourne) – for all your […]

Does sex denial work well as sex education?  Can you rely on what your schoolmates tell you in lieu of sex education? When did you first learn about ‘consent’, and that some of what had been happening to you was ‘non-consent’? Was it embarrassing, when you realised that what you’d learned from porn was partly […]

What follows is a very special conversation about Vaginismus, from the very personal perspective of three people with direct experience of the condition.  Their stories are at times focussed around practical solutions that have worked for them, but mostly the therapeutic and interpersonal nature of their experience.  They’re not claiming to be experts on the […]

This is one of the great myths about sex – that our sexuality is essentially a wild, out of control beast waiting to consume us whole, the moment we let it off its leash.  We have been taught, from so many places, to keep it locked down and not explore our interests. Which begs a […]

This conversation takes in aspects of sexuality that are important to everyone, but especially relevant to those of us that are aging (or planning to do so in the future). Topics range from body positivity, to theoretical constructs around sexuality, to beautifully frank and specific suggestions and strategies. Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by […]

Why is violence suddenly meant to be okay if someone’s wearing a ball-gag?  What’s misogyny / misandry play?  How does slut-shaming fit into all of this?  And is this going to be another conversation ending in a discussion about consent? To answer these questions, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Aerie, from Blue Velvet […]

“My partner and I used to have sex, but not anymore, and I’m not even sure I want to, but I do still love them; any advice?” What happens to sex that started out so wonderfully, but then trails off into the distance?  Does that pattern happen to everyone?  Is the solution to accept the […]

“I hate my body.  I can’t stand to have it seen naked with the lights on.  How am I ever meant to have sex?” To answer this most vulnerable of questions, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Cath Carter:  Renowned sex therapist, counselor, and couples and singles coach.  Cath has been in the field […]

The team deserves a gold star for just defining this complex issue! What follows is loads of great advice about the subtleties of the interplay between a dominant and their submissive – or is a submissive, and their dominant? This conversation scrolls through everything from bratty behavior to the possibility that submission is not appropriate […]

…Not that there’s anything wrong with that! But yes, if you need it to be about more than simple hedonism, then we’ve got your back.  It’s about self-development, it’s about relationship skills…  It turns out, it’s even about politics and war and peace. To explain how, Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by: Anne Hunter, a […]

Rog: “It was such a delight to tackle this very difficult question with Lorraine and Charlotte. Their perspective and insight and willingness to feel the humanity of the issues was relieving… special. The world is a better place for their understanding and willingness to engage”. Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by: Lorraine Pentelow – […]