Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men

You’re helping out, being thoughtful, trying to be a good man—so why does sex still feel distant, cold, or transactional? In this episode, I unpack why obligation sex leaves both partners feeling worse… and how you can shift from pressure and rejection to real connection and intimacy. We’ll talk about what’s really going on when sex becomes a transaction, why rejection stings so deeply, and how to...

If your marriage feels stuck, cold, or disconnected, this episode will help you see why. The truth? Your wife isn’t the only issue. Even if she’s distant, critical, or shut down, there’s more going on - and you have more power than you think. This week, I’m talking about what it really means to take ownership in your relationship - without taking all the blame. I’ll share what emotional...

You work hard. You provide. You push yourself to do more—because deep down, you’ve been taught that your worth is tied to your productivity. But what happens when doing more still doesn’t feel like enough? In this episode, we’re talking about the hidden cost of overworking—how it disconnects you from your family, your peace, and even yourself. I’ll share what I saw in my own marriage, what I hear...

She says you should just know . You ask what’s wrong, and she says, “If I have to tell you, it doesn’t count.” You’re trying. You’re not trying to fail. But it feels like you can never get it right. In this episode of Create More Intimacy , I’m breaking down what’s really going on when your wife says things like that—and why your well-meaning responses might be making it worse. We’ll talk about wh...

If you’ve ever thought, “This would be so much easier if she would just change,” this episode is for you. You’ve backed off. You’ve done more. You’ve kept the peace. And still - you feel unseen, unwanted, and like you can’t win. So what now? In this episode, I talk directly to the man who’s feeling stuck. We unpack why waiting for your wife to change doesn’t work, what’s really happening when...

You were never taught how to feel - only how to hide. Maybe it was your dad, your coach, or just the way people looked at you when you got upset… but at some point, you got the message loud and clear: “Toughen up. Don’t cry. Handle it.” And you did. But that came at a cost. In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional toll of being taught to shut down - how it shows up in your marr...

Some couples fight. Others go silent. Either way - conflict without connection just leaves you both feeling more alone. In this episode, we’ll break down what’s really happening when your arguments go nowhere (or never even start), and how conflict, handled poorly, pushes emotional intimacy even further out of reach. You’ll learn: Why conflict in your relationship often leads to disconnection...

Let’s talk about emotional immaturity - and how it’s showing up in the way you communicate. If you give your wife the silent treatment, if you crack jokes that are actually criticism, if you pull away when things get tense - or explode when you feel cornered - this episode is for you. These patterns might feel normal… but they’re not harmless. They’re slowly creating the very distan...

Ever find yourself snapping at your wife - or pulling away - then wondering, “Why did I react like that?” You don’t want to lose it, but it keeps happening. And afterward, the silence or shame just deepens the disconnect. In this episode, we’ll unpack what’s really going on underneath those outbursts and emotional shutdowns. You’ll learn: Why your reactions feel bigger than the moment Ho...

If you’ve ever felt disappointed on Father’s Day - or any day that was supposed to be about you - this episode is for you. We’re talking about the quiet frustration that comes from feeling overlooked… and the surprisingly powerful shift that happens when you simply ask for what you want. In this episode, I’ll share: Why waiting for someone to “just know” rarely works A personal story abo...

In this short opening episode, I want to talk to the man who’s been carrying a quiet frustration. The one doing his best - but still feeling like the intimacy is gone. Maybe you’re barely having sex anymore. Maybe conversations feel distant, shallow, or nonexistent. Maybe you feel more like her roommate … or her employee … than her husband. You’re not crazy for wanting more. You’re not needy....

If you keep hoping your wife will change - how she responds, what she gives, how close she feels - you’ll keep getting stuck. The truth is, waiting for her to shift first usually leads to resentment, distance, and disappointment. In this episode, we’re talking about why your marriage won’t change unless you do - and why that’s not a burden, but an opportunity. You’ll learn: Why she...

You want more appreciation, more intimacy, more connection… But what does she want? In this episode, we’re breaking down the three things your wife actually wants from you - not just in theory, but in your day-to-day dynamic. And no, it’s not about being perfect or guessing right every time. You’ll learn: The real reason she seems “checked out” or hard to please Why your efforts might feel ig...

Welcome to the Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men If your marriage feels distant - like the intimacy is gone, conversations are shallow, or you're more like roommates than lovers - this podcast is for you. Each week, certified relationship coach Alisa Stoddard shares real talk and practical tools to help high-achieving men create the trust, connection, and intimacy they’ve been miss...